'Friend' not talking to me over a birthday card, who is being unreasonable?

[Henni19]

Friend of 20 years has stopped talking to me, the reason being I posted a birthday card for her child's 1st bday and didn't write the child's surname on it. I just put the first name and the address.
She apparently found this really offensive to her partner.
What I find offensive is that my young dc haven't received cards from her for about 3 years when they were babies.
I've always let it go but am pretty shocked that she's slating me to others over this and i feel like it's very petty.
AIBU to have sent the card without the surname? In all seriousness I was in a rush as was heading out the door to go on holiday and didn't want to misspell it!

She sounds like a pain in the ass and v entitled

Don’t be upset, just say “it’s ok I won’t do cards next year xx”

How is she a friend?? She sounds deranged

She sounds like a pain in the ass drama queen. Who the hell cares what’s on the envelope? Is she always like this or is it a bad case of PFB syndrome?

This is a joke, surely.

She sounds like rather hard work.

I'd have put the surname on if I knew it, but I really can't see why it is such a massive issue if someone doesn't.

Wtf.
Is she having a breakdown

I’d send her a message “Did you put the surname on my DCs birthday cards?” ‘Friends’ like this really aren’t worth it

Just tell her you won't bother in future. She is doing you a favour not talking to you by the sounds of it. Anyone who decides to stop talking to you who isn't under the age of ten needs to take a walk.

She might have found a missing surname.

I would find it more offensive that my mate was behaving like a big arse.

If this is a serious post.. then she sounds batshit.

Omg she's extremely petty.

Is she usually like that? Has she got a chip on her shoulder about his surname (or has the partner)?

I would gently remind her that it's more than she gives your children and ask if she'd like to leave it there. If she continues, then I'd simply say, unless she wants to apologise, that you aren't interested in hearing from her going forwards.

Blimey, what a weirdo.

She sounds like a massive drama queen and kind of a bitch. Cut her out.

I think I might be tempted to let her know 'it will never happen again'. Then don't contact her again.
So immature of her I really couldn't be bothered with someone who thinks like that.

Sorry - she might have found a missing surname offensive….

I'd guess there's been some drama over what the child's surname should be and this is actually nothing to with you.

I think you should celebrate having one less twat in your life.

Bleugh, she's not your friend.

Oh I couldn't resist saying sorry about that but hey, at least I send your child cards. 🤷‍♀️

Just go back at least I sent them one, unlike you with mine

Then move on she is not worth the time

This isn't out of character for her, she has form for being very work but I've always tried to be there for her.
I honestly don't know how to handle her. I feel like over the years I've been so patient but to be willing to lose a friend for such trivial things blows my mind. She is slating me to our other friends but hasn't said anything directly to me, or acknowledged the card.

@ClemDanFango

I think you should celebrate having one less twat in your life.

Haha. I actually said to my DH that in a way I feel like a weight has been lifted! Which is kind of sad after 20 years 🤷‍♀️

That’s a weird reason to stop talking to someone. Sounds like there’s other stuff in the mix too?

@Henni19

This isn't out of character for her, she has form for being very work but I've always tried to be there for her. I honestly don't know how to handle her. I feel like over the years I've been so patient but to be willing to lose a friend for such trivial things blows my mind. She is slating me to our other friends but hasn't said anything directly to me, or acknowledged the card.

Ugh, off she fucks - good riddance to a bad friend!