I don't exactly live with my BF of five years (still have my own house, etc. etc.) but I'm here a lot when I don't have my own Children, more than his Children are.
He has an in-person meeting tomorrow meaning he couldn't collect his Youngest from School. I offered to. He accepted, and even, on the way back from somewhere, took me to show me the car park where he waits for her (late Primary).
I got back this pm from a w/e with my own Children to find that, discussing his week over Sunday Lunch, his Parents, who lives locally, his Mother offered to collect the Child and give her Tea (tbh, I dont know why they were discussing it if it was no longer a problem as I had offered). This was discussed in front of the Children. He accepted, apparently not even saying "Shadow has already offered".
He doesn't understand why I am hurt: I think he was discourteous in how he handled it and how he told me, given I had offered and he had accepted, yet another fait accompli; he told me in a very off-hand way, like it wasn't a big deal, a few minutes after I had arrived back from a long and hot and emotional drive, dropping-off my Children; I feel dropped, again, in favour of his Mother; he didn't give me credit in front of his Family for the offer I made, even if he had changed his mind about using it; he was still assuming I would be around later when he had to take the Elder Girl somewhere, yet I was, apparently, at fault assuming arrangements made stood, and, finally, he goes on about wanting me to work on my relationship with his Girls, even citing this as some natural 1-2-1 time, only to change his mind. He thinks I was challenging his authority to make decisions for his Children and had a go at how it was actually saving me effort and that my last minute changes usually mean he has more to do ...
Who is BU?