AIBU to tell gf I can't be dealing with the kids tonight

[jones88]

ive been with my gf for a while. She has two dc from a previous relationship and they spend the weekends with their dad. We dont live together but I spend my weekends with her.
Since its been the summer holidays, the kids have been coming home from their dads late, usually when they get back, I play a bit of lego with them or we play on the switch etc. Today I asked my gf what time kids will be coming home as I was going to cook us all dinner. She told me they'd be home later and are having dinner at dads.
Around 7:30 they were not back and I made a comment to my gf saying 'not going to lie im shattered today, probably won't spend much time with kids today as I want an early night'. (I have an early morning commute)

she started saying I am nasty, how can I say that etc. she then started saying 'did I tell you that you need to play with kids tonight, no I never so why even say it'.

I explained that I would spend a bit of time with the kids but I will be getting an early night. She's insisting I said 'I can't deal with the kids tonight' which I can't remember but I explained to her that I was tired, had an early commute and would spend time with them but would then get an early night

she then made a remark 'bet you never said that to your ex'. this is in reference to my previous relationship where my ex had children. I was fuming with my gf as just yesterday I told her to stop comparing herself to my exes which she constantly does and today she says this but she thinks im BU for saying I couldn't be dealing with kids

ive gone home as I was very annoyed at her, so who is bu

She sounds a bit spikey and unreasonable towards you, so best make an exit, and leave things be for now.

she hasn't 'obligated' me as such to play with the kids but will say things like 'kids are looking forward to seeing you and to play' so then I feel like I have to. She is the one that tells the kids that ill there on Sunday night and they can play with me. She is saying today that she's never put an expectation on me that I should play with the kids so she doesn't know why I said what I did. But she's annoyed at me today for walking out and going home and is saying that im childish!

She is focussing on me saying 'I can't deal with the kids' (when these were not my words) and is saying that it was nasty of me to say that and by saying that, I am implying that the kids are a burden. She is saying she has never told me to play with the kids so there was no need for me to say it and all I had to say was 'im tired, think ill get an early night'. she's focussing on the whole 'I can't deal with the kids' and is saying 'you hardly see my kids as they are with their dad on the weekends so why on earth would you say that'.

What do you get out of this relationship? She is emotionally manipulating you by using her dc.

Dump and run, OP.

Time to move on.

Stay home more OP it's not worth the stress.

She sounds way too much hard work. I'd end it over the constant insecure comparisons to your ex alone.

Tell her I can deal with the kids but I can't deal with you. Bye.

She sounds like hard work, I'd be staying at mine permanently and ending things with her. Life's too short for that nonsense.