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Original poster

My fucking neighbours

74 replies

Besswess88 · 07/08/2021 08:13

Two ladies live next door, each have a son.

The boys share the master bedroom which is the attached side to my bedroom.

The stairs (also adjoining side) are not carpeted as are not the downstairs floors.

I accept there will be noise, I accept one/both children will jump from the 4th from last stair to the ground every fucking time. I accept the children will run around the entire house shouting until 11pm most nights during the holidays, making me sometimes wonder if they are in my actual fucking house.

What I cannot accept, after a hard weeks graft at work is being woken up at 7 fucking am to yelling, singing and jumping around from the adjoining bedroom for an hour which now means I am unable to get back to sleep. FFS Angry

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DearTeddyRobinson · 07/08/2021 08:29

Um - have you spoken to them about it? They may genuinely not realise. If course YANBU to be thoroughly pissed off though

Carthief · 07/08/2021 08:34

Do you live alone?

It’s possible they can’t hear you so assume you can’t hear them.

We used to live in a semi and one day the older lady next door popped round and asked if we could be a bit quieter - I thought she was joking as we’d literally never heard anything from her so why could she hear us - I went next door and honestly could hear bloody everything Shock.

So we were quieter and got some more insulation sorted for the adjoining wall.

I know it sounds stupid but it hadnt occurred to me that we were being a nuisance because I hadn’t heard a peep from next door.

54321nought · 07/08/2021 08:36

if you live in an ajoinging house, you get ajoinging noise - this is just movement noise, nothing you can do about it. If it was loud music, that would be different

userxx · 07/08/2021 08:36

Scream at them to shut the fuck up. They will soon realise how sounds travels.

MuddyStiletto · 07/08/2021 08:39

@userxx

Scream at them to shut the fuck up. They will soon realise how sounds travels.
Perfect Grin
Original poster
Besswess88 · 07/08/2021 08:42

@userxx

Scream at them to shut the fuck up. They will soon realise how sounds travels.
Yeah - I did and banged on the wall with a slipper - didn’t swear though Grin
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Ideasplease322 · 07/08/2021 08:53

Speak to the parents.

I live alone and am really quiet. My last neighbours communicated by yelling at each other from upstairs to downstairs, no carpets upstairs so it was like an echo box. They had loud sex, with bed banging off the wall, and allowed their daughter to run around yelling until midnight.

I was moving at some point to didn’t say anything.

I have now moved and bumped into the lady of the house in Tesco. She was telling me how unbearably loud the young couple are who moved in😂. She can hear every word, every footstep. THey have no consideration, tv loud, etc etc.

I was clearly so quiet they assumed the house had amazing sound proofing.

I did say the walls are exceptionally thin and noise really travels in the house. She didn’t seem to pick up on my point!

Original poster
Besswess88 · 07/08/2021 08:55

@Ideasplease322

Speak to the parents.

I live alone and am really quiet. My last neighbours communicated by yelling at each other from upstairs to downstairs, no carpets upstairs so it was like an echo box. They had loud sex, with bed banging off the wall, and allowed their daughter to run around yelling until midnight.

I was moving at some point to didn’t say anything.

I have now moved and bumped into the lady of the house in Tesco. She was telling me how unbearably loud the young couple are who moved in😂. She can hear every word, every footstep. THey have no consideration, tv loud, etc etc.

I was clearly so quiet they assumed the house had amazing sound proofing.

I did say the walls are exceptionally thin and noise really travels in the house. She didn’t seem to pick up on my point!

This is hilarious Grin
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PersonaNonGarter · 07/08/2021 08:59

‘What I can’t accept is…’

So what are you going to do? Move out? Threaten them? You could try speaking to them. Or insulating your own walls.

Quite often on these type threads the OP is very clear what other people should do to improve the situation but not at all willing to improve it themselves.

FatAnkles · 07/08/2021 09:05

Invite one of the mums around for tea, leaving the boys with the other mum. Once she hears the racket from next door she'll soon make things quieter.

romany4 · 07/08/2021 10:48

I've got a neighbour like this.
9 year old son, a dog and wooden floors throughout. Spoken to the mum several times about the noise and she's just shrugged and said the walls are thin, boys are boys, nothing she can do.
Well, I've got a newborn grandson now who likes to cry. She's not happy about the noise through the wall. Tough shit...
I'll be letting him rampage through my house as he grows...and tell her...boys are boys. Nothing I can do...Walls are thin..

userxx · 07/08/2021 11:00

@romany4 Brilliant 🤣

Lokdok · 07/08/2021 11:22

Kids singing and playing in their rooms at 7 is normal I’m afraid! Children are loud. Maybe insulate your walls?

Dohrehmee · 07/08/2021 11:50

Stick some loud classical music next to the wall at five am. If they complain say at 7 am you keep getting woken up at it’s affecting your nerves. So to preempt this u put the music at five sam to get you into deep sleep.

WorraLiberty · 07/08/2021 11:54

What did your neighbours say when you asked them if they could keep it down a bit?

CatMuffin · 07/08/2021 11:57

Someone will be along in a minute to ask why you don't move to an isolated, detached house if you don't like it Grin

Betty000 · 07/08/2021 12:10

Earplugs?

LakieLady · 07/08/2021 12:13

@userxx

Scream at them to shut the fuck up. They will soon realise how sounds travels.
Pmsl!

That's probably what I would do, tbh.

HarrietSchulenberg · 07/08/2021 12:17

I thought you might have neighbours like mine who fuck very loudly at least twice per day, four times at weekends. Noise is mainly panty, squeally porn sounds from her. All of their curtains are blackouts and they never open them in the day. They only come out to smoke weed in the garden.
We reckon they're making porn -
my kids are older teens so have been having great fun cheering them on.

ClaudiaWankleman · 07/08/2021 12:23

7am isn’t a mad time to be woken up by something (although maybe screaming is something particularly uncomfortable to be woken up by). You’re not entitled to an undisturbed lie in, regardless of how hard you worked in the week.

quizqueen · 07/08/2021 12:33

Every time it gets unbearable, put a very dreary opera aria on really loudly and the boys will soon move out of the bedroom. If they complain, then say you are just trying to drown out their noise with sounds you prefer.
Same as anyone who lives next door to loud sex pests; it will be a passion killer.

KatherineJaneway · 07/08/2021 12:43

My family used to live next door to a couple and the guy used to get pissed on a weekend sometimes and sing opera very loud in the early hours. I think he figured out he was making too much noise when my Mum and I gave him a huge round of applause and kept shouting 'Bravo!' after we were treated to his rendition of Nessun Dorma at 1:30am.

Original poster
Besswess88 · 07/08/2021 13:10

@ClaudiaWankleman

7am isn’t a mad time to be woken up by something (although maybe screaming is something particularly uncomfortable to be woken up by). You’re not entitled to an undisturbed lie in, regardless of how hard you worked in the week.
Seriously?
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MrMeSeeks · 07/08/2021 13:19

You’re not entitled to an undisturbed lie in, regardless of how hard you worked in the week

You what?? If i was being woken up early everyday and i were told i was not entitled to a lie in i would not be as accommodating at night.
My tv and metal music would not be played as quietly as normally at night anymore..

JesusIsAnyNameFree · 07/08/2021 13:22

Ignore ClaudiaWankerman.

7 am is not acceptable. At least control your little rugrats until 8 am, or better yet, 9.