To let the kids go 36 hours in same PJs when I'm ill

[FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop]

Is that gross?

Kids came back from exH's on Saturday with COVID after Ex contracted it.

I tested positive by Monday evening, been fine until about 11pm last night when I felt absolutely floored. Aching muscles mainly but also fever, dizziness and bad cough. Nothing to be alarmed about but I reckon I got one hour of sleep as a result and so when the kids woke at 7am I just made a bed on the sofa and spent the day being horizontal. As long as I was laid down I was fine! I'm still on the sofa.

The only things I've had the strength to do are:
-Go on my phone/sort TV/anything easy I can do with a handheld thing lying down
-Made the kids cereal for breakfast, followed by sandwiches for lunch then I gave up the ghost and got Domino's ordered for dinner.
-Go to the loo
-Put the kids to bed (they are 5 and 9 so this was essentially tucking in and kiss goodnight)

So I didn't change the kids out their PJs all day. They've gone to bed in the same PJs they had on last night - they're well able to change themselves and when I asked them to they farted about upstairs for 20 minutes and came down saying "we can't find the clothes we want" 🙄in no mood to argue, I said fine stay in those. Same tonight, they like the PJs they're in and said they couldn't find any others (I do need to do a washing load so they could be telling the truth, again I'm too ill to care)

Is this what everyone else would do or am I gonna wake with a pair of mutant children with incurable skin disease

@a8mint

Being ill yourself is absolutely the worst thing about having kids. If you tested positive on Monday night, i don't understand how you got it from your kids being at their dad's on Saturday, though? The kids have it too? Did you warn Domino's?

Anything Ds1 has ordered from takeaways has been dropped on the door step and by the time the knock is answered they are at the gate so zero cantact with anyone in the household! OP I read your 1st thread and I'm so sorry your useless ex has put you in this position and I hope you feel better soon

Oh dear op, hope you’re on the mend too. Your ex is a tool he should’ve kept them, now they’re at home with another sick parent & it could’ve been avoided (not your fault)

Mine often have pj days not that long but if I was ill I def wouldn’t push it, let it go you can get them sorted once you’re feeling better. There is no harm going to come to them in pjs for a few days. Some people are so uptight. You can imagine them still keeping a pristine house, cooking meals and being the perfect parent whilst having covid.,.yeah right!! Feel better op!!

Aww Op, I feel for you, hope you make a swift recovery.
I read your previous thread and some of the comments from some posters were just ridiculous.

Sending you (socially distanced) hugs xx

Fewer changes of clothes means less dirty laundry awaits.

Let it slide..."fed and not dead" is your motto for this week!

Hope you feel better soon

Also read your last thread. Hope you feel better soon.

My son walks around naked at home its such a bonus when I'm ill no washing! My other son just wears underpants and my daughter knows how to use the washing machine

I hope you feel better soon

The 9 year old can wash and get dressed by themselves surely? My 9 year old has been doing this for years… I’d imagine the 5 year old can also get dressed by themselves, ask the 9 year old to help them choose some clothes.

Your 9 year old could be a little helper tbh. My 9 year old can make herself lunch and breakfast too, can yours pour cereal and make sandwiches at all? I’d understand this more if you had 2 toddlers but the eldest is old enough to help out a bit.

Yes.

The rule is when mum is ill, they are ill, at their they can go without showers or changing pjs for 4 days

It's a rule as I made it up

Meh your DCs can change their own pjs and if hot and sweaty they will want to . Give them baby wipes to wash themselves down if they won't hop in shower for you and you are too ill to argue.

Exactly what you dreaded happening and predicted would, has happened. Do get through this however you can. Go to Iceland website and order ready meals to put in freezer for microwave to keep you fed. They do bread milk etc too.

For what it's worth , your ex, their dad is an absolute a*se

If you were my friend, I'd be ordering you a home delivery online which included chocolates, tissues, bin bags, paracetamol, calpol and wet wipes and saying FaceTime me for support

Don't struggle alone as your friends and family can help from anywhere in country

I did an Amazon food & supply delivery to mine (I'm CEV) when they got COVID

But also you can do this OP just put on there for delivery men that they have to empty it on your doorstep and step right away as you are COVID positive

@FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop It would be fine even if you didn't have covid. As long as they're not soaked in pee or caked in poo, it realky doesn't matter.

Get well soon!

It’s fine. If they want to change their clothes/PJs they will. They’re old enough to change their clothes.

Mine often stay in PJs if we’re not going out. Or they get dressed to go out then change straight back into PJs when we get home! It’s not as if their clothes are uncomfortable; just cotton joggers/shorts and a T-shirt so I don’t get why they prefer PJs!

Only reason I make them change is to put joggers/shorts on for the garden (fed up of ripped PJ knees) or when they’ve had a bath/shower or if the PJs are visibly dirty eg spilt food/drink on them.

Colour me surprised, you caught covid from your DC 🤬 your ex is a massive dick.

Are you going to be clear before your holiday? I remember you saying you wanted to catch it sooner rather than later but can't remember if you said when you're going on hol

@FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop

More importantly, how was the date???

💐hope you feel much better soon.
Dc are fine in pjs for couple of days or so,though if be tempted to tell them not to suddenly declare in a group of people that "mummy laid on the sofa watching tv and we doesn't get washed or changed for three days and we had take away"😀as mine would have quite happily!😊

Thanks all! Feeling the same so DD is still in the same PJs it I've told her she HAS to get changed after lunch in the first things she finds. Lunch is Subway delivery - god bless UberEats!
DS decided that last night of all nights he'd piss the bed for the first time in 2.5 years 🙄 so I got an hour's sleep before waking at 2am to dry and change him, change his bed sheets, put a wash on etc 😩 took me forever, isn't that just sod's bloody law!

To answer questions:

1. Yes I told the Domino man in COVID positive and to leave it on the doorstep and step away (thank you Ring doorbell)
2. The kids had been with exH all last week so must have picked it up well before Saturday. They tested positive when I brought them home on Saturday, exH didn't test them at any point before that because he can't be doing with them making a fuss about the test 🙄
3. I come out of isolation 2 days before our holiday - phew! Kids a bit sooner so they can still go to their dads in days before the holiday
4. My date was wonderful thank you!! I'm seeing him again the day before we go away when kids are still at their dads, gonna try and make the cinema this time 😂 he offered to drop a chocolate/paracetamol/magazine run round, but I have quite a lot in and the kids don't know about him and they're nosey bastards so I said no

@Hemingwaycat

The 9 year old can wash and get dressed by themselves surely? My 9 year old has been doing this for years… I’d imagine the 5 year old can also get dressed by themselves, ask the 9 year old to help them choose some clothes.

Your 9 year old could be a little helper tbh. My 9 year old can make herself lunch and breakfast too, can yours pour cereal and make sandwiches at all? I’d understand this more if you had 2 toddlers but the eldest is old enough to help out a bit.

She is changed after much persuasion! Although her outfit of choice is a bikini too and fluffy PJ bottoms

Your standards are too high. Your kids are 5 and 9 , it’s time to lower them.

Don’t sweat the small stuff. Ask yourself “ Will it matter in 10 years ? “.

Look after yourself and get well soon.

Her outfit of choice is a bikini top and fluffy pj bottoms

I like her style!

bikini too and fluffy PJ bottoms

that's how my 9 year old rolls too, she's been known to wear a bikini in winter just cos

Can't they dress themselves at those ages?

@Miseryl

Can't they dress themselves at those ages?

There's "can" and "will".

As a single mum who suffers from migraines without any outside help my dd 9 often has to get on with it ! She's great but I don't have the energy to lift my head without being sick, she's been known to stay in her pj's for a few days and eaten cereal, crisps etc !

So pleased to see I'm not the only one!
Pretty sure the kids are gonna get scurvy or something with al the crap they're eating these days 😂

@FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop

Please be kind to yourself
I hope you all get better soon x

I don't mean to be judgmental, and i am not just meaning the op, but christ on a bike, some children are infantilised. By 9,getting themselves dressed when they get up should be automatic. They should be able to make simple meals, use the washing machine and dishwasher. I am genuinely shocked that people allow their kids to wear pjs all day, and the poster whose child wore the same shorts day and night for months without being washed, that really is not ok!tsurely changed her knickers?