To say clicking your fingers for my attention is disrespectful and rude

[RoseMartha]

My teen thinks this is an acceptable way of getting my attention. To usually ask me for something she can do for herself ie get a drink or some clothes or the remote.

I have just had serious words with her and explained consequence if it happens again.

Today was not the first time it has happened and just explaining that I find it offensive has clearly not been enough.

But would you find it rude?
Or am I being over sensitive?

Very rude. Do not acknowledge when she does it

OMG anyone doing that to me would NEVER do it again it is the height of rudeness. Your teen is showing you she thinks you are a house servant.
She would be having no access to screens, phones or the internet for 3 months if that was my teen.

Very rude, I would completely ignore any request made like that! And as you say she can do any of those things herself anyway!

Clicking for your attention?
That's rude and disrespectful.
I wouldn't like that at all.

Extremely rude. Ignore the clicking.

Incredibly rude, I wouldn’t tolerate that at all! A lot of us are guilty of pandering to our teens a bit but I’d be on strike if they clicked their fingers at me!

Join in. Start singing the Jets and Sharks song from West Side Story. Bet she'll stop!

Omg I used to work in a bar and anyone who did this got swiftly told they were going to the back of the queue - absolute height of rudeness!

I'm surprised you have to ask. Never appropriate except as a mutual joke. Ignore.

I'd stop waiting on her anyway.

Absolutely unacceptable. I worked in a pub restaurant, and it was actual policy that anyone clicking fingers for the waitress was just ignored.

Where has she ever seen anyone doing it? Where on earth has she picked it up from?!

Completely ignore. So, so rude.
People used to do this when I was a waitress and I’d make a point of walking straight past them.
You’re her mother and worthy of much more respect than that.

I tell our kids that it’s my job to help them with things they can’t do themselves, not do the things they just don’t want to do for themselves.

Wow I remember when I was helping at a coffee morning as a guide leader and an old woman whistled at me to her my attention. I promptly told her I wasn't a dog and served some one else. No scones for her.

I would be raging if someone in my own home did that to me. Strong words would be had.

Where on earth did she get the idea that it was acceptable?

Ugh, DD20 who works in a pub told me a customer did this to her the other day. They also whistled like she was a dog. Horrible behaviour.

My ds7 clicked his mouth like you would to gee up a horse once.Big mistake.Never happened since its so disrespectful.

You have to laugh at the audacity of the clickers, whistlers and gee up -ers.

Its absolutely shocking that she thinks this is in any way acceptable behaviour. I'd stop being her personal slave regardless of the finger clicking.

This is just awful behaviour. Don't respond when she does it, and don't do what she's asking unless she says please.

Perhaps you need to revert back to when she was a toddler and you taught her manners - because she's clearly forgotten somewhere along the line!

So rude! Be totally deaf to it, and never do anything for her that she could do for herself.

If she wants something fetching from another room, tell her that's why she has legs and learned to walk on them!

I'm afraid it is something that makes me almost literally see red. My SIL did it to me one Christmas, to alert me to the fact that she had again drained her glass. I went inside, and my BIL and DH ducked behind the bench at the sight of my face. That was the last time I got That Woman a drop or a morsel that Christmas.

My kids have some degree of self preservation instincts and would never, ever, EVER do that.

Who the hell does she think she is, and what the hell does she think you are? Staff? No, Little Lady Muck, you're fair and far out there.

Don’t explain
I would be saying “ do not ever do that again”
And walk away leaving her to fetch her own things

it's very rude.
my response would be to laugh at her and then totally ignore her. she can get it her bloody self!

Extremely extremely rude.