... to ask if there was small things you could change about your DH/DP

[Blueskywhy]

This is not meant to be super serious. I've been reading/trying this tiny habits book/approach. I find it helpful, and was thinking about changes that my DH could make.

The changes I'd make:

• Ensure empty pockets before putting on the washing machine
• Lock the door when you go out of the house
• Don't use the shared laptop when searching/buying stuff online, we can all see it!

I adore the the bones of my DP but I’ve never seen anyone take so long to make two cups of coffee and a round of toast.

It’s not a “if I do it shit queen will do it” thing, he happily cooks and washes up, offers to help when I’m cooking etc, so it’s not a being rubbish at food prep thing, but it’s so bizarre to watch and usually my toast is then cold

@afaloren

I’d like him to stop deliberately leaving one individual sheet of loo paper on the roll so he can avoid replacing it.

He’s pretty amazing but that does annoy me.

Oh I forgot this one! Drives me mad.

He also starts a new bottle of shampoo or shower gel before the old one is finished. So by the time I've worked through the dregs, the new one is nearly empty.

Tried to think of something that I'd changed and couldn't.

It's not that he never does anything that annoys me, it's more that he never does anything annoying consistently enough for me to call it out!

Eat with his mouth closed !

I should be home by a quarter to eight actually means ten past nine. And add at least 45 minutes to all other timings he gives me. After the first 5 years I learnt to mentally adjust expected arrival times and if we go anywhere tell him he needs to arrive 45 minutes before he does. He does not do this for anything work related about which he is scrupulous.

I want to add stop snoring to my list. DH is about to get booted down to the spare room.

I'd like DP to stop describing it as 'cold' anytime the weather isn't blazing sunshine and 30C heat. Like, a cloudy 21C day isn't 'cold'. Irritating beyond belief.

This. And it's 30° here today and he's fully dressed in long sleeves, long trousers, socks, shoes.... I'm melting just looking at him 😅

@Blossomtoes

If mine looked like Martin Kemp he could do anything he liked.

He has aged so, so well. Much better looking now than when he was younger.

Don't mix cement in every single plastic washing bowl I ever buy!

I'd have him accept that we are entitled to have nice things rather than try and do without or only accept the cheapest, nastiest option that won't last five minutes before self destructing or will give an 'it'll do' feeling and a sad little sigh rather than give pleasure, whether food, clothing, household items or anything else.

'We're not worthy' is a sentiment best left in the 1990s. We are fucking worth whatever we want.