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Rule given to be a God Parent

114 replies

Idiotalert · 16/08/2021 12:27

I don't know whether to laugh or cry.
My DD has been asked by her friend to be a God Parent to her child.
This Friend has stipulated that all the GPs have to agree to see the child on Mondays Wednesdays and Saturdays
or Tuesdays Thursdays and Sundays.
Must agree to take said child away at least once a year. And she wants it in writing. Also proof that they were baptised
in a church. This friends wedding had silly ideas and now this. One bridesmaid was told that she needed to loose 3 stone
or not be one. Her mum wasn't in hardly any photos as she wasn't stylish??? No children at the wedding.
DD explained that as she works full time has 3 children of her own will not be able to be a GP.
Friend has now cut off DD and 2 others from the list.
Is this what the world is coming to.
I can understand that she wants people in her child's life but these rules are ridiculous.

OP posts:
cstaff · 16/08/2021 12:59

You say you don't know whether to laugh or cry. If this was me I'd be laughing right in her face. I'm not surprised she was a bridezilla. It all makes sense. Your daughter has had a lucky escape 😆

m0therofdragons · 16/08/2021 13:00

That’s mad but I am gutted my dc God parents don’t even send a birthday card for my dc.

AngryWhompingWillow · 16/08/2021 13:00

This reminds me, about 5 years ago, a work colleague of my DH asked him and me to be their grandaughter's Godparents, as we seemed like a 'solid couple.' Married for over a quarter century, not like most others she knew who were divorced, or never married.

I had never even met the woman's daughter, (the mother of the baby,) and I had only met HER 3 or 4 times in the 18 months she'd worked there. She asked DH - and he said 'yes OK then...' I said to him 'you have to be fucking kidding me!' He said 'oh why not? Seems like a nice thing to do.' I said 'I don't know the woman, and I have never even met her daughter. I couldn't pick her out a bloody police line-up. So no fucking way!' Hmm

This colleague of DH's was so pissed off and annoyed, and messaged me on facebook (not on my friends list, but messaged anyway,) and said 'why have you talked your DH out of you two being Godparents?' I said 'I barely know you, and I have never even met you daughter, so sorry, but it's a definite no.' She said 'well you're not invited to the Christening then' and blocked me on facebook! 😂

She also flatly ignored DH at work after that whenever she saw him. Luckily she left after another 2 or 3 months.

tl;dr This just reminded me. When some people are looking for Godparents, they go a bit batshit.

WorraLiberty · 16/08/2021 13:01

@MindatWork

This is PRIME daily mail fodder OP, just in case you’re worried about this being shred more widely...
I was just thinking the same thing

Although I expect the OP is the complete opposite of worried.

Chikapu · 16/08/2021 13:01

Christ…
Iv heard of bridezilla but what fresh hell is this?

God(parent)zilla!

StarDrawers · 16/08/2021 13:03

Does your DD know you've posted this?

SingToTheSky · 16/08/2021 13:04

That’s hilarious

luckylavender · 16/08/2021 13:07

I think the baptised in a Church bit is fair enough and sometimes requested by churches. But the rest...

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 16/08/2021 13:08

What kind of salary package is she offering?

Gutted lucky escape that your DD didn't make the shortlist, though.

What an absolutely bonkers person she is!!

muddyford · 16/08/2021 13:09

You do have to be baptised in a Christian church to be a godparent, at least in most mainstream churches. But the rest sounds demanding, to say the least!

Seeingadistance · 16/08/2021 13:10

@LadyJaye

Well, your DD has certainly dodged a bullet there.

I'm 42 and I'm not even very sure who my godparents are/were - I was baptised in the Church of Scotland, so I assume I must have some.

I'd have to ask my mum.

We don’t have godparents in the Church of Scotland, although sometimes people refer to those who support them or accompany them on the day, as godparents.
Notaroadrunner · 16/08/2021 13:13

She's clearly demented. If I were your dd I'd be delighted to have been cut off and I'd make sure she was blocked from ever contacting me again.

ChikiTIKI · 16/08/2021 13:19

How does visiting the child on specific days help with the godparent relationship. Surely they should be looking for quality over quantity, and the kind of guidance they will give the child.

The only thing I would ask of godparents is that they pray for my child regularly. And no other expectations such as visits, gifts etc at all.

MurielSpriggs · 16/08/2021 13:20

a) This is made up.

b) The Daily Mail is shit.

User5827372728 · 16/08/2021 13:24

The proof of baptism bit isn’t weird, most churches require a god parent to be baptised.

The rest is barking mad

Pebbledashery · 16/08/2021 13:25

Batshittery at its finest.

MolyHolyGuacamole · 16/08/2021 13:27

I'm really sorry, I can't believe that anyone would be friends with someone like this. No one is that stupid.

MolyHolyGuacamole · 16/08/2021 13:28

Oh wait to be fair, your user name clues is in

1forAll74 · 16/08/2021 13:29

She sounds brainwashed by some hidden forces somewhere.. You have to keep well clear of some odd bods in society.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 16/08/2021 13:29

Your DD is better off without an egotistical maniac like this masquerading as a 'friend'!

JudgeJ · 16/08/2021 13:33

@DesperateForSun

She’s batshit. Your DD is much better off without this in her life
Is the friend a member of a church or is she looking for an excuse for a party with a pretty background for the social media pictures?
JudgeJ · 16/08/2021 13:35

@User5827372728

The proof of baptism bit isn’t weird, most churches require a god parent to be baptised.

The rest is barking mad

The only place I've known this was in a Catholic Church where at least one GP had to be a confirmed Catholic, they also didn't approve of a gay couple as godparents so they stood on either side!
TatianaBis · 16/08/2021 13:36

Crikey. She will end up with zero GPs.

sloutside · 16/08/2021 13:40

Also proof that they were baptised in a church

This is normal in the Catholic church for example. Some priests will want to see the baptism certificate of the godparent.

The rest is absolute batshit crazy and you DD is well out of it.

Snugglepumpkin · 16/08/2021 13:41

Good luck with that.

My mother picked a very wealthy distant family member to be my Godmother.
My Godmother then emigrated to Australia shortly after & almost never returns to the uk.

I haven't seen her since I was a babe in arms & didn't even know she existed or was my Godmother until this year when she happened to return to the UK for a visit & my mother mentioned it.

Not one birthday card never mind a visit - it turns out she had forgotten she was even my godmother because it's been over 50 years since she last even heard my name.

She is baptised & a practising Catholic though.

My mother can't actually remember who my Godfather is & I truly can't be bothered to find out.
What difference is it going to make?