To think this is fine?

[Money213]

To say to someone who you know you have hurt 'If something bothers you, I am always open to speak if anything bothers you going forward.'

Is it part of an apology or it is supposed to be the apology?

Sounds a bit passive as though you aren't taking responsibility for having hurt them.

It sounds a bit mangled.

It doesn’t make much sense, and I think some people would possibly interpret it as you not taking responsibility for hurting them, but it’s okay. It’s not mortally offensive.

Doesn't roll off the tongue does it, very clunky. Apart from that it's just another way of saying 'I'm sorry you feel that way . non apology. Sorry not sorry

I received it as a sort of apology and it made me feel the same as what others have commented. As in the person is not really taking responsibility for it.

I'd take it as them not giving a shit whether you were bothered or not. Definitely not an apology.

Sorry I meant I interpreted it as the same as the others in the comments section OP.

Seems like a pretty piss-poor apology to me.

This is an apology?
It sounds like a work situation, management speak for "I know you don't like what I'm doing and I'll discuss it so I appear nice but ultimately I don't care"

If a friend said it to me after having hurt me I'd be

The actual text was-

'I'm sorry if what I said came out wrong. I trust you and you mean a lot to me. I am open to speak if anything bothers you moving forward.'

Hmm

For me it's the if I don't like there. If you hurt someone acknowledge it.

First two sentences are fine. The third is just jargonistic, corporate sounding and rude to boot. "I am open to speak" = implies you don't want to, you'll do it if you have to. "If anything bothers you going forward" = if anything upsetting comes up in the future we can talk about it.

Is that really what the texter meant to get across?

Did you send this an apology to a friend?
I'm not a fan tbh.
It doesn't really take any responsibility and doesn't sound very heartfelt.

A simple "I didn't mean it to come out that way, I absolutely do trust you and I'm so sorry I hurt you"

Would sit better with me.

It's sounds like another way of saying " it's a shame you were offended by what i said but i tell it how it is. If this happens again please let me know so i can tell you how over sensitive you are"

@Money213

The actual text was-

'I'm sorry if what I said came out wrong. I trust you and you mean a lot to me. I am open to speak if anything bothers you moving forward.'

This is a piss poor attempt at an apology.

Please see above. That wasn't all that was said.

Anyone who says 'going forward' like this is a wanker. HTH.

Why?

Well that's a non apology if ever there was one!

I would not be impressed to receive that from someone I had told had said something hurtful

Apologies are best kept simple, short and sincere

I also told them they meant a lot to me and that I trusted them. Does that not count for anything?

"I am always open to speak if I have done something that bothers you."

Not very much.

When an apology is needed it needs to be done properly.

Take ownership of your mistake, don't put any part of it on them, be clear you know you did wrong and apologise unreservedly.

If you don't, then in my opinion you're not really sorry.

It you haven't actually said sorry?

I don't understand @Happy36