To feel down about UK holiday?

[WoahThereNelly]

Of course I already realise I am BU when some people don't get holidays at all, have been horribly impacted by covid etc.

Just using this to vent and get some perspective.

Feeling so gutted that we can't go to France to see family we haven't seen in over a year. It looked like we could go, then at the very last minute the rules have changed again and now we can't. We do have a 1 week UK holiday booked but it won't be as lovely, or seeing family, or getting out of this country!

Feels like we've worked all year, through all this rubbish...for nothing...and now it'll be another year again before there's another chance (we only ever get a few days in the other holidays, with longer ones at summer).

Ok, tell me I'm being ridiculous and hopefully I'll feel better about it. Just feeling v sad and flat at the moment.

I just begrudge squeezing onto a beach, having possibly crap weather and then going back to a boiling hot house if the weather is nice.

Personally I much prefer the beaches in the UK. Whenever I go abroad the beaches are usually lined with deck chairs and parasols that you’re charged an extortionate amount to sit on, people come round selling stuff all the time and the sand is too hot underfoot. The only advantage is that the sea is warmer!

As for going back to a boiling hot house, it really shouldn’t be if you keep the windows and curtains closed all day whilst you’re out.

YANBU. A UK holiday doesn’t even compare to going abroad.

YANBU to be upset.

You have been inconvenienced because of petty politics by the UK government, not because of medical/scientific data analysis. The cases of the Beta variant causing concern are in a part of France that is in the Indian Ocean (France 'colonies' are treated as if a part of France and include sending members to their Parliament). I think the change was made because Monsieur Macron is seen as one obstacle to the UK wish to change the Northern Ireland protocol. Economic sanctions in disguise.

I love UK holidays. We've always done them in addition to our main holiday abroad. Of course it's disappointing not to be able to go and see family but there's no reason why you're 'staycation' can't be fantastic.

Last summer we did Derbyshire, Alton Towers and York and had a really great time.

We made the best of it and had loads of fun.

I hope you get to see your family soon. X

[quote BooksChocolateAndSleep]@adamant8 I would love to stay home trust me but my kids need a holiday somewhere and a change of scenery.

I just begrudge squeezing onto a beach, having possibly crap weather and then going back to a boiling hot house if the weather is nice. [/quote]
A lot of the complaining seems to be something that is a matter of choice. Go somewhere where there isn't over crowded beaches. Vast swathes of the east coast from Northumberland up through East Lothian through fife to Inverness have countless huge unspoilt beaches with a range of accommodation to suit every taste and budget. Many with public transport links or easy access by car from the A1 or other major routes.

If the food places are over priced and mediocre, choose somewhere new.

If you're determined you're going to have a miserable time and have a migraine throughout, you probably will do!

Your not being ridiculous - we haven’t seen family for almost two years and I’m devastated we’re missing out again. Haven’t met my new born niece, they couldn’t come to our wedding etc. We’re missing out so much bonding time and it’s really sad, even if we are lucky enough to be taking a few mini breaks in the UK.

I don't think this is about holidays. Neither dh nor I have seen our families for over a year, in my case 2 years now.
Had flights cancelled recently too. It sucks

Am glad my DC are older
We did a few big holidays when they were mid teens that were fab,and if we had missed that time slot they wouldn't really have happened as obviously they now want to holiday with friends
I don't see anything wrong with saying you miss holidays
Obviously there are more important things but if you like holidays and seeing family surely it's ok to say you are sorry you can't do that

Apparently not because of the war.

@Parky04

Yep, you are totally ridiculous. If that's all you have to worry about, then you have been incredibly lucky over the past 18 months!

You know nothing about the OP.

People have had hideous upbringings, trauma, rape blah blah blah that haunt them all day everyday. It's like no one can be fed up of they haven't died of covid. Oh well at least their will be no mental health problems once it blows up.

Op I can't even find a holiday in the UK but tbh can't bare paying the over priced prices to potentially sit around in the rain etc. I really feel for you as I wanted to go abroad to.

@MsTSwift

Apparently not because of the war.

There are worse things OP. But, me and DH were ready to do a Eurostar with our DDs this year, we had been planning it since DD3 was born and knew that just before she was 4 we would start showing our girls some city breaks.

Well, tomorrow we are of to CBeebies Land on a holiday which costs an arm and a leg. BUT, we are still hugely grateful to have a break. Although, the thought of a human sized Bing terrifies me!

Everyone is making sacrifices and adjustments, a UK holiday is hardly a disappointment. Of course, when it gets to seeing a family it can be very difficult. Look forward to it! Enjoy your break and look ahead to this time next year.

YANBU to be disappointed and it’s sad you can’t see family.
We are on a fab UK holiday at the moment. The heatwave has made it. Swimming, beaches, outdoor water park, meals out. So lovely.

In my childhood, a common response from exasperated parents was " Stop whining or I'll give you something to cry for".

@TreaslakeandBack

YANBU to be disappointed and it’s sad you can’t see family. We are on a fab UK holiday at the moment. The heatwave has made it. Swimming, beaches, outdoor water park, meals out. So lovely.

Lucky you. It was grey and rainy most of the week we were away. Beautiful walking country but miserable weather. To make it worse it was actually reasonably warm so it was a choice of drip with sweat in waterproofs or get soaked by the rain. Then get back to the accommodation with wet muddy dogs.

Super jealous of those on beach holidays this week would be awesome. Sadly our trip in a few weeks time and managing expectations for grey chill.

I totally feel for you op, especially as you're missing seeing family. Most people who live in the UK who's family also live in the UK have now seen their family so its really disappointing not to be able to see family abroad. I hope you get out there soon. Or I hope they are able to come to youm

Super jealous of those on beach holidays this week would be awesome. Sadly our trip in a few weeks time and managing expectations for grey chill.

We've booked two weeks in Scotland at the end of August (same as last year, though last year was a last minute replacement). I find that the starting expectation that the weather will probably be crap helps to see off the disappointment when it does indeed turn out to be crap.

But I have form for bringing rain and a sudden temperature drop on any UK seaside holiday I go on. We still go relatively often but as others have said, it's occasionally nice to have near-guaranteed sunshine and warmth occasionally.

I understand why you’re disappointed but there are plenty of amazing places to explore in the UK so I would try not to feel so disheartened. I’m sure you’ll still have a lovely time away.

@TempsPerdu

I also find that one of the main benefits of a foreign holiday is the sense of genuine escapism - a new/unfamiliar language, and different media, with news that you’re slightly ‘distanced’ from so you’re not quite a stressed out by whatever’s in the headlines there.

Not at all the same with a U.K. holiday, with the same old hyperbolic media headlines and everyone around you talking about the same stuff that was stressing you out at home. Unless you can go completely off grid (pretty impossible with a three year old in tow) it’s very difficult to recreate than sense of true escapism.

I completely agree. I'm looking forward to our holiday in the Lake District and N Yorks but I find it depressing buying the same food from the same supermarkets as we have at home, and seeing the same shops just on a different High Street. It doesn't feel like escapism at all.

Also, if the weather's crap I'm happy to don waterproofs etc and still go walking with the dog but that won't keep a 12yo amused. I'm praying for decent weather.

Sorry you will miss seeing your family, OP.

Of course YANBU

It's better than nothing, obviously, but a flipping "staycation" is not a real holiday for many of us. Even worst if you miss out on your family.

UK is ok for weekends and small breaks, but come on, it feels claustrophobic to be stuck in one place.

It's totally shit OP, we're going away this weekend for a UK break, it's supposed to be thundery showers where we're going and our activities will no doubt be cancelled (as happened on our last UK weekend break too) so it's another crap UK holiday. The accommodation here is hugely overpriced, the roads/traffic a nightmare and the weather completely unpredictable. We went to Spain last year and it was just amazing, hired a car and went to all sorts of places and the weather was perfect every day. Fingers crossed we'll be going again in a couple of weeks.

Completely understand where you are coming from. I saw my family last in 2019. I have booked originally to see them during Easter 2020, and of course that didn't go ahead. I have BA vouchers to use before Easter 2022. I can't go to see them still because UK has landed back on their no fly list. (We are barred to enter unless we quarantine in a third country for 21 days).