To take a job I want for a lot less money?

[megahirn]

NC'd for this one as it's outing to those I know.

I am in the very fortunate position of having two job offers; it's not something I've ever had before, and whilst I feel privileged, it's been doing my head in. For context, I have a physically disabled husband that can no longer work, and two small children, so the income falls on me. I live rurally and have ties here, the job market is normally hospitality or retail unless you're a doctor etc, with a few small exceptions.

Job one is the one I want, it's mentally stimulating which is something that I love, it's not retail or hospitality, it's something I'd be so happy doing. Problem is, it's 16 hours across three days. I could find a second job in hospitality, but I've had two jobs before and it can be a nightmare for rotas, annual leave etc. I'd be financially worse off, but happier. There's also long-term chance for career progression, but that's not guaranteed.

Job two is a full time retail job, it's the best paying retail job here and it's something that isn't affected seasonally; many people here lose hours during the winter in this sort of job, whereas this job is the exception. We'd be better financially off, but I will be devastated to turn down job one. It has no chance of progression, the manager will be there for at least another 20 years.

I was told that there will be a full time vacancy for job one in three years when someone there retires, but that's an awful long time to wait. The second job I get to supplement my income will be affected seasonally, so I will be financially worse off in the winter.

Job one is the first vacancy I've seen here since I've lived here (years) that excites me. It seems like my chance to do something that I will like. However, job two obviously makes us more financially secure, and I do feel very selfish to put my wants above the family's needs. DH thinks I should take the full time one, my friend says to put my happiness first and take job one, but then she's not paying my bills. What job would you take? AIBU to even consider job one?

Job 2. You'll be financially more stable and that makes a big difference to your wellbeing.

I also think 1 ft job is psychologically easier than 2 pt jobs. I have done both, several times.

I know it's not the job that you most want but sometimes the bigger picture is more important.

OP dont kill yourself to get a mortgage. Your secure in a council house even if you end up unable to work if dh needs ft care.

Looking at both sides. Would the 16 hour job be worth it with the qualifications you would gain?

In case anyone is wondering, I was offered another full time job which was a little less money than the other one but more job satisfaction. I took it. I'm sad I'm not doing the part time job, but I have to put finances first. Thank you all for your input

Good result!

I’d take job one and get a second job until you can hopefully get a full time job

Also, I didn't want to say at the time, but the financial difference between the jobs (pre tax) was £1000. I knew I couldn't accept the part time job once I knew that. The job I've accepted is slightly lower but fits in with my life better and is a lot closer. Thank you all for your helpful inputs

@megahirn congratulations on your new job