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AIBU?

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Original poster

To be annoyed with her?

109 replies

MonopolyMoney · 03/08/2021 11:09

Nanny walked in to a scene this morning of my youngest crying and I ended up staying for longer as she was so unsettled. My partner then called nanny as was worried after I had left. So I admit she was having a chaotic time. But then I got a text saying she had left a bag behind (She was dropping kids off at a sports camp). The bag had trainers in. This is of course essential for kids camp. I now have to come out of work to sort it. A similar thing happened 3 months ago. Aibu to be annoyed?

OP posts:
Fernando072020 · 03/08/2021 11:34

Yabu. Stuff like this happens to us all. You said yourself it was a crazy morning.

I'm with others. Give her key. I mean what is she supposed to do?

IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 03/08/2021 11:38

She didn't have a key.
The trainer's were left behind
She lacks a time machine

What is it you would rather she had done?
She goes to your workplace to collect the key then goes to your house to pick up the trainer's then delivers them to the camp? Or she buys new trainers and delivers them to the camp. Or your kid does without trainers and can't participate?

bmxbmx · 03/08/2021 11:39

Nanny is unreasonable! Yes it was a mistake but if you make a mistake at work you rectify it, even if that means taking up a bit of non work time, you don't just shove the problem onto your boss! I am saying this as a nanny btw!

bmxbmx · 03/08/2021 11:41

I've just re read that she doesn't have a key in which case there's not much she could have done, definitely get a spare one cut for her to avoid this situation in the future.

moaningmyrtleturtle · 03/08/2021 12:03

@bmxbmx what do you propose the nanny does to get into the house when she has no key??
Break a window (at a cost to OP)
Call a locksmith (at a cost to OP)
Or do you have any other solutions?? Hmm

moaningmyrtleturtle · 03/08/2021 12:04

@bmxbmx just saw your second post 🤣🤣

bluebeck · 03/08/2021 12:27

She needs to have a key!!!

HeathcliffItsMeOhKathy · 03/08/2021 14:13

I have a key safe so we don't have to hand out spares to family members who help us out with the dog sometimes. I have also locked myself out so was handy then. Just a thought for future.

Datsandcogs · 03/08/2021 14:21

She has responsibility for your children but you don’t trust her with a key?

YABU not to give her a key. If she has the time pay her to run around after them, mistakes happen, don’t blame her in the midst of chaos.

AwFeebs · 03/08/2021 14:23

I think YABU.

We all have mornings like that don't we?!

Cut her some slack.

Blueskytoday06 · 03/08/2021 14:25

What a braggy post this is. And 11:09 should have not been 'working' rather than posting on Mumsnet??

Wearywithteens · 03/08/2021 14:28

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NumberTheory · 03/08/2021 14:32

In some ways I think twice in 3 months is unreasonable, yes. But her not having a key and so not given the ability to rectify these sorts of mistakes at any point after the door has shut is setting her up for failure.

Justcallmebebes · 03/08/2021 14:33

I don't want to put the boot in but, as above, it's really your fault for not letting her have a key then she could have popped back for the bag. Simple

Motherofalittledragon · 03/08/2021 15:00

YABU, mistakes happen give her a key and then there won't be a problem. I'm glad I don't work for you.

Original poster
MonopolyMoney · 03/08/2021 15:10

As I said, this has happened before which I let go but for it to happen again is careless.
I guess she does need a key permanently but still frustrated at her carelessness which I think is understandable

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icedcoffees · 03/08/2021 15:13

If you'd given her a key like you should have done from the beginning she wouldn't have needed to call you out of work.

YABU.

And you're not that busy if you can bitch about her on MN.

Sirzy · 03/08/2021 15:13

@MonopolyMoney

As I said, this has happened before which I let go but for it to happen again is careless. I guess she does need a key permanently but still frustrated at her carelessness which I think is understandable
Forgetting a bag twice in a few months isn’t careless. It’s human.

Perhaps you would like to be judged for the fact that things where chaos when she arrived? Or perhaps we can just accept like forgetting something in the rush to get out the door these things happen!

pinkcircustop · 03/08/2021 15:14

Yup, YABU. Twice in 3 months is not a big deal, and she should have her own key.

IonaLeg · 03/08/2021 15:16

It’s mad that she looks after your children but doesn’t have a key. Give her one ASAP and the whole situation is resolved.

People make silly little mistakes - it’s human nature. By depriving her of the ability to fix those mistakes, you’re just making her and your own life difficult.

JaneTheVirgin · 03/08/2021 15:17

Don't be so ridiculous, she's not careless. And if you truly believe she is maybe don't leave her in charge of your children?

Gazelda · 03/08/2021 15:19

Is she a good Nanny, who your DC enjoy being with?

If so, I'd put this down to a chaotic morning with a different routine (school hols). And I'd get her a key.

Don't be annoyed with her, we've all left things behind before. But most of us have the luxury of a key to quickly resolve the problem.

FunMcCool · 03/08/2021 15:21

Your nanny made a human error!? Sack her. 🙄

Livpool · 03/08/2021 15:23

I think you can be a bit annoyed but she is only human. You must forget things occasionally or make mistakes

Waspsarearseholes · 03/08/2021 15:27

@MonopolyMoney

As I said, this has happened before which I let go but for it to happen again is careless. I guess she does need a key permanently but still frustrated at her carelessness which I think is understandable
As it's happened before, yes it is very careless of you not to have given her a key. She's probably frustrated at your carelessness in not providing her with the tools she needs to do her job, which I think is understandable.