AIBU to think this woman was being a bitch?

[Tereo]

My daughter has recently started basketball. She is not keen on going before the training/games as is shy and nervous but seems to really enjoy it once there so I am pushing her for the moment in the hope she'll get into it.
I arrived at a game this morning and DD was dressed in a borrowed uniform shirt but leggings rather than uniform shorts underneath. (We don't have our own official shirt/shorts yet as they have no stock in the shop as the design in the process of being changed. Coach is totally ok with this).
I suggested she wear her own blue shorts but she is shy wearing shorts and said she wanted to wear leggings , so as she is so reluctant going, I said nothing as just want her to feel comfortable at this point.
I don't feel comfortable around the other parents, they are a bit unfriendly but I am happy once DD is enjoying.
As we arrived, a mother I don't know said loudly (so lots of people including DD could hear) 'oh the poor thing she's going to be roasting would she not wear shorts' .. I just replied 'She doesn't like shorts' and she replied 'yes I just insist mine wear them'..
Was this woman being a bitch? My husband things she wasn't (but men have no sensor for this stuff) so I am just curious!

Tactless but not a bitch. I can see why it upset you and would have done me also. I dont know why people feel the need to comment on things like that and publicly draw attention. They obviously don't realise it is embarrassing.

No I don't think so.

Your DD is going to hear worse and even more so if she gets into any kind of competitive sports. I’d just be teaching her how to use her own background noise blocker or to have short sharp responses. In that situation a simple “great, you do you and I’ll do me” would shut it down.

I don’t see how she was being a bitch.

She’s 100% right and your daughter should be wearing shorts. She will roast!

I agree with PP. tactless but not a bitch (although also depends on tone of voice). She should butt out though. Some people haven't got a clue, like I wouldn't dream of making a comment about another person nevermind a child!

Tactless.

Not at all.

It's nearly 30 degrees here today - your DD will roast in leggings!

No, of course not, you’re making the assumption she knew your daughter didn’t like shorts, as she’d have to know that for it to be a bitchy statement, she didn’t know. She was concerned for her.

I don't see this as bitchy. It's summer, leggings are hot, and she'll have no choice regarding shorts when the uniform comes through.

No that's not bitchy. It's just a comment. Being a woman is hard sometimes...men don't seem to over analyse every single interaction like this do they?

I think you are being rather sensitive.

No need at all for her to make a comment. None of her business. She may have had a point though!

Couldn’t get offended at this, it was a passing comment, not a criticism.

I wouldn’t think anything of this at all. If anything I’d assume she was trying to start a chat. It’s a bit tactless (she doesn’t know if your daughter has a reason to not wear shorts) but it’s really not that rude. Certainly not rude enough to be in a strop about it or call her names.

Not bitchy. Just a perfect mam. in her own head

Smile and ignore. Her opinion is just that. And if you don’t want her opinion, ignore it.

but men have no sensor for this stuff

No, they just don't dwell on imaginary bitchiness.

Def bitchy if she’s loudly addressing this in earshot of others. Bit of an ambush

Is it that odd if a teenager doesn’t want to wear shorts in this situation? Girls can be insecure at that age. Wearing shorts involves removing body hair and moisturising minimum, if not wearing fake tan or being embarrassed at having scars or blemishes or dark knees etc. And that’s if they even like the shape of their legs!

Beyond that, leggings are a workout staple & her choice of wearing them really didnt need addressing publicly

If I was her and already hesitant to go, this woman’s comments would have knocked my confidence further

None of her business and I think the 'poor thing' comment can be really rude and degrading sometimes.

See stuff like this makes me super paranoid. This is the sort of thing I might blurt out but don't mean any offence.

Try, "Please don't make things worse."

A bit pointless perhaps but not bitchy.
Of course, only part of communication is the actual words so without hearing the tone and seeing the body language, it's impossible to say for sure

Thanks everyone always interesting to get the two perspectives! Well good to know I'm not a lunatic as others understand why this might be upsetting and good to hear from those who think I'm being silly. Probably just a throwaway remark. Think it's just because it's so emotionally draining getting dd into stuff as she's so shy so did feel a little like an ambush as pp said.
I'll forget about it now.
Dd enjoyed the game so all good!

I don’t think YABU. Saying ‘poor thing’ about a strangers child is rude enough. Adding ‘I would insist’ is basically saying her parenting is better than yours. Yes I’d I’ve replied ‘good for you’ and rolled my eyes at the bitch.

Not a bitch but rude and thoughtless to comment on someone like that so publicly