Baby growing up sadness

[Newmama93]

Ok this might seem ridiculous, I do have ocd so I’m not sure if I’m going through normal Mum stuff or if it’s a new ocd obsession starting.

I read an article about how being a boy mum feels like the slowest heart break you’ll ever go through as they age, it has me balling my eyes out. I’ve cried for three days straight now and can’t seem to get a fu*cking grip!!! Something has come over me and I can’t shake it, I can’t stop thinking wow it’ll be so sad when he’s grown and I’m not his world anymore, he adores me so much now and then as a teen he won’t and I’m going to have to go through losing that little person that once looked at me like their whole universe. I know I am lucky to have my child I know this and I know it may sound selfish but it’s how I feel and I can’t shake it. That article tore me apart and now I can’t even be happy playing with my baby because it just makes me cry that he won’t be this little soon and it’ll all be a distant memory and I can never get it back. I’m 23 with a 4 month old. Please help

My eldest is 11 and I’ve been feeling this way quite a lot recently. He just left primary school today and it was super emotional, it feels like 2 minutes since he was a tiny baby. My youngest also turned one this week, again seems like two minutes since he was born. Time does fly and it can be difficult to watch them grow.

I’m not sure I buy the boy mum/girl mum thing though, they all grow up eventually and most of them move out at some point and have their own lives.

I totally get where you’re coming from . I had this with my first child ( now 25) but it’s just natural and you grow as well and it doesn’t happen over night . They need you in different ways . I have a 7 year old as well and I feel sad he won’t need me soon but I know I won’t really notice as such because the need changes . Seeing them slowly become less dependant really makes you proud , promise it won’t be as you think it will x

I get it op, my DS is almost 3 and I find it increasingly tough now he’s a lanky child with strong opinions rather than a chubby smiley toddler! However I do adore him talking, singing, making stories up. I have several friends with children who have developmental problems and may never speak or live independently. That has also made me appreciate what I have and internally stfu.

I think these feelings are all completely normal though and designed to make us have more children 😜

My partner was raised by a woman that thinks like this. When I met him mid 20's he'd never had a serious relationship as she still meddled in everything in his life. He doubted his ability to do a lot of things because 'he was her boy and she loved him dearly and must take care of him and have him close''

She lost her father shortly after my partner was born and he reckons this is what started her obsession with him being close and needing her.

Could there be somthing like this in your past ,if it's not your OCD as you suggest it may be ?

I do feel it’s my ocd because I can’t stop thinking about it like I can’t even sleep it’s obsessive thinking I won’t ever tell him Or rub it off on him as I’m getting help for it so when he’s old enough hopefully I’ve moved past it but it’s extremely hard

Yeh just wait till they leave home, I have 3 big boys

I won’t ever tell him Or rub it off on him as I’m getting help for it so when he’s old enough hopefully I’ve moved past it but it’s extremely hard

OP I'm so sorry you feel like this. But at the very least ,you seem to know the cause of this and are actively getting help so you're doing great!! Dont be so hard on yourself.

They are thoughts and not reality and you will beat it.

Thank you so so much