Would you share?

[Shouldhavepreppedsooner]

So after a very difficult 18 months of covid, home schooling, elderly parent etc both myself and my husband were told that we would be made redundant from our jobs. I managed to find a perfect part time job that fits around child care but my start date meant that I wouldn't receive redundancy as it was too early. I took it as I wanted security and to ensure at least one of us was earning, and we can just about cover the mortgage with the wage. My husband didn't look for jobs and didn't apply for any that I sent him. He has now found one and will receive his redundancy. AIBU to expect him to share his redundancy payment with me or should I have waited longer to find a new job?

I’m genuinely taken aback that he’s spent twenty years of his life with you and is being this selfish about money when he could easily use it to make you all feel happy and secure after a tough year. Why doesn’t he want to share it with his family instead of using it solely to treat himself? The money has gone to his head and he’s now spent it all in his imagination in a really greedy way. I wouldn’t be impressed either. In fact, if he continued to refuse to share it I’d be wondering whether I could actually like and respect him any more.