So my daughter (11) has spent most of the last week playing outside with her new friends, the neighbourhood kids. From early morning to late evening, I've had to make her come in at lunch and dinner to eat.
This morning I told her we had to go out to the shops for a few hours but she kicked up such a fuss when I went to call her him, calling us 'tw*t' and a 'bitch' so I said because of her behaviour she wouldn't be allowed out when we got back.
I reminded her of this several times while we were out after her mentioning it but when we walked past her friends she kicked up a fuss again, calling names, and throwing things, then snuck out of the house to take her friend a drawing, so I said she would be grounded the next day aswell as she didn't respect my rules...
She was getting very angry saying her friends are the only people who help her calm down so I suggested things we could do instead, then ran her a bath, put some candles etc... She calmed down.
Then once she got out of the bath she kept pushing again asking to go out etc I said the discussion was over and my answer was not changing. She decided to be verbally abusive again and ran off again, after twenty minutes I managed to get her back inside as it's 8 o clock at this point. And she's kicking off again. She wishes we were all dead, she wishes she was dead, trashed her room, said her friends won't be her friends anymore now she's grounded etc.
Was I too harsh in my consequence?
What would everyone else do?
I literally feel like whatever I do I'm in the wrong.
There are definately underlying issues which I'm going to book a gp appt for I think.
Any help is appreciated, I really feel like the absolute worst parent on earth.