[quote burritofan]For those talking about giving a spare room to a refugee, my friend did this a few years ago and wrote about the experience. It’s not a case of signing up and a stranger lands on your doorstep – you’re introduced first:
www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/may/13/i-gave-a-room-in-my-house-to-a-refugee-now-shes-like-my-sister[/quote]
Yes, you're introduced, you have time to think about it and back off if it isn't right. The refugee and you both sign up to a list of house rules (eg respecting space, they aren't allowed to have people in the house, they can't use your address for stuff). Also if you feel at all uncomfortable with the person, you can stop hosting immediately. The agencies that place them check in with you to make sure everything is ok, the agencies that work directly with the refugees will check to make sure everything is ok. You don't have a random person turn up on your doorstep that you have to do everything for unexpectedly!
All of the people we've had stay are so reluctant to impose on us. They just want to get on with their lives and are stuck in an awful system.
As for the whataboutery of "would you do this for a homeless person", if there was a similar scheme that meant their background was checked and they were being given full support to get back on their feet whilst they stayed in my home - then possibly. Would I just walk up to someone on the street and take them home? No, I'm a lot more risk averse than a lot of people on this thread seem to think I am.
I recognise it's not an option for a lot of people, I'd feel a lot less comfortable with hosting men if I was single. It's not obligatory - you don't want to volunteer, fine, no one is forcing you into it! It's a privileged position to have the space to be able to do it and not everyone is ok with other people in the house. Half of MN don't seem to like guests for a coffee, let alone staying over.
But they're people. They could be your son, daughter, brother, sister, parents etc. They've had to flee their homes in fear for their lives - imagine that was you, wouldn't you want wherever you ended up to not immediately just reply with "we don't have space for you"? They don't necessarily want to come here, they want to be at home and alive and free.