To give a bit of background, growing up my parents always liked to go away on a main holiday every year, usually abroad. It was something that was important to them and I have good memories of. My husband never really did this as a child, not because they couldn't but just because different families do things differently and prioritise other things, which is obviously fine but it means my husband doesn't really share the same longing for a yearly holiday like I do!
Anyway, DH has two DC with his ex and we have a DD together.
As a family of 5 it's incredibly expensive to go away in school holidays and so we have never been away abroad together and as my husband isn't as fussed about doing so, he isn't really as interested as me at saving for it. He probably would if I really pushed him but it'd be a struggle.
I on the otherhand really want to start taking DD away and would actually happily do it alone if I had to.
AIBU to prioritise a holiday for me and DD somewhere nice every year knowing that we can't afford to all go?
Ps. Me and DH do not completely share finances, I was really badly burnt by doing this in the past and it's not something I want to do again. We have joint accounts for bills and a savings account for if anything happens to the house but other than that we have our own money and own savings which is how I prefer it.
My step children live with us 50:50 and have never been on holiday with their Dad and me. We have done some very short (one - two nights) UK stays but that's it. It's something he knows I'd definitely do but he's never really been fussed. Admittedly I am definitely more keen now I have DD as I really want her to experience it.