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To think this is a inappropriate and embarrassing thing to say?

106 replies

Nomoreminecraftplease · 03/08/2021 18:34

My dh had a shower before dinner today. I was dishing up dinner in the kitchen. Dh had a towel round his waist whilst going from the bathroom to the bedroom. Next things I know lots of laughter and giggling my 13 year old is running down the stairs laughing and said mum mum dad just said mum likes a good flash! Apparently the towel had fallen from his waist and dh said your mum likes a good flash! I was so embarrassed! My boys aged 13 and 15 thought it was hysterical!

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Dita73 · 04/08/2021 03:51

The op is no big deal at all but @NotRainingToday what the hell is he thinking?! That is vile

LimeRedBanana · 04/08/2021 03:59

@NotRainingToday

My DH sometimes cooks a family favourite meal, coq au vin. Every single time, he calls the kids down for dinner by saying "come and get your lips around my coq" They totally eye roll and don't take it as anything other than a crude and stupid joke. They are 19, 17 and 15 (but he's been saying it for years). I genuinely don't think that teenagers care about that stuff.
Did you actually just share that in a public forum?
StoppinBy · 04/08/2021 04:04

I think all the examples here are inappropriate.

A son spinning his penis around at his mother, a man joking to his kids that their mother likes to have penises flashed at her and a father telling his kids to wrap their lips around his cock, ick to all of it.

I am not a prude or sexually inhibited, enjoy adult jokes between friends, happily attend Saints N Sinners balls etc, but the examples are in my opinion adult jokes between friends, not father/child jokes.

CircleofWillis · 04/08/2021 07:20

@NotRainingToday

My DH sometimes cooks a family favourite meal, coq au vin. Every single time, he calls the kids down for dinner by saying "come and get your lips around my coq" They totally eye roll and don't take it as anything other than a crude and stupid joke. They are 19, 17 and 15 (but he's been saying it for years). I genuinely don't think that teenagers care about that stuff.
This would really worry me. I know he thinks he is joking but his boundaries are seriously askew if he thinks that referring to his kids giving him a blow job is appropriate. In fact all your boundaries are seriously askew!
PissPotPourri · 04/08/2021 07:24

What was he supposed to say, impromptu, to hide embarrassment at dropping the towel? Good recovery, light atmosphere and you sound like a complete Victorian prude

Michaelknightsleatherjacket · 04/08/2021 07:36

The coq au vin one is so shocking🙈
Totally astounded at that little anecdote.

MandalaYogaTapestry · 04/08/2021 07:39

@PissPotPourri

What was he supposed to say, impromptu, to hide embarrassment at dropping the towel? Good recovery, light atmosphere and you sound like a complete Victorian prude
He was supposed to say Oops. No need to involve OP's assumed sexual preferences in the conversation with a child
MandalaYogaTapestry · 04/08/2021 07:40

Agree with Stoppin and OP - YANBU

ConstanceGracy · 04/08/2021 07:42

Lighten up ffs

Marmalady75 · 04/08/2021 07:46

I’d just have replied “you wish!” and got on with my day.

Nesbo · 04/08/2021 07:56

So the DH made the very mildest of references to the fact that he and the OP have a sexual life together - something the teenage children will be well aware of (at least as something that used to happen).

It gave them a brief laugh and probably if they really thought about it left them with that warm feeling of reassurance you can get as a kid when you get a sense that your parents love each other and can share fun together.

That is something to be encouraged.

knittingaddict · 04/08/2021 07:56

@NotRainingToday

My DH sometimes cooks a family favourite meal, coq au vin. Every single time, he calls the kids down for dinner by saying "come and get your lips around my coq" They totally eye roll and don't take it as anything other than a crude and stupid joke. They are 19, 17 and 15 (but he's been saying it for years). I genuinely don't think that teenagers care about that stuff.
No, I draw the line there. Incredibly inappropriate and a bit worrying. If you thought that was in the spirit of this thread you have very much misread the room. I'm hoping it's made up.
Northernparent68 · 04/08/2021 08:04

I think the real issue is that your sons are so uncomfortable with male nudity, how do they cope with changing rooms ?

NotRainingToday · 04/08/2021 09:26

@HollyStripes

The ops one was fine but the coq au van one was so inappropriate. I think it's the graphicness towards the children that makes it uneasy. I can't help but laugh at the poster, coming on all jovial and writing that down thinking it's a cute family anecdote Confused
@HollyStripes The OP was about the kids dad saying something inappropriate and embarassing, which the kids didn't care about. So it was more of a 'I hear you, OP, this is what my DH says to the kids' (i.e. even worse, and my kids don't care either)
NotRainingToday · 04/08/2021 09:28

@CircleofWillis
He's not asking the kids to give him a blow job. It's a play on the word 'coq' [which is French for chicken].
Smutty schoolboy humour, yes. Grooming young folk, no.

withsexypantsandasausagedog · 04/08/2021 09:48

[quote NotRainingToday]@CircleofWillis
He's not asking the kids to give him a blow job. It's a play on the word 'coq' [which is French for chicken].
Smutty schoolboy humour, yes. Grooming young folk, no.[/quote]
I think everyone knows there was an intended pun😂 It is still gross

BrilliantBetty · 04/08/2021 17:48

@NotRainingToday

It's a play on the word '*coq'
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Yes we all realise this. But it is still fucking revolting that he says come get your lips around my coq. To his children. Incredible Confused

BuckarooWithBruceGrobelaar · 04/08/2021 17:57

@NotRainingToday

My DH sometimes cooks a family favourite meal, coq au vin. Every single time, he calls the kids down for dinner by saying "come and get your lips around my coq" They totally eye roll and don't take it as anything other than a crude and stupid joke. They are 19, 17 and 15 (but he's been saying it for years). I genuinely don't think that teenagers care about that stuff.
No where near the same level. Line in the OP was funny, this is just eww
Thatsjustwhatithink · 04/08/2021 18:01

The OP one was funny.

The coq one was deeply inappropriate. And just yuk.

PinkiOcelot · 04/08/2021 18:02

🙄🙄

TrampolineForMrKite · 04/08/2021 18:04

Well it made me laugh.

Bluntness100 · 04/08/2021 18:17

Has anyone asked it yet? Becayse the obvious question op is “do you?” 😜

itsgettingwierd · 04/08/2021 18:33

I wouldn't be embarrassed.

I suspect your dh was making a joke as he was embarrassed to have his towel drop in front of his kids?

But my ds would find this sort of humour hilarious too!

PerciphonePuma · 05/08/2021 23:23

@MrsTerryPratchett

I hate to be this poster. But essentially he joked about a sexual offence. Flashing. To boys who are of an age when unsolicited dick pics start to be an issue for girls.

It's more important to teach your boys about consent than 'banter' (god help us) at this age.

Teenage girls suffer a barrage of unsolicited sexual content. And it comes from somewhere. Grown men joking about women liking it isn't going to help, is it?

THIS!!!!! Couldn't agree more. Also, the thought of my child seeing her father's penis makes me feel ill
PerciphonePuma · 05/08/2021 23:24

@MrsJBaptiste you love a good windmil, don't you mum?"

Shock This is deeply, DEEPLY disturbing Sad

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