to think that the person who gave dd a leather change purse with a marijuana leaf embossed on the front.....

[Earlybird]

....should offer to exchange it for something more appropriate for a 6 year old? So far the reaction has been 'oh...is that what it is? Really? hahahahaha....I didn't realise, I just thought the colours were pretty'. When I suggested she might want to return it, she looked at me as if I was out of my mind.

Why did they give it to her? She's not going to know what it is is she? I don't think I would know what it was!

It was an early Christmas gift.

Erm, you could focus on the eco-friendly nature of hemp as a fabric!

Well I wouldn't have a clue what a marijuana leaf looked like in the first place so it would be ok here!

Sounds as though she made a genuine mistake - and as Walnutshell says, hemp (which is a completely legal substance) also comes from the cannabis sativa plant.

Thus

It was given at a family function. All the women were saying 'oh, how nice', and all the men were sniggering.

There is an entire shop in Brighton devoted to hemp and its many uses. You would not belieeeeeve how many things they can make out of hemp.

Sorry earlybird, I'm wittering on about hemp because a lot of hemp products use the marijuana leaf icon.

I have a lovely little bag made from hemp that I use daily.

The association with funny fags will eventually recede!

Probably doesn't help you though.

The change purse is dark green, and the leaf is bright red with yellow accents....so not unobtrusive.

I can see your point.

But admire!

I'be be inclined to overlook if the gift came from far away/was bought on holiday etc. But the shop where it comes from is about 2 miles from the area where this person lives/works.

Very nice....but don't you agree, no matter how nice, not suitable for a 6 year old?

Has it actually been given to your dd and is she inclined to keep it?

Yes I do agree and the symbol you have described is particularly relevant for the cannabis that is suitable for smoking etc rather than that farmed for other uses and is actually useless for smoking.

Count your blessings, it could have been a playboy bunny.

Sorry, but I do think you're being a bit unreasonable. It seems the person genuinely just thought it was a pretty purse for your daughter. I think it's actually quite rude to expect someone to exchange it and get affronted when they don't offer. But I was taught to 'never look a gift horse in the mouth' (which has given my mother the excuse to give me some truly dreadful stuff over the years!!) . Are you worried this will encourage your daughter to smoke dope? It won't. I think you are worried about what others may think. I would think you had a sense of humour.

oh my god you really have got too much time on your hands.

a genuine mistake, good intention gone awry, thats all. so smile graciously, send a thank you card - no big deal