PIL are nice. I get on with them and the kids adore them.
They live just over 2 hours from us. They have both been very ill over the last year or so meaning that we haven’t seen them since Xmas 2019.
Dh and I have a few days off work. We thought about going to see them but neither of them are really well enough to deal with having house guests. They said that when dh discussed it with them.
So we came up with a brilliant plan! Found a lovely hotel about half an hour away. Gorgeous restaurant, nice big pool (both kids are swimmers), lots of fun activities nearby. If in laws are well then we can go by and see them for an hour, a meal, a day, whatever. If they are not well then we will be absolutely fine swimming in the pool and eating posh afternoon tea. We have plenty of money so this isn’t a big deal for us financially.
Except silly dh decided to run it by them before we booked it. And now MIL is saying that maybe they are well enough for us to come and stay. (FIL was tellingly quiet during the conversation.) And of course we don’t need to spend our money on a hotel when they have 2 spare bedrooms.
And now dh doesn’t know what to do.
They aren’t well enough for house guests. Particularly two kids who they will want to play with. And, more selfishly, I was rather looking forward to the lovely hotel and afternoon tea.
Dh needs to act like the man in his 40s that he is and just be blunt here doesn’t he?