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DP thinks I tracked him with Airtag

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Cocopogo · 18/07/2021 20:34

I bought an Airtag for my handbag months a go. It alerts people if it’s picked up their location, it’s sends them a phone notification and makes a beeping sound when separated from me that I can remotely set off. I went to the shop and thought it would be funny Hmm to put it in his car (back story is he’s very precious about his car and whenever I’m in it he goes on, can you hear that noise? And goes on for ages if something is tapping like if a seltbelt is making slight rattle or one of kids left something in car etc). So I put it in car and went in shop and keep triggering the sound, I was very disappointed to return to no response and we drove home and got distracted with kids and forgot all about it. Next thing I know, DP is fuming saying he’s leaving me, that I’m a crazy stalker and that I’ve been tracking him and he’s stood with the Airtag in his hand that was beeping in his car. He didn’t even listen to my explanation and accused me of being some sort of Apple mastermind who hacked his phone and was tracking him. His reaction has made my spider senses tingle now that he does in fact have something to hide.
YABU to play a silly trick and most people would assume that too. And I should apologise and move on.
YANBU he’s got a guilty mind and I shouldn’t apologise and should wonder why he’s so mad about it.

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AfterSchoolWorry · 19/07/2021 00:50

@SparrowNest

I’m not 100% sure I believe you myself. I think it’s possible you are just testing out your excuse on us.

It’s not a very funny prank, and it’s pretty obvious if someone finds a tracking device in their car they will think they’re being tracked. The fact you jump to accuse him of having something to hide just makes you seem more like the sort of paranoid, distrustful person who would issue ‘tests’ to catch a partner out. Or track them.

If you really are telling the truth here, you need to acknowledge that his reaction is perfectly reasonable in the circumstances, admit fault and basically beg forgiveness for behaving like an idiot.

Have you not seen the sort of advice women on here who find tracking devices receive?

Agree. Story doesn't ring true.
MurielSpriggs · 19/07/2021 00:59

I’m not 100% sure I believe you myself. I think it’s possible you are just testing out your excuse on us.

And it's a fail anyway, I don't understand what you're going on about!

Cheapskatewedding · 19/07/2021 01:01

If DP left his air tag in my car I’d think oh look he’s left his air tag in my car, I’ll give it back

So my guess is
You either have form for being a bit jealous and controlling
Or he’s hiding something

My guess is a bit of both and it feels like even you don’t believe your excuse!
And it’s weird that you say you don’t care what he gets up to in his free time as long as he treats you well - surely if this was the rule and he knew that, he wouldn’t be concerned you may be tracking him, because you’d both know and be aware he was cheating so there would be no need for you to track him or for him to hide it

Cheapskatewedding · 19/07/2021 01:06

@user1471457751

You bought a new piece of kit and then just forgot about it being in his car? Yeah,I can see why he's struggling to believe you. Who buys tracking kit anyway?
They’re very popular, cheap things to track your keys/wallet etc? So…a lot of people?

I feel like a lot of people on this thread maybe just are a bit too serious?
I don’t believe you either
But not because of your ‘prank’

When we got Google homes and realised we could set it off with music or beeping or voice notes when one of us was home and it’d be a bit annoying, we definitely did that a couple of times. We didn’t think it was award winning comedy or anything, it was just a stupid thing we did a couple of times

I don’t know why people are rating your joke like that’s the issue HmmGrin

Whatup · 19/07/2021 01:09

Wasn't a very nice trick to make someone think that you might be tracking them and it blew up in your face.

DonLewis · 19/07/2021 01:09

Hmmm, a noisy tracker that beeps at you? Is that right? Of so...

He's not thinking straight here. Why would you put a tracker that lets him know he's being tracked by beeping?

Guilty mind op, gotta be!

QueenBee52 · 19/07/2021 02:37

I don't get the Prank.. how is this a Prank 🤔

If you were tracking him... its a poor method being so noisy like 🤣

he really isn't seeing the woods for the trees is he .. which is.. as everyone has said.. strange in itself.. demanding a Divorce indeed .. very interesting 😏

QueenBee52 · 19/07/2021 02:51

Ooh they look good.. Ive ordered one for my keys .. thanks OP 🌸

Jent13c · 19/07/2021 03:36

Can you imagine the replies if a thread came on here...

I'm really enjoying spending time with my new DP but the other day when I was in the car I found one of his airtags and I am worried that he might be tracking me. What should I do?

There would be a unanimous reply of LTB. It was a weird prank to play and it has backfired and I can understand him being a bit freaked out by it. My DH and I have no cheating/jealousy concerns and have been married a long time but if I came across a tracking device hidden in my stuff it would make me pretty scared of my safety.

0DETTE · 19/07/2021 03:47

It’s not to track people. It’s to help you find items that you’ve misplaced.

My teens have them on their keys, as they are always losing them around the house.

It doesn’t work to track people as it sends you an alert and the keys beep.

So I understand why that would be a prank on the Ops husband.

What I don’t get is her comment about not minding what he gets up to in his spare time.

QueenBee52 · 19/07/2021 04:20

@Jent13c

Can you imagine the replies if a thread came on here...

I'm really enjoying spending time with my new DP but the other day when I was in the car I found one of his airtags and I am worried that he might be tracking me. What should I do?

There would be a unanimous reply of LTB. It was a weird prank to play and it has backfired and I can understand him being a bit freaked out by it. My DH and I have no cheating/jealousy concerns and have been married a long time but if I came across a tracking device hidden in my stuff it would make me pretty scared of my safety.

but it BEEPS continually ... to believe this is a tracker you would need to be pretty stupid...

Whiskycav · 19/07/2021 06:35

but it BEEPS continually ... to believe this is a tracker you would need to be pretty stupid...

Thays working on the presumption everyone knows what they do. And presuming op knew that.

I have heard of them. Though I don't have an apple products so never looked into how they work in detail.

Op dp may not know that or he may think op didn't know that.

I do know that my dd now wants couple 🙄😁

girlmom21 · 19/07/2021 06:59

I'd be pissed if I found a tracking device in my car, to be fair to him.

lovelybitofsquirrell · 19/07/2021 07:06

Yabu.

That's not a funny prank at all. I have nothing to hide from my DP, but would be furious if he did this to me

Farwest · 19/07/2021 07:08

If dh left an airtag in my car, I'd assume he lost it. I wouldn't assume that he was tracking me, nor threaten to leave him for being a crazed stalker.

You relationship is in a dark place.

Eviethyme · 19/07/2021 07:12

If this was me I would be fuming with my husband thinking he was crazy. I also wouldn't believe you because your reason doesn't sound legit and surely you'd want to know why the sound didn't go off and would check in the car and ask if he had heard anything etc.

Not saying your lying but in my eyes my husband would have been lying

TheatricalGiraffe · 19/07/2021 07:13

I don't really get the prank to be honest and I can see why he thinks you're stalking him..

Idk if I found a tracker in my bag/phone app/somewhere on my bike i'd probably hit the roof too..It's not that I have anything to hide I just think my partner should (and does) trust me enough to know that I am where I say I am...If I say i'm going to be late home because i'm going to the gym then his tracker will take me to the gym...
and vice versa for him..

I'm sure you thought there would be a funny side in there somewhere?

Uramaki · 19/07/2021 07:15

I'm not sure what was meant to be funny? That he'd hear a noise and wonder where it was coming from?

I don't think I'd believe you sorry.

Greenwateringcan · 19/07/2021 07:17

I don’t get the joke either.

If my partner or boyfriend put a tracker in my car I would be extremely upset. It’s a deal breaker or damn near it for me.

Uramaki · 19/07/2021 07:22

I've reread it and still genuinely do not get what the "prank" was. I wouldn't be surprised if he leaves you for this, it would be the end for me.

PersonaNonGarter · 19/07/2021 07:25

He’s cheating on you.

Farwest · 19/07/2021 07:25

I think the joke was: he's forever obsessing about noises the car makes. So she was creating another noise in the car via the airtag.

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