Rule given to be a God Parent

[Idiotalert]

I don't know whether to laugh or cry.
My DD has been asked by her friend to be a God Parent to her child.
This Friend has stipulated that all the GPs have to agree to see the child on Mondays Wednesdays and Saturdays
or Tuesdays Thursdays and Sundays.
Must agree to take said child away at least once a year. And she wants it in writing. Also proof that they were baptised
in a church. This friends wedding had silly ideas and now this. One bridesmaid was told that she needed to loose 3 stone
or not be one. Her mum wasn't in hardly any photos as she wasn't stylish??? No children at the wedding.
DD explained that as she works full time has 3 children of her own will not be able to be a GP.
Friend has now cut off DD and 2 others from the list.
Is this what the world is coming to.
I can understand that she wants people in her child's life but these rules are ridiculous.

The visiting rules are truely batshit
But the rule about being baptised is a COE one- to be a good parent you need to be baptised yourself. Might be true for catholics too.
Don’t know many clergy who demand proof- most people don’t have their baptism ceritficates, they usually just tell the parents to ensure it is the case and take it in good faith! Given it is a religious role, being a god parent, it isn’t unreasonable to expect that those taking their vows before god at least have some clue what they are signing up to in terms of supporting Christian faith.

I would wonder about the state of her mental health to be honest.

Yep. There clearly is something quite wrong with this young woman. It's quite frightening and sad in a way. She clearly has no social awareness or ability to understand that people have lives and families outside her world.

Eh?! THAT'S bonkers! DD is well out of that situation OP.

So that's three adults being competing to be around the house / taking her DD away every day but Fri, assuming they work standard hours that's from 6pm-8pm? And then three holidays a year that'll she'll also have to fit around?
I'd assume the pregnancy was unplanned but she didn't feel able to end it

@Idiotalert

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PMSL. Tell her to jog on. She sounds unhinged!

Fucking hell I saw my godparent every few years if that

Your poor DD probably won't appreciate it right now, but in the long term her 'friend' had done her a massive favour!

Given your DD has 3 DC of her own I assume she knows she's not the being batshit crazy unreasonable.

Tell DD to enjoy the peace & her own kids!!!

Apart from knowing they are baptised themselves, ridiculous, and yes, I wonder how the child is going to be brought up. I assume the OPs DD will decline.

I mentioned in another thread that my godmother is still someone in my life and I am my fifties. We meet when my godmother visits one of her children who lives near me and exchange Christmas cards. AS I was growing up I received birthday cards and we met more often, but not even once a month.

Must agree to take said child away at least once a year. And she wants it in writing it's not some kind of legal commitment. I assume God doesn't care which days they have their input.

Well, good luck to her with recruiting any godparents who are willing to go along with those requirements. She sounds batshit.

You have to feel sorry for the poor dc. Imagine having a mother like that!

Poor child, they've got at least 16-18 years of living with a batshit mother ahead of them.

I cam understand the baptism bit to some extent as it might be important to her to know the godparents aren't just doing it for show. The rest makes me a bit concerned for her tbh.

You're right @OP. 100% idiot alert. CF of the highest order. Your DD is well rid.

She's completely unhinged! Is this a way of trying to source childcare? Goodness DS' godparents hot away lightly with just a promise to uphold the values of the Catholic Church!

bahahahaha, that's hilarious. i think your DD is far better off now she's been cut out tbqh

This is PRIME daily mail fodder OP, just in case you’re worried about this being shred more widely...

@Aprilinspringtimeshower

The visiting rules are truely batshit But the rule about being baptised is a COE one- to be a good parent you need to be baptised yourself. Might be true for catholics too. Don’t know many clergy who demand proof- most people don’t have their baptism ceritficates, they usually just tell the parents to ensure it is the case and take it in good faith! Given it is a religious role, being a god parent, it isn’t unreasonable to expect that those taking their vows before god at least have some clue what they are signing up to in terms of supporting Christian faith.

My boys were baptised in the catholic church, there is supposed to be one RC God parent, and the others are just supposed to baptised as any denomination with the Christian faith, but nobody had to present their baptismal certificates.

Also, I would be shocked if she can find 2 people who would agree to that. Also, how does she think she could enforce that even if it is written down? What a lunatic

Good heavens.

Why would anyone stay friends with her anyway knowing this is the sort of person she is?

Lol! Just copying these rules to send to my own child's GP, brilliant, the sense of entitlement is breathtaking!

Well, your DD has certainly dodged a bullet there.

I'm 42 and I'm not even very sure who my godparents are/were - I was baptised in the Church of Scotland, so I assume I must have some.

I'd have to ask my mum.

Bizarre. Does she still see her godparents? How does she fit it all in?

At least she's shown her crazy from the start, before your DD has had a chance to bond with the child and then get cut off.

Idiot alert indeed