To want my life back

[FreeTheDove]

Ok it's a long one

XDP and I have 3 children together and he has a DC from a previous relationship.

His DC lives with him full time, her mother isn't around in her life.

XDP and I split after he decided he wanted to be with someone else. He has a GF now.

Now here's where it gets complicated. XDP and DSD still live with me and put 3DC. Separate rooms of course.
I don't know why he is still here but he's making my life a misery. He calls me every name under the sun, shouts at me in front of the kids, moans about housework yet never helps out! Moans about money when I need some financial help because I pay all the bills.
Then he uses it against me saying how I'm never getting a penny again!
He goes and stays out every Saturday with his GF and leaves his 16 year old DD with me who is disrespectful, mean to her siblings, messy and never cleans up after herself or help around the house (yet she moans about housework aswell) she's just like her DF!!

His GF lives with her parents still and apparently they're 'saving for a place of their own' but I can't stand it anymore!!
Im lying in bed right now not being able to sleep because my mind is going crazy with frustration over the whole situation!
I want my life back!! I want to relax in my own home!! If I bring this up he gets nasty and makes me feel even more like shit!!!

Im stuck and I want to be free!!!

[quote letmethinkaboutitfornow]@lannistunut

*Once he is off the tenancy, you will have the right to.

It sounds like you don't want to*

It smells fishy! I agree - attention seeking? 🤷🏻‍♀️ She wants to play the victim while it’s her choice 🤔🤷🏻‍♀️[/quote]
I'm not attention seeking and I do want him off the tenancy and gone.
I'm hardly going to make all this up for a bit of attention
It's a really hard situation for me and it's making my mental health take a hit. He's not an easy going man, he's angry all the time and says nasty stuff

Yes, can see it is tough - but if he wants to be off the tenancy, this can soon be over hopefully.

Are we missing something

He wants to be off the tenancy so I presume he has signed the form (I am also presuming that you have given him the form to sign) and you want him off the tenancy and gone.

So why haven’t you sent the form back?
What is stopping you?

Why are you effectively keeping him tied to you when neither of you want to be living together

What’s stopping you?

He wants to be off the tenancy and you have the form to make that happen... get on with it!