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Nine years for starving a baby to death

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PropertyFlipper · 06/08/2021 15:07

I’m struggling to see the justice here. This sorry specimen will be out in five years no doubt. Devastating.
Teen mother, 19, bursts into tears as she is jailed for nine years

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Porcupineintherough · 06/08/2021 15:13

Part of me feels there must be some backstory to this, in fact I'm sure there is. But how could anyone treat a defenceless baby that way? How could anyone so devoid of moral compass be given the opportunity to? Breaks my heart.

AngeloMysterioso · 06/08/2021 15:14

Is this the girl in Brighton?

PerfectPrepPrincess · 06/08/2021 15:16

Link to article @PropertyFlipper?

Xdecd · 06/08/2021 15:20

There is a backstory, from what I know from the various local reports, she is a care leaver who was living in supported accommodation. There are numerous other instances of her leaving the child at home alone. More will come out in the Serious Case Review but my impression is the child shouldn't have been in her care, and there was also a massive failure in monitoring on the part of the "supported" accommodation.

ToffeeNotCoffee · 06/08/2021 15:26

Verphy Kudi admitted the manslaughter of 20-month-old Asiah Kudi, who was left at her Brighton flat as she celebrated her 18th birthday in December 2019.

Roselilly36 · 06/08/2021 15:26

Absolutely horrendous case, that poor little one, failed by her mum & the the system. All so she could go and party.

ExpressDelivery · 06/08/2021 15:28

I'd like to know the full story too, it's a tragic story. Presumably there's a father who completely abandoned the child too...

pianolessons1 · 06/08/2021 15:29

yes I think there were significant failings in her monitoring and there is much more to this than meets the eye.

EmbarrassingMama · 06/08/2021 15:31

Another horrific child abuse case this week. It's too heartbreaking for words. That poor, poor little girl.

Porcupineintherough · 06/08/2021 15:32

@ExpressDelivery

I'd like to know the full story too, it's a tragic story. Presumably there's a father who completely abandoned the child too...
Not being involved in a child's life is not the same as assuming responsibility for it, then locking them away in a flat and going off for 5 days. No one - mother or father - need be involved with a child theyve created if they dont want to, for that we have a foster care and adoption system. Hell, you can even leave them at the local hospital w a note. But not this. Never this.
AngryWhompingWillow · 06/08/2021 15:33

Dear GOD! Not ANOTHER child abuse/child death story. I don't think I can take any more this week. Sad

I agree @PropertyFlipper 9 years is nothing. That poor child.

CandlesBlanketsandTea · 06/08/2021 15:34

It's almost unbelievable that this happened. I'm surprised none of her neighbours heard the baby crying. This is truly horrendous and it appears it wasn't the first time. God that poor baby.

transformandriseup · 06/08/2021 15:34

This is awful. A teen mother knows not to leave a baby at home on their own.

PerfectPrepPrincess · 06/08/2021 15:35

God that makes me feel like sick to the stomach. Poor child. SadSadSad

Skysblue · 06/08/2021 15:37

It’s all so sad. I do wonder about the mother’s mental capacity, I suspect with a more highly paid lawyer she’d have gone to a mental hospital, not a prison. Her behaviour doesn’t seem to have been at all rational. Anyone must know that leaving a baby that long will kill it. Yet if she wanted the baby to die doing it this way made no sense. I think she had mentally cracked up. A lot of people seem to be doing that lately, the news is full of violence against women and young children.

It’s a tragedy that the baby wasn’t removed from her earlier/ being more closely monitored, but Britain already has the highest child removal rate in Europe. Very sad and very tricky. I doubt the prison sentence will achieve anything except to destroy her life.

Would also be interested to know why the father wasn’t on trial for abandoning the child…

FionnulaTheCooler · 06/08/2021 15:40

Rosdeep Adekoya only served 7 years for beating her son to death and lying to the police about his disappearance. The system is fucked up.

ExpressDelivery · 06/08/2021 15:41

My friend fosters teens. Every now and again she gets a young (but of age) mum and her baby. It's the baby that's technically being fostered but mum stays with her too. This is what should have happened for this care leaver.

x2boys · 06/08/2021 15:41

@Skysblue

It’s all so sad. I do wonder about the mother’s mental capacity, I suspect with a more highly paid lawyer she’d have gone to a mental hospital, not a prison. Her behaviour doesn’t seem to have been at all rational. Anyone must know that leaving a baby that long will kill it. Yet if she wanted the baby to die doing it this way made no sense. I think she had mentally cracked up. A lot of people seem to be doing that lately, the news is full of violence against women and young children.

It’s a tragedy that the baby wasn’t removed from her earlier/ being more closely monitored, but Britain already has the highest child removal rate in Europe. Very sad and very tricky. I doubt the prison sentence will achieve anything except to destroy her life.

Would also be interested to know why the father wasn’t on trial for abandoning the child…

Maybe the father had no involvement for whatever reason, Which is not the same as leaving a baby with no food or drink for five days.
campion · 06/08/2021 15:41

CandlesBlanketsandTea
She had learned that crying was useless therefore wouldn't have cried. She had been left on 11 previous occasions according to BBC News site.
It beggars belief that they were in supported accommodation. Not much support for the child as it turned out.

Yet another ' lessons will be learned' case review. And then the next one...

Soubriquet · 06/08/2021 15:42

I just wonder how…naive (?) she must have been to think fucking off for 6 days to get pissed, meant that her child would starve and die.

I mean, did she think the toddler would grab herself a sand which whilst mum wasn’t there?

I also wonder how neighbours didn’t hear a young child crying because she must have been scared, hungry, and poorly.

TonkinLenkicks · 06/08/2021 15:46

I cannot imagine the torture that child went through. It’s horrendous.

In one of the articles it said 1/4 of social worker posts were vacant. How the hell can social workers do their jobs if there’s so many vacancies?

CandlesBlanketsandTea · 06/08/2021 15:47

@campion

CandlesBlanketsandTea She had learned that crying was useless therefore wouldn't have cried. She had been left on 11 previous occasions according to BBC News site. It beggars belief that they were in supported accommodation. Not much support for the child as it turned out.

Yet another ' lessons will be learned' case review. And then the next one...

Thanks for clarifying, I definitely hadn't thought of that which makes it even sadder.
hehehhehe · 06/08/2021 15:49

No one - mother or father - need be involved with a child theyve created if they dont want to

I disagree. Men shouldn't get to choose no involvement if their child is with the mother. If this child's father had stepped forward and taken responsibility this single mother might have managed better and a tragedy averted.

Rosieandjim04 · 06/08/2021 15:50

She should go to prison for a long time if you don't want to look after the child there was the option of asking social services to step in.