What's the scariest moment of your life?

[Lonelydaisy]

Following on from a thread I read earlier..

What's the most scariest life event you've been through?

Mine would be a stroke at 25 years old.

Being in labour with DD2, knowing I was high risk of cord prolapsing, and them not being able to find her heartbeat.
She was fine. But it felt like a lifetime of them trying to find it. Several different positions, without success. Only after her head was out and I could feel her moving, did we know she was okay.

@BanginChoons

Finding out my unborn daughter's prognosis and knowing she wouldn't live very long and would be very ill. And then the realisation that I was going to be asked to choose, and that choice would cause her death to avoid her suffering. And then getting up every day since, living with that choice.

I have had exactly this experience. I voluntarily allowed someone to stick a needle into my womb and end the life of my kicking unborn daughter because I was told it was the least worst outcome for her.

I miss her every day.

I was 7 months pregnant and my violent ex tied my wrists to the bed with string. Sat on top of me and shoved a balled up sock in my mouth and started to strangle me.

I believe I got that “super human” strength people sometimes talk about because in one swift moment I yanked my arm free, pushed him off me onto the floor (and he was a big guy) and leapt off the bed. He then started crying!

If I hadn’t had that burst of strength I would absolutely be dead now. The weird thing was we hadn’t argued or anything he’d been napping (then obviously had woken up and set things up in the bedroom) and I had started cooking dinner. He came to the kitchen to get me and his mood seemed fine. I left him very quickly after that incident and never went back. Changed my name, moved away, cut ties with everyone we both knew, the lot.

I should have reported him to the police but they hadn’t been helpful in the past when I’d called them. This was the early 90s where they unfortunately still mostly classed this stuff as “domestics”. I hope it’s a lot better now.

Racing across the country after a call from police to say my DM had been involved in a bad car accident.
We didn't know she was already dead.

Personally hearing a person in the back ground state “patient crossmatched. Blood in theatre” whilst being asked to confirm my dependants and that they had a second parent on birth certificate. With regards to kids eldest had nec - being told there was no point for a vent and we should just see what happens - and youngest turning blue then grey and floppy at home. Surprisingly we are all here and well ish. Although I have been left with pain as a reminder, eldest has a disability and youngest asthma.

Double lung failure at 32.

Two occasions

On a plane out of San Francisco when an engine exploded out of its casing and the plane lurched one side and then started vibrating like it was going to fall apart. It didn't get much better from then on. I have made a personal vow never to fly with the airline concerned ever again. I particularly thrilled to the CEO afterwards having a press conference where he excitedly explained that it was all to do with the engine manufacturers rather than the airline. The fact that the said engine was attached to the airline's plane or rather wasn't attached didn't seem to register with him.

The other time was when I was told our 16 year old son had cancer and the medical team wanted to meet with both his parents to discuss the situation. (We were lucky as the cancer was small, highly differentiated and hadn't spread.) It was discovered by a complete fluke. I know not all parents get such good news and I am profoundly grateful.

Walking towards my ds's Moses basket when he was 9 weeks old and seeing his face purple, eyes bulging open.
Amazingly we had caught him in time and as he was grabbed and swung up out of his cot let out a cry.
We had been in the room with him the entire time and thought the silence was him sleeping.
This led to a mental breakdown.

Still have issues over 11 years later.

I've had many unfortunately

But last year my 11 year old daughter had a mental health crisis. Pandemic, being ASD, illness....it sent her into a spiral.

She'd fallen asleep early and I was downstairs. Sudden cold feeling shook me and I went to check in on her, she was hanging.

She's doing well now but I'll never forget that actual feeling of my blood turning cold. Always thought it was just a saying.

A camping kettle exploding and dousing my face in boiling water.

Mose specifically the long wait until an ambulance could get to us.

A rupture of my inner ear on a flight causing violent out of control spinning, felt like I was tumbling over and over. Horrific. Followed by severe vomiting. Was stuck abroad like this for short holiday and had to get flight home when I couldn't even walk. Took months to recover.

Waking up to find we had been burgled overnight, cars, cash and electricals all stolen. Came downstairs to find the front door open. I then realised that my daughter hadn't got up with us and I raced up the stairs as I wan't sure if she was still in her bed. That panic I felt as I raced upstairs to see if she was OK, still there and the burglars hadn't taken her or hurt her will never leave me.

@Moongazingbare I came here to say seeing my 7 month old turn blue from choking. The most frightening moment of my life. It was three and a half minutes until the ambulance arrived. I did back blows and chest thrusts and some how got it out two seconds before they got there. The longest three and a half minutes of my life. I will now be quartering grapes and tomatoes etc until he is 21.

When my then 6 weeks old DD had sepsis and I was told she might not make it through the night.

@mellongoose and @BanginChoons I am trying to appropriately word what I want to say about the strength and love you have for your daughters to be able to do that but l can't.

All of you posters are amazing to have gone through all of what you have posted and be able to keep moving forward.

Being told DS2 could likely have cystic fibrosis. Then told a couple of days later that the test the junior Dr had done was notoriously inaccurate and should never have been done ! Thankfully he was fine.

I was caught up in the terrorist attack in Stockholm 4 years ago. We had just moved there a week earlier. DH had started a new job and was working and myself and 5 year old DS had finished unpacking so we decided to take the train into the city centre to explore as we hadn't been before.
I sent a photo to DH of DS on the underground and said we were off exploring and we'd see him at home later.
As it happened, we were stood on a corner outside a tiny Chinese restaurant that was below street level, DS had his back to the street so didn't see anything but could hear, as we stood there the owner of the restaurant came out and pulled us down the steps and inside. She put us on a little table away from the windows and asked my son what his favourite Chinese food was. Her and her husband brought us noodles, gave us drinks and turned off the radio. They kept us safe in their restaurant for over an hour and made things "normal " for my son. I am forever grateful to them and their kindness.
When we left to try to get home the noise and the chaos was like nothing I have ever experienced. The authorities shut down all the transport services which meant that all the commuters were pushed out onto the streets from the trains, buses, taxi's and underground and you couldn't move. Businesses shut and sent their employees home which made it worse. We were stuck in a city we didn't know and couldn't find a way of getting out. There were armed police everywhere, sirens and helicopters.
We ended up walking home which took us over 4 hours from the centre to Solna. DH also walked home from work and arrived home about 30 minutes after us.
Even now my son is 9, he still hates crowds and busy places and for a few years after would become tense at hearing lorries revving or sirens and helicopters.

@blissfulllife thats awful, x

Had what I thought was flu .high temp ,aversion to light ,bad headaches. Gp thought I had a bad back! Turned out to be a burst cyst thankfully rare went hosp and had sepsis ! They had to rush me by ambulance to another hosp for an op .poor dh and dc thought I was a goner!

Oh these made me so sad, and 💙 to everyone.

Mine was being in theatre whilst in labour with DC1. They were telling me he may have to go to NICU, it scared me senseless even though he was fine and didn’t end up in NICU and came out kicking and screaming!

Newborn sepsis. I was given a rundown of the birth and couldn't understand why so told them it was all OK. All they had said that my temperature was taken at the wrong intervals. Now I know that I had signs of infection and should have been given antibiotics to protect my daughter. Turns out I'm a strep B carrier. She's a beautiful kind little girl and I'm so lucky she's here.
After the birth my heart rate dropped and I thought I was going to die, nothing compared to days and days of little to know improvement in her health.

Reporting my husband missing and his body being discovered 7 weeks later

When my 1 year old was in a high dependency bed on the high care ward with high flow oxygen and still hypoxic. She turned blue and was flailing (literally fighting for air).

At the time I was weirdly calm, as they added more and more tubes and lines to my baby. But the enormity of it set in once we got her home. It’s been 4 years and she’s fine but the smell of the hospital sanitizer (which our local covid testing site uses too) still brings it all flooding back

Emergency crash c-section. My baby’s HR plummeted dangerously low and the crash team had to knock me out and get her out of me. I’ll never forget how terrified I felt in the moments before I went under.