To call the police? Not sure what to do...

[Livingtothefull]

We can clearly hear the couple next door rowing through the wall, this happens frequently. A couple of times (like today) it sounds as though it is getting really heated and I am actually concerned for her. I could hear him shouting 'Shut up', 'Shut your mouth' over and over again. I heard her whimpering a couple of times as if she might be in pain, and shouting 'Let go'.

I don't feel comfortable just ignoring this, however I am worried about making matters worse if I get involved.

I am worried about the possible implications for me if the neighbours were to know I had called the police or otherwise got involved (horribly selfish I know but my family is v vulnerable for entirely separate reasons and I just can't put us at risk in any way) - but am also worried in case it escalated and I had done nothing.

Please advice what you think I should do here?

If a behaviour needs reporting it needs reporting.

Most domestic bullies are utter cowards outside of their relationships.

I have vulnerable children too but would (and have) called 999 in similar circumstances. What is the perpetrator going to do?!?

Thanks very much for your responses on here. Apologies that I didn't follow up at the time but thought I would update you on here:

I did report this some weeks ago. I don't know whether any follow up action was taken, haven't heard about this either from the neighbours themselves or anyone else.

We do hear their arguments through the wall sometimes, though nothing that has given cause for concern on the scale of the previous ones.. I am always a little on edge in case their rows escalate, because if they do I feel I would need to report it again now the precedent has been set.

They are always perfectly pleasant when we see them....but we know what he (at least) is really like.

Please keep calling.

The ex managed to convince the Police that I was crazy and vindictive the first two times I called them.

Then my neghbours began calling and reporting what he was doing and saying. They actually apologised to me for calling, but I was so grateful to them.

Thanks ChristmasFluff, I will report it again if I have to. I have drawn a line in the sand now.

I hope you are in a better place now too.