Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2 3 4

Original poster

DP thinks I tracked him with Airtag

96 replies

Cocopogo · 18/07/2021 20:34

I bought an Airtag for my handbag months a go. It alerts people if it’s picked up their location, it’s sends them a phone notification and makes a beeping sound when separated from me that I can remotely set off. I went to the shop and thought it would be funny to put it in his car (back story is he’s very precious about his car and whenever I’m in it he goes on, can you hear that noise? And goes on for ages if something is tapping like if a seltbelt is making slight rattle or one of kids left something in car etc). So I put it in car and went in shop and keep triggering the sound, I was very disappointed to return to no response and we drove home and got distracted with kids and forgot all about it. Next thing I know, DP is fuming saying he’s leaving me, that I’m a crazy stalker and that I’ve been tracking him and he’s stood with the Airtag in his hand that was beeping in his car. He didn’t even listen to my explanation and accused me of being some sort of Apple mastermind who hacked his phone and was tracking him. His reaction has made my spider senses tingle now that he does in fact have something to hide.
YABU to play a silly trick and most people would assume that too. And I should apologise and move on.
YANBU he’s got a guilty mind and I shouldn’t apologise and should wonder why he’s so mad about it.

OP posts:

Original poster

Cocopogo · 19/07/2021 10:28

I wasn’t asking for my joke to be rated. Those who reverse it and say “I found a tracker” etc have ignored the main reason it was there because DP goes on about noises EVERY SINGLE TIME we go anywhere in his car

^What a cruel. prank. You know he's paranoid about noises in the car but went out and repeatedly kept activating the air tag^

He’s not paranoid, he just loves his car…more than me! But my thread isn’t a should I leave him because he’s obsessed with his car and drives me mad every time he drives me!

Like I said, it can’t be used to track people! It messages them and it also beeps! so it would beep and then there maybe a couple of minutes of what the heck is that noise in my car before him getting the message or me returning (I was only grabbing a bottle of milk so gone for less than 5 mins).

Anyway it’s done now. He’s calmed so I’ve left it at that because if I bring it up and try to explain it’ll just lead to another argument.

OP posts:

Nonmaquillee · 19/07/2021 10:37

I really don't think that's a funny thing to do at all.

Physio32 · 19/07/2021 10:51

Isn't the saying it's only a joke if the recipient laughs? If this was a reverse I'm sure everyone would be in sympathy. I definitely wouldn't have found it funny and hope you apologised.

QueenBee52 · 19/07/2021 12:25

@Farwest

I think the joke was: he's forever obsessing about noises the car makes. So she was creating another noise in the car via the airtag.

Aahhhh thank you.. now I get the Joke 😳

Bluntness100 · 19/07/2021 12:32

The misfortune here is you “ forgot” you’d left a tracker in his car and left it there for him to find. I think if you said oh I found it really funny to put a tracker in yout car did you hear the beep. Then yeah shit joke

The fact you put it there, didn’t tel him, them conveniently forgot you were tracking him is where it’s fallen over

Were you tracking him?

SchrodingersImmigrant · 19/07/2021 12:43

Yeah, I would not believe that it wasn't an intention to track because you would otherwise say something

QueenBee52 · 19/07/2021 12:45

@SchrodingersImmigrant

Yeah, I would not believe that it wasn't an intention to track because you would otherwise say something

its so noisy though

RealBecca · 19/07/2021 12:53

I think your story is a lie because you woyld have teased him when you got back from your shopping trip asking if he had heard anything.

I don't think a healthy realtionship he would blow up though, he would ask what it was and why you had it and accept a reasonable explanation.

So you are both unreasonable and its bot a relationship that sounds healthy.

knittingaddict · 19/07/2021 12:55

I can't stand practical jokes, so that may be influencing me. They always seem a bit nasty and unfunny unless you're the person playing the "joke". They say sarcasm is the lowest form of humour, but I honestly think it's cruel pranks like this.

If I was your partner I'm not sure I would believe you either. The catch phrase of many an abuser is "just joking".

Picklypickles · 19/07/2021 13:04

I don't know, I think his reaction is way over the top in my opinion. I would be very shocked if my partner reacted that way to me leaving something like what you describe in the car, I'm pretty sure he wouldn't immediately jump to the conclusion that I'm a crazy mistrustful stalker but then we have a pretty boring relationship I suppose, there is no history of jealousy or controlling behaviour etc so if there is in yours maybe I could understand his reaction, if not I'd be thinking he is far too defensive and must have something to hide.

StormcloakNord · 19/07/2021 13:10

His reaction seems over the top, but you also seem like you're lying.

It would be "funny" to leave a beeping device that could track his exact whereabouts was it?

Seems a bit i'd be offended if my husband did something like this as I would take it to mean he didn't trust me, but I wouldn't fly off the handle at him I'd speak it through with him.

You both seem in the wrong here tbh.

Bluntness100 · 19/07/2021 13:59

I can see why he’s reacted as he did. It’s the conveniently forgetting you’d placed a tracking device in his car which is suspicious and then proclaiming it was a practical joke and you just forgot. He obvs thinks you were tracking him and now trying to cover it up, I think most peoooe would have a raised eyebrow over your actions.

knittingaddict · 19/07/2021 14:28

@0DETTE

It’s not to track people. It’s to help you find items that you’ve misplaced.

My teens have them on their keys, as they are always losing them around the house.

It doesn’t work to track people as it sends you an alert and the keys beep.

So I understand why that would be a prank on the Ops husband.

What I don’t get is her comment about not minding what he gets up to in his spare time.

Doesn't it work in the same way as Find My Phone, so it would defintely track to wherever the device is? You can see it on a map. It doesn't just bleep at you.

Original poster

Cocopogo · 19/07/2021 23:17

Yes you can see it on the map but only if the person who gets the notification doesn’t disable it. They have the option hence why you can track people with it!

OP posts:

Original poster

Cocopogo · 19/07/2021 23:17

cant track

OP posts:

surreygirl1987 · 19/07/2021 23:20

Weird story... weird prank... weird reaction.

Bluntness100 · 20/07/2021 06:49

Well you can track people with it if you put is secretly in their car, how would they disable the notification then, they don’t know it’s there.

Whiskycav · 20/07/2021 07:22

@Bluntness100

Well you can track people with it if you put is secretly in their car, how would they disable the notification then, they don’t know it’s there.

I think its starts making a noise, from what I looked up but not 100% sure.

Original poster

Cocopogo · 20/07/2021 10:33

they get a notification saying there’s an Airtag nearby with the option to disable location.
I bought it for my handbag but quickly realised if someone snatched it they’d get a notification to disable it! So now I use it to beep at me when I can’t be bothered looking for said handbag

OP posts:

WildSwimming101 · 21/07/2021 15:50

@Cocopogo

they get a notification saying there’s an Airtag nearby with the option to disable location. I bought it for my handbag but quickly realised if someone snatched it they’d get a notification to disable it! So now I use it to beep at me when I can’t be bothered looking for said handbag

Probably much easier just to have a place where you always put your handbag.

Would save all this hassle.

CatBumJuice · 21/07/2021 16:15

I think you're getting an unnecessarily hard time here OP. Not a great joke, but you clearly weren't really trying to track him. It's the same sort of joke as my girls asking Alexa to play The Wiggles when they know DH is in the car trying to listen to something else and it'll interrupt it. I would be a little worried by his reaction though. Def worth a little discussion in a couple of days when he's calmed down.

Flip

1 2 3 4