using preferred pronouns a basic courtesy which harms no-one.
Of course it does. It harms everyone. It’s how we bloody got here in the first place. We didn’t jump from women’s competition for women to women’s competition for women and certain males overnight. The gradual erosion of boundaries that has led to males competing in women’s competition started with “be nice” and “it doesn’t harm anyone”. When a male is referred to as “she” it confounds people’s natural inclination to marry the two notions together in their heads. If the sex of the person being referred to matches the sex of the subject, people don’t think there’s a problem and aren’t challenged. For example:
“Should she be allowed in women’s competition/prison/refuge?”
The average person who isn’t aware just thinks, “of course, why wouldn’t she?
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Now insert the correct sex-based pronoun:
“Should he be allowed in women’s competition/prison/refuge?”
Instantly there is a challenge to a person’s thought process. We have the pronoun for a male and a subject for females. Straight away the truth is seen for what it is and a more accurate assessment of the situation is able to be made.
This is why there has been a strong concerted push to make pronouns seem benign, not that important, just “being kind”. This is why it’s seen as hateful to use the pronoun accurate for a person’s sex, because it means people don’t really think about what they’re agreeing to.
Incorrect pronouns for a person’s sex cause huge harm to women and girls and I will not comply.