Am I right or is husband

[Rizzoli123]

I had a job interview today at a supermarket.

Really want the job. Nothing much but something to get me out of the house

Husband begged me not to go as he was worried about covid. He also said he didn't know why I had to get a job in the school holidays as it ruins it for the kids and now he can't make any plans.

I got a snotty phone message saying my youngest was crying and would be sat in the gym till I came back. I called them on my walk to the interview and he was fine and excited.

I did the interview, came home had to go straight upstairs for a shower and to change my clothes. I am also not allowed in close contact to him for 48 hours until I have had a negitive LFT test on weds.

I will say we have a high covid rate in our area

He has said I should get a job but as a dinner lady that I can work around school hours and have the holidays off with the kids and be here when they go and when they come back from school.

I want to add I always wear a mask and wash my hands. I kept my distance from everyone.

Yes, like a lot of men who like to claim they support their wives working but then do a complete 180 when they actually try to do so, he wants a little house-servant to stay in with the kids, so that he doesn't have to. He's panicking he might have to live the life of a parent.

You see it loads. Women told "well if you want to go to work you're paying for all the childcare. Not worth it now, is it?" or "why do you need to work? I earn all the money and I might even give you some if you ask extra-nicely" or "why do you even need money?" or "why are you such a terrible parent, wanting to spend time away from your children?" All the cliches come out.

He's shown his true colours.

@Shuffleuplove

Gosh another prince of a man. Bin him. Put gloves on first. Ugh.

It's astonishing just how many posters are asking advice about the fact their husbands are demanding they do not work, or are putting barriers in place.

They're so fucking threatened by it, aren't they!

Yes they are on school holidays until September

Did he expect they did a test before any close contact too?
I obviously don't agree with him anyway, but if he's not consistent he's even more ridiculous.

Dont touch food or laundry.
Let him get his own shopping.

Another abusive waster.

Hope you get the job.

It's all about control and nothing about you and the job

Of course he thinks you should have a job as a dinner lady. It makes complete sense, you would only be at work when the children are and never work the holidays. So he would never have to be solely responsible for his own children.

I really hope you get the job OP, and purposely schedule shift so he’s left with the kids.

I bet no close contact sounds pretty appealing RN OP.

Fuck that for a game of soldiers. It's horrendously manipulative to get your DS into a state because he doesn't want you to do something. I'd struggle to forgive that, I'd also take the hand off the recruiter if I got offered the job.

Good grief, you really need to get a job and tell him to get a grip!

It's controlling and not normal. I hope you get the job

So if you get the job will he demand you stay away from him for the next 48 hours every time you work?? I bet he doesn't make you stay away from the kids as then he'd have to look after them. And if he's not making you stay away from the kids then that negates you staying away from him!

Covid anxiety is one thing (and I have suffered from that). But this sounds more like he just doesn’t want to find himself stuck with childcare.

Yeah, this is not about COVID. If that was his worry he would worry about you getting a job at all. He is only worried he loses the free time he shouldn't have looking after his own kids.