to hate " double " gift ( b'day and xmas)

[pud1]

why oh why do people tell december bithdays that instead of buying a you a birthday gift and xmas gift they will just give you one for both. they are never any better. it really pisses me off. i also dont want my birthday gift wrapped in xmas paper.
next year i am going to do it back. i am going to tell them in july that they will have to wait til xmas for there birthday gift

my son is one on dec22nd we will see what happens .......

my birthday is in July.
My brother's is the beginning of January.

I was always jealous of him because he got a BIG Christmas prezzie.

He was always jealous of me because I got another present later in the year.

yanbu-we had to tell people we'd prefer they didnt do this last year for ds.hes 19th dec.dd and ds1 are april-would they do same for them?nope!i worry also about putting the xmas decs up,i think i'll wait till after ds birthday so he can have his birthday banner or maybe decorate dinning room as birthday room?

i used to get it as well, and my birthday is 3rd jan!

dd2 is 29th december and i always ensure she has separate gifts on separate days

My Dad says that he fell in love with my mom because she was the first person to give him a birthday present that was just a birthday present and it was wrapped in birthday paper.

Growing up I had a friend who's birthday was on Christmas day. In our teens we always had a 2 hr birthday party where no Christmas was allowed. No Christmas decorations, paper, we couldn't even mention it.

Ds was born on Dec 22, so we've decided to cancel xmas presents for everyone else to avoid the conflict (fortunately he's the first).

It happens to me too and I'm 2 weeks before Xmas but I compensate by pretending that Xmas itself is all about ME ME ME. Well you have to make the best of it!

DS is the 29th december too, I grew up with the 'joint presents' (my bday is Jan 9th) so I was determined not to do it for mine.
We put the xmas decorations up on dec 1st (DD's bday is 24th november) and take them down on the night of the 26th, that way both children get a few days either side of the xmas period when they can focus on their birthday rather than xmas.
I also make sure the birthday presents are more special, the day is for them, whereas xmas is for the family.

im two weeks before xmas and i get it all the time yuck

mine is on the 28th and have always been lucky enough to been given gifts for both rather than one big one.

my brothers birthday is very close to christmas and always has had separate presents, cards etc..
it's bit of minor whinge innit though?
imo you are lucky enough to have birthday in full swing of party goodwill season..

try the end of jan, guys.. party time over, its dark, folks are skint the bills are in but its not yet pay day..
though positive side is i am an aquarian!

9th Jan, isn't quite full swing of the party season, every year for ages I would try to arrange to go out for my bday or something and it wouldn't happen, my friends would always be skint from xmas and new year.
Then I made new friends and 5 of us had our bdays in the first two weeks of january so we used to have a joint 'do' at the local pub.

My best friend from school is 17th December. We always used to use her birthday as the beginning of our 'proper' build up to Christmas. We never gave her joint gifts - still don't - tho I know that serveral of her relatives did and it really upset her. I always said to look on the bright side - there are a lot more pretty 'gifty' type things available in December so even people who only spend a few quid can get her something nice!

Another friend was born on Christmas day and his parents always gave him a party in June!

I am with you on this one...this is one of my bugbears too.
dd gets 2 small gifts (1 for xmas and one for her birthday which is 2nd jan) from family members. They add up to about half the amount that they spend on ds's birthday simply basically because his is at a more convenient time of year when they are more flush.
She also gets birthday presents wrapped in christmas paper and no card or tag...just a "this is your birthday present"
I know i am probably unreasonable to feel so miffed about this btw...but i can't blardy help it

YANU Mine is Dec 20th. It really bothered me growing up.

But DH has always been a sweety and if we go out for a meal it is always to an indian or chinese. No Turkey.

we also used to put the decs up on the 21st - can not get away with it now as we have children

See in our house when I was growing up, I used to insist the decs went up on MY birthday because my dad told me I was special because I was born near Xmas. My brother was really jealous because we celebrated my birthday with Xmas decs and he didn't get to have any up on his birthday.

Mine is 21st December and although I don't tend to get one big present anymore (I've wised up to this now ) my BD present always tends to be smaller. We were going to give me an unofficial BD on 21 June but that never seemed to happen unfortunately

my birthday is near christmas ans i ofetn got joint pressies, what i found far worse is that my twin girls often get joint cards and pressies

Ugh, thats not right onlyjoking.
How rude!
Are they supposed to snap it in half and have a bit each???

Oh god, I hate this too, dd's b'day is 10 days before Christmas and I have had to be forceful with relatives and friends when they make this suggestion. It is really, blatantly unfair.

However, dd has suggested herself this year that she have a larger present as a combined present, so she is obviously not too bothered by the idea. For some mad reason I have agreed to get her a laptop as a combi present (where sell the cheapest laptops!!

i love your name notdoingthehousework!! ha ha that made me laugh well done for being so witty

well i think they are supposed to share unfortunatly austim and sharing don't go together too well
Kitty your DD shares my birthday!

I don't think Birthdays and sharing should go together!!!!