Looking for a handhold here. I am 28 years old and I was talking to my dad today about property prices in London and the UK (I own a 2 bed flat in London that I bought in 2019 and I was saying I am overpaying my mortgage every month). Note I own the 400k property he is talking about.
This is what he said. I have copy and pasted his exact words, and removed the name of our home country/childhood home names for privacy reasons. These are his exact words, this isn't a troll or a stealth boast. I would say that my parents are wealthy but definitely not ultra high net worth individuals or celebrities or anything in that category.
'anyway all these $$$ is very very insignificant. GBP400K property even if it should appreciate to GBP800K is really not worth bothering about. In the bigger scheme of things the next 30 years, being able to earn GBP10m is what the top 30% of magic circle graduates will be able to achieve esp with this rise in inflation.
the fresh graduates salary will be above GBP100K and most will hit GBP500K after 10 - 15 years. alas for the bottom 50%, it will be tough.property in prime location will be above GBP5m. like what is happening in insert home country now.in 1988, 'parents' first property' cost $550K, 7 years later, sold for $1.7m, today it should be worth $3.5m. what this does not make the owner of a terrace house rich unless he migrate and retire in 'neighbouring country'.property price rise is not the means to secure retirement.being able to secure a professional career with credible wages is the way to growing one's wealth.'
AIBU to feel really sad when he talks this way. If I am honest, it makes me feel like crying. Needless to say DH and I don't earn that kind of cash, we don't have the best jobs though we did go to good universities. We do earn enough for a comfortable life though we probably do need to earn more if we want to upgrade to a 3 bed flat (my next financial goal) or provide well for our future child. I am fine with that, I know it's important to be financially secure. I just feel like a failure when he talks like that, I usually stop responding and often go NC for long periods of time. If I am totally honest, though I miss my home country, I don't often go back more than once a year because it means conversations like this 24/7. When DH and I do go back, we prefer to pay for a hotel just to avoid conversations like this. DH is a native Londoner btw and he isn't really used to this kind of family dynamic. Tbh my dad has always been like this but I think I was accustomed to it when I was younger but since I moved abroad for university and got married, my tolerance level is probably much lower than it used to be.
AIBU for thinking that what my dad says is very hurtful? How should I deal with it? Thanks all. Maybe he thinks it's encouragement but it doesn't feel that way!