To not vacuum neighbour's car

[TheUnexpectedPickle]

I really don't think IABU but juuuuust in case...

Off work today, doing a few jobs. Decided to vacuum and clean inside of my car (which turned out to be a bigger job than I thought as I've not done it since I got the car in September 😬)

Upstairs neighbour went out as I was starting and came back as I was topping up screen wash. Said "you're doing a great job, are you ok to do mine next". I laughed, standard (not that funny but common) joke right?

Wrong. She was serious. I said I don't have time to do another car now. She asked if I can do it tomorrow as she doesn't have a hand held vacuum. I said she is welcome to borrow mind (a stick shark) but I'm back at work tomorrow. She kind of huffed and said she thought I "might like to be neighbourly" and went in.

I mean... wtf!? I've never cleaned a neighbours car. I might do DPs if he was here but only cos he'd do mine if he was doing his.

BUT

1. I've moved to a smaller town from London and obviously the vibe is a bit different, people are more friendly etc.

1. Neighbour already is suspicious of me, she had a bee in her bonnet about me not going round to introduce myself when I moved in and once we had spoken I heard her telling her husband she didn't believe me about my job and wanted to call my employer to confirm I worked for them! (She has also speculated that my baby nephew was my baby who didn't live with me and thought he'd been taken away from me, but that's another thread)

So... should I have given her car a once-over to keep the peace or should I just avoid her and her batshittery?

@WhoNeedsaManOfTheWorld I would actually love to be an undertaker! But no, I'm in the medical profession. So coming and going= shift work and- shock horror!! Seeing friends and family, shopping, going for walks. You know, being a human.

Lack of work clothes is me wearing just work trousers with flip flops or trainers and a t-shirt to drive to and from work.

This weekend I'm not working and will have 4mo nephew AND his big sister for at least the whole of Saturday, maybe the big one overnight if she fancies it. That'll REALLY cook her noodle!

Neighbourly is lending tools to each other or taking in a parcel. Maybe keeping an eye on their house when they’re away. It is not cleaning their car for them. She’s obviously batshit.

Its really strange that she has taken a dislike to you because you've broken an unwritten rule about not introducing yourself. I've never gone round and introduced myself to neighbours, they would think I was mental, and they're all really lovely friendly people!

I live in a small, friendly town that Isn't London. I very often don't vacuum the neighbour's car.

My neighbours behind us for two years in a row convinced dh to go round and trim their conifer hedge. Dh does our side and the top and they told him to go round and do their side. And he did! 😂. Massive hedge, takes half a day to do.

They’re not even elderly and can afford a Gardener so could either have done it themselves, got their son to do it or paid someone.

@Sparklfairy yes I agree, it's really odd. It seems like that set it off and then deciding that I was far too young to do my job added to it and then having a baby in my possession a few times just tipped her over the edge 😐

Many years ago I moved into a tiny maisonette by myself. Some weeks later my parents came up for a long weekend whilst I was at work and let themselves in. Neighbour knocked on the door asking who they were etc. Mum explained. Then got a whole lecture on how I kept very irregular hours and several times I'd been brought home in the early hours by a police car. Did mum know her daughter was a prostitute. Guess what I was and guess what my mum said?

[quote TheUnexpectedPickle]@WhoNeedsaManOfTheWorld I would actually love to be an undertaker! But no, I'm in the medical profession. So coming and going= shift work and- shock horror!! Seeing friends and family, shopping, going for walks. You know, being a human.

Lack of work clothes is me wearing just work trousers with flip flops or trainers and a t-shirt to drive to and from work.

This weekend I'm not working and will have 4mo nephew AND his big sister for at least the whole of Saturday, maybe the big one overnight if she fancies it. That'll REALLY cook her noodle![/quote]
you need to go off to work every day in street worker clothes straight out of central casting. And how nice that you are getting a visit with BOTH your children - sounds like it is an unsupervised visit. Ask the 'sister' to call you mommy in the garden - that's your garden name...
make sure you have lots of cash everytime you get out of your car - stop and carefully count it before going inside.
Cannot believe she runs a gym. she sounds very odd/paranoid. Surrey is not a village - its a suburban neighourhood. The worst for curtain twitchers.

Just adding to the chorus of BATSHIT

@StopGo I can imagine but I hope the language was colourful

Nut bar

@StevieNix

No she’s batshit

This!!!!

@StopGo you're a copper and I'm hoping your mum said she knows you're a prostitute and that she is too 🤣

@Dogvmarmot yes Dsis and BIL social services are allowing me a whole day of unsupervised childcare while they swan off to a spa access to the kids. I'm so grateful for this opportunity, ill have to stop smoking crack on Friday for the occasion.

Yep. Batshit. I also have very neighbourly neighbours. We take each others bins in and out (communal garage), water plants for each other whilst on holiday, feed the odd pet, take in parcels, mind keys for visiting friends and relatives, share costs for upkeep of joint areas. Never hoovered anyone's car!

Totally thought the crazy twat was going to be old and bored. No, she just sounds like a self-appointed ‘big deal’ in your town who felt affronted when someone didn’t go and grovel at her door.

That is unusual behaviour. I’d keep a distance.

As a young dm I lived nd to a quite intimidating lass about 20...
Every Saturday she would knock for me to clean out her canary.
She was terrified of it but apparently she begged her bf for one as it matched her yellow kitchen..she also bought food items in mostly yellow tins /packets and left them out in baskets on her worktops...

She’s just a freeloader. No way would I have valeted her car - cheeky fucker. Wouldn’t have let her have my vacuum either. My brother lent his to someone, the person vacuumed something wet, broke the vacuum and said to my brother: shit happens. So my brother had no vacuum and the CF just didn’t care.

I think it's fair. As long as she washes your knickers.

How committed are you to living there? 😧

That's not friendliness, she's very very odd.

Hoover anything in the vicinity, then her car, then accidentally empty the contents of the hoover in her car. She probably won’t ask again

When we bought our current house as part of my due diligence I knocked on the door of both neighbours just to introduce myself so I could see what I was buying into. They were both lovely and invited me in for a cuppa and a chat and a lowdown on the area. If we move again it would be an essential part of my decision making.

that is bananas. YANBU.

CF of the month i think op-i never intriduced myself when i move din i saw hello how are you and thats about it

oh i let m neighbour jump over our fence once as she locked her front door