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To let the kids go 36 hours in same PJs when I'm ill

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FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 11/08/2021 22:01

Is that gross?

Kids came back from exH's on Saturday with COVID after Ex contracted it.

I tested positive by Monday evening, been fine until about 11pm last night when I felt absolutely floored. Aching muscles mainly but also fever, dizziness and bad cough. Nothing to be alarmed about but I reckon I got one hour of sleep as a result and so when the kids woke at 7am I just made a bed on the sofa and spent the day being horizontal. As long as I was laid down I was fine! I'm still on the sofa.

The only things I've had the strength to do are:
-Go on my phone/sort TV/anything easy I can do with a handheld thing lying down
-Made the kids cereal for breakfast, followed by sandwiches for lunch then I gave up the ghost and got Domino's ordered for dinner.
-Go to the loo
-Put the kids to bed (they are 5 and 9 so this was essentially tucking in and kiss goodnight)

So I didn't change the kids out their PJs all day. They've gone to bed in the same PJs they had on last night - they're well able to change themselves and when I asked them to they farted about upstairs for 20 minutes and came down saying "we can't find the clothes we want" 🙄in no mood to argue, I said fine stay in those. Same tonight, they like the PJs they're in and said they couldn't find any others (I do need to do a washing load so they could be telling the truth, again I'm too ill to care)

Is this what everyone else would do or am I gonna wake with a pair of mutant children with incurable skin disease Grin

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Lindy2 · 11/08/2021 23:10

When DH and I had Covid I have no idea what clothes my kids were wearing. They're a bit older than yours but clean clothes wasn't something I even gave any thought to.

I'm afraid my Covid parenting only went as far as:

  1. keeping then fed (DH ordered a massive pizza delivery that fed them for about 3 days abd helped us through the worst stage of the illness).
  1. hoping they didn't injure or kill each other whilst largely left to their own devices when we were too poorly to do much more than lie in bed or on the sofa.

We all got through it ok in the end.

I hope you feel better soon. Just get as much rest as you can and really don't worry too much about the fact you can't parent like normal until you are feeling better. They'll be fine.

Lougle · 11/08/2021 23:16

The kids would be fine after 2 weeks in PJs. 3 days is absolutely fine. It's no big deal. What matters is that you spend what little energy you have doing what's important. I hope you're better soon.

saveyourbreath · 11/08/2021 23:19

Nah dominos and pyjamas? They’ll be hoping you take Covid more often Grin

Hope you feel better soon Flowers

FWIW I had food poisoning when my kids were 12 weeks and 3 1/2 and the younger one lay under their mobile thing next to me and the three year old sat on the iPad while I crawled up and down the stairs trying to vomit and try to contain my explosive diarrhoea Blush

Theunamedcat · 11/08/2021 23:23

Shame your ex didn't keep this too himself

Tomorrow's lesson learning how to use the washing machine and the just eat app on mummy's phone

Plumtree391 · 11/08/2021 23:28

It won't kill them, Franpani.

I hope you get better soon.

NoNotMeNoSiree · 11/08/2021 23:29

Hope you feel better soon Flowers
Also, the occasional being in their pyjamas all day because you're ill isn't going to do any lasting damage! Smile
I mean, you managed to get them fed and kept them alive, that sounds like a feat in itself when you're feeling like shit Grin
Cut yourself some slack

ThinWomansBrain · 11/08/2021 23:30

worked from home one say last week - finished at 6pm & still had nightdress on.
I survived (I did have a bath and get dressed at that point though).
Hope that you feel better soon

Longdistance · 11/08/2021 23:30

So your ex had Covid thought he’d bring his dc back to yours when they had Covid and mow you have Covid? Did I read that right? He should’ve isolated with them at home if that was the case.

LocalHobo · 11/08/2021 23:32

When I look back on my childhood my DM occasionally got debilitating migraines which would wipe her out for a couple of days. I feel awful saying how much I loved that time when it coincided with school hols. Ate junk and watched TV.

SRS29 · 11/08/2021 23:39

OP perfect mum Flowers hope you feel better soon x

drspouse · 11/08/2021 23:52

@Longdistance

So your ex had Covid thought he’d bring his dc back to yours when they had Covid and mow you have Covid? Did I read that right? He should’ve isolated with them at home if that was the case.
Sadly the rules are that you can move between parental homes while self isolating but he could have refrained from sharing, it's true.
cookiecreampie · 12/08/2021 00:04

I'd ask them to change themselves, wouldn't let them stay in the same clothes for 3 days, no.

NoNotMeNoSiree · 12/08/2021 00:09

I'd ask them to change themselves, wouldn't let them stay in the same clothes for 3 days, no

She's feeling like shit laid up with the 'Rona, they farted about and said they "can't find any clothes" (which is exactly what mine do on a daily basis, drive me mad lol)
I usually go upstairs, locate said pants they were adamant there was none of Hmm right there in the drawer staring them in the face.
If you're ill you're capable of lying on the settee and that's about it.
I'm lucky could yell DH to get them it if needed.
If you're by yourself though, seriously being in pyjamas isn't the be all and end all in the middle of the summer holidays.

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FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 12/08/2021 00:12

@Longdistance

So your ex had Covid thought he’d bring his dc back to yours when they had Covid and mow you have Covid? Did I read that right? He should’ve isolated with them at home if that was the case.
Yes, there was a thread about it last Friday that got deleted as it got quite nasty and aggressive, but long story short: Unvaxxed ex got COVID while kids were at his for the week Was apparently 'really suffering' and asked me to pick them up last Friday (wasn't due to get them til Sunday) despite living 2 hours away and me having to drive on a dodgy road in a storm I was reluctant at first but went on the Saturday so yes ive taken a known risk collecting them

Hey ho.

The previous comments here about him being a dick may be in relation to that thread!

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FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 12/08/2021 00:17

@NoNotMeNoSiree oh my god that's EXACTLY what my kids are like! "I don't have any knickers" Hmm oh really 9yo DD because if I open this top drawer here, where your knickers live and have always lived, there's about 36 pairs 🙄 it sends me absolutely potty.
Or it's "where my orange top?"
Me: "Which orange top? The one with the pineapple on, the one that says 'sassy', the long sleeved plain one or the t-shirt with a pink strip across it"
DD: ".....my orange top"
🤦🏼‍♀️
Disclaimer: otherwise a very bright and studious girl who can solve algebra problems but can't see the shoes that are literally in front of her face

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Bakewellisntjustacake · 12/08/2021 00:49

@FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop I read your other thread I really feel for you xx hope you get some rest and the kids allow you to recover quickly! Just do what you can xx

Longdistance · 12/08/2021 05:35

Yes, he’s a dick. I can see why he’s your ex.
Don’t worry about pyjamas. Hope you feel better soon Flowers

MinnieMountain · 12/08/2021 07:49

Did you at least enjoy your date OP?

a8mint · 12/08/2021 07:50

Being ill yourself is absolutely the worst thing about having kids.
If you tested positive on Monday night, i don't understand how you got it from your kids being at their dad's on Saturday, though? The kids have it too? Did you warn Domino's?

Skybluepinkgiraffe · 12/08/2021 07:53

They'll be fine! They'll get dressed if the want to. Hope you feel better soon!

Northernsoullover · 12/08/2021 07:54

Oh you were the poor poster told to pick up your kids. Well, your ex is an arsehole and the posters who guilt tripped you are bigger arseholes. Now you are unwell. Hope you feel better soon.

phishy · 12/08/2021 07:55

I posted on your original thread saying don’t get the kids until they’re better!

They would have been fine.

Hope you feel better soon. Can you tell him to come pick them up? He must be feeling better now?

WorriedWishingWell · 12/08/2021 08:02

@a8mint

Being ill yourself is absolutely the worst thing about having kids. If you tested positive on Monday night, i don't understand how you got it from your kids being at their dad's on Saturday, though? The kids have it too? Did you warn Domino's?
Why would she inform Domino's? They would have handed the pizza to her at her front door I assume. Unless she gave the driver a hug and a kiss and invited her in to eat the pizza everyone at Domino's will be fine. OP YANBU
SingingInTheShithouse · 12/08/2021 08:14

Perfectly fine, don't stress the small stuff, especially not when you are ill.

If there's anyway anyone can get a hold of some dried Mullien to make tea with... do you have a nearby herbalists, or hippy friend, or can get a next day delivery...

if so this is brilliant stuff for flu symptoms when drank as a tea. We recently dropped some in for our older friends who came down with Covid & we're very ill despite double jab & it was looking like he at least might need hospital. Thankfully it turned out it worked well at reducing symptoms & seemingly shortening the illness in Covid too & it reduced symptoms to a very mild flu type thing

Hope you are better real soon & don't stress the pjs or anything else right now, just get better

Peanutsandchilli · 12/08/2021 08:22

Who cares? My younger daughters often do this in the school holidays. My eldest, autistic daughter sleeps in her clothes every night and getting her shorts off her is impossible sometimes. She once wore the same pair, day and night, for 4 months without them being washed. Now that's gross, but I pick my battles.
Feel better soon!