My fucking neighbours

[Besswess88]

Two ladies live next door, each have a son.

The boys share the master bedroom which is the attached side to my bedroom.

The stairs (also adjoining side) are not carpeted as are not the downstairs floors.

I accept there will be noise, I accept one/both children will jump from the 4th from last stair to the ground every fucking time. I accept the children will run around the entire house shouting until 11pm most nights during the holidays, making me sometimes wonder if they are in my actual fucking house.

What I cannot accept, after a hard weeks graft at work is being woken up at 7 fucking am to yelling, singing and jumping around from the adjoining bedroom for an hour which now means I am unable to get back to sleep. FFS

They actually woke me up.

I get up at 7am every weekday.

I don’t want to be actually woken up at 7am on a Saturday and then be unable to get back to sleep because of the noise.

It is noise that I wouldn’t have tolerated my own children making in this actual house.

I also asked them (very nicely) to park on or over their drive in order to give me a chance of being able to park near my house or at least on the sane street.

Then the other day my cleaner was here and saw then outside their house and they clearly know each other and are the same nationality as spoke the same language so I am worried they must already think I am a bit of a princess 🤣🤣🤣. I also didn’t reciprocate their Christmas card (only because I don’t buy/send them).

I had old neighbours in an old house who had young children who would bang on pots and pans at 6am, cry all day long and just generally make a lot of noise. Parents were Totally oblivious of our feelings. I then went through a phase of waking from night terrors and would scream half asleep at 2am and i saw it as karma. So you could do that

I now have young children and thankfully live in a detached house so don't need to apologise to anyone phew

We are loud neighbours. DS has ADHD, plus generally has a very loud voice (we've tried to work on whispering, it's like he physically can't do it.) Next door will definitely be able to hear him when he stomps up and down the stairs, has meltdowns, makes his odd noises (tics) but they'll also be able to hear us asking him to be quiet, trying to calm him down etc. So all I can do is hope that they understand we're trying our best. There's literally nothing else I can do. Believe me, I worry constantly about disturbing them! Especially as they seem to be a very quiet family (we barely hear a peep whereas we've always been able to hear previous neighbours.)

@MrMeSeeks

You’re not entitled to an undisturbed lie in, regardless of how hard you worked in the week

You what?? If i was being woken up early everyday and i were told i was not entitled to a lie in i would not be as accommodating at night.
My tv and metal music would not be played as quietly as normally at night anymore..

What about people who work nights? They have no right to instruct their entire street to be absolutely silent during the day time! They have to take steps to ensure they can sleep during the day! I used to work split shifts, waking up at 2am and coming home to sleep at 8am until next shift. I lived next to an airport (where I worked) and lived in the centre of a market town, above a takeaway, right next to some busy traffic lights. My first floor patio looked over a nightclub beer garden that was rammed until the early hours. My point is, you cannot demand you're entitled to peace & quiet during working hours because you just ain't! Nobody is

@Needapoodle

Being in your own home doesn't mean you get to disturb your neighbours at 7 am on a Saturday. Get a fucking grip.

I've got a grip mate. You need to chill out a bit. small children wake up early and they're noisy. Don't like it, buy a detached house. I'm not going to constantly shush my children for 3 hours to suit my neighbors.

Really glad you're not my neighbour. People know kidsmake a noise, but your entitled attitude stinks

Really glad you're not my neighbour. People know kidsmake a noise, but your entitled attitude stinks

Me and my children are perfectly entitled to make normal noise during daytime hours. So i don't think entitled means what you think it does.

Don't worry about my neighbours though. The day i moved in they told me they must have their lie ins at the weekend and therefore they expect us not to make noise before 10am. What gives them the right to dictate that to me? Who is the entitled one here? My young children making a normal level of noise during daytime hours, or my neighbors trying to dictate to us that we have to be quiet to protect their precious lie ins?

This was not a normal level of noise though, if it was it would not have woken me up.

Could you change rooms?

@ClaudiaWankleman

7am isn’t a mad time to be woken up by something (although maybe screaming is something particularly uncomfortable to be woken up by). You’re not entitled to an undisturbed lie in, regardless of how hard you worked in the week.

A bit of decency and respect for the people we live beside wouldn't be such hard work though.

Would it?

I have young children but at 7am they aren't banging or screaming! They normally watch cartoons whilst having breakfast and then play separately. Obviously during the day when they are playing or fighting with one another they can be loud but soon stop when I tell them too. No excuse for loud neighbours at 7am on a weekend. Speak to them OP.

Also, they aren’t young children, they are both at middle school.

A bit of decency and respect for the people we live beside wouldn't be such hard work though.

I don’t see it as indecent or disrespectful to allow your children to play in their bedrooms during normal waking hours. I find it a bit disrespectful to others to think that you are so important you deserve a silent lie in and blow the rest of them.

7 am is an absolutely mad time to be woken on the weekends, especially if you yourself don’t have a toddler.

I wouldn’t expect my 7 yo to wake me then, or be making in noise to disturb neighbours (although unlikely as adjoining neighbour is deaf).

I would speak to the parents OP. They may not realise.

In the meantime get some silicone earplugs. They’re really good.

I don’t see it as indecent or disrespectful to allow your children to play in their bedrooms during normal waking hours.

7 am isn’t normal waking hours on a weekend.

I don’t see it as indecent or disrespectful to allow your children to play in their bedrooms during normal waking hours. I find it a bit disrespectful to others to think that you are so important you deserve a silent lie in and blow the rest of them

I think it's very disrespectful to allow children to scream and shout at 7am in the morning on a Saturday. I wouldn't do it. But then I don't go out of my way to make things harder for people, and I ensure my children behave themselves or I deal with it.

But I understand theres people who don't understand or care about how they impact on other people. And that's what makes the world a pretty shit place for everyone.

@54321nought

if you live in an ajoinging house, you get ajoinging noise - this is just movement noise, nothing you can do about it. If it was loud music, that would be different

It's not movement noise. That would be footsteps

@Needapoodle

7 am is not acceptable. At least control your little rugrats until 8 am, or better yet, 9.

Fuck that theyre in their own home.

^This, right there, is the problem

This isn’t just “normal” noise (I have brought up 3 fairly rowdy kids).

It is screeching and shouting and singing and what sounds like a game of indoor football and possibly jumping off a set of bunk beds onto wooden floors.

I can’t move my room around as I have built in wardrobes or move bedrooms, nor afford sound proofing, nor move house!!

7 am isn’t normal waking hours on a weekend.

Of course it is. It’s really only not a waking hour for the office workers who have no children.

It’s also definitely not ‘going out of your way’ to just let your children play.

Lazy parenting.

Of course it is. It’s really only not a waking hour for the office workers who have no children.

7am on a weekend might be your waking time, doesn't mean others have to put up with said noise.

@Needapoodle

7 am is not acceptable. At least control your little rugrats until 8 am, or better yet, 9.

Fuck that theyre in their own home.

You’re a joy. I get it that kids make a noise, but parents/carers have a responsibility to bring children up to not be little shits. I would think that 8 or 9 is reasonable on a Sunday. Just don’t let noisy play happen until later. I’d say the times for DIY should apply to general house noise.

I’ve had my neighbours doing DIY from about 7am today... just not long finished. They did warn us, though, as his cousin was coming to help with flooring, and they could only do today. It’s a one-off, and they’re usually decent types, so I’ve sucked it up. If it was every weekend, I’d feel differently.

My battles with the nightmares next door are well documented on here I went to view two properties last week which had exactly the same problem as I do here.

Somewhere society has gone wrong