Am I just being stupid??

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Okay so am I being silly?

It’s a long one so please bear with me 🤦🏻‍♀️

So my husband and I have a great relationship, always laughing, having fun, great sex life etc etc. It’s been a little difficult lately due to my depression. I’m having a tough time at the moment but trying to get better!

So the back story:

We have a long standing running joke with one of our closest female friends about a threesome - it would never actually happen. It’s just been a daft joke and nothing more to it! But lately since she’s become single and we’ve all had a drink my husband brings it up more and more. He’s even text her a few times very inappropriately when drunk- which I made him apologies for. She’s fine with it and it’s not awkward but just laughs it off. I apologised on his behalf too as I don’t want my friendship with her ruined.

We were at a friends wedding at the weekend we only knew the bride and groom. It was a lovely day/night away, no baby with us and a date day for the two of us. It was wonderful and we had a great time. But as he got more drunk he was pointing out all the beautiful and gorgeous girls telling me how they fancied him. It was like he was trying to show me how handsome he is. He is and I tell him that all of the time, I compliment him ALOT.

I said to him in a jokingly way at the weekend “if you constantly notice all these hot girls and are checking for rings on their fingers with me here I dread to think what you’re like when I’m not here”.

Am I thinking too much into it?

Please don’t slate him or slag him off that’s not what this post is for.

Fancies YOUR mate (not our mate!)

He’s very vain isn’t he. I have to say that he sounds like a pretty crappy husband

My bet is the threesome isn't a joke to him. Do with that what you will.

Wow! I'm pretty chilled when it comes to jokes, jealousy etc. but this is all kinds of wrong. Your poor friend must be so embarrassed for you!

Laughing it off is what women often do when men they know socially make inappropriate sexual comments. They don't want to get into a position where they risk rocking the boat by telling Mr Creepy to fuck off. There, that's a general observation without directly saying anything bad about your DH.
Your friend doesn't enjoy any of this, but wants to keep your friendship.

Eeeeewww. Creepy fucker. I’ve met his type before.
You mention you were away for a wedding without baby? Bet he’s ramped up his behaviour ever since you got pregnant.

You deserve SO much more

I think he sounds absolutely spiffing op, jolly good sport.

Is that what you want to hear?
Instead of him raising his cock, why don't you raise your bar.

The only joke here is your marriage. It's really weird to "joke" about a threesome anyway, but you doing so has led to this. He thinks the joke is becoming reality and obviously only has his own wants/needs in mind. You're seeing him for who he truly is. And the fact your "friend" didn't tell him to fuck right off the first time he texted her inappropriately would have been a major red flag. I'd be second guessing her loyalty. I know you don't want us to criticise him but I have to be honest; your husband is vile and you seriously need to get a grip.

You really don't have a great relationship.

Why are you so casual and accepting that he's texting sleazy messages to your friend. He is NOT joking about the threesome, he wants to sleep with your friend (I doubt it matters if you are there or not) and he wants to sleep with other women too. I'd be surprised if he doesn't - or hasn't already. Unless you actually want an open or swinging marriage then you probably don't have the great relationship you claim you do. Poor friend!

I am going to try and adhere to the "rules".
Do the same, in reverse, show him all the hot guys around, say how much you fancy them, ask your DH if you could have a threesome, and see how "valued, respected and confident makes yoir DH feel. I am sure he will love it!"

You (two) don't have a joke, he does. And it's not funny.

You might think he's great - he really isn't and you deserve better.
DCs? Think about how that will be.

If you do want him slagged off or slated, what is this post for? Do you want us to tell us it's all in your head and you're being stupid?

don't want him slagged off ...

FFS