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Original poster

Can I go to hospital for stitches and not give details?

142 replies

indecis · 16/07/2021 12:51

As above really - I had a stupid accident which has left me with a very bad cut on my arm which just isn't healing, however for complicated reasons I suspect the doctors will think someone has done it to me and that would create a lot of problems in my life. How much can I not tell them?

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Coldilox · 16/07/2021 12:51

The more you don’t tell them, the more concerned they will be

Cheerio21 · 16/07/2021 12:53

If someone actually hasn't done it to you why can't you just tell them what you've done?

As pp less you say the more they'll act

UrAWizHarry · 16/07/2021 12:53

What will raise concerns is if you are evasive about it.

They have literally heard everything, just tell the truth.

Flyingbiscuits · 16/07/2021 12:53

If it was a stupid accident then that’s what you tell them. What are you trying to keep from them?

Minfilia · 16/07/2021 12:53

Are you already involved with SS or something? Pretty weird way to behave.

Orf1abc · 16/07/2021 12:54

Tell them about your stupid accident, they'll have heard worse.

Even posting on here, does make it seem there's more to this than you're letting on. Are you safe?

Streamingbannersofdawn · 16/07/2021 12:54

They will have heard every stupid explanation in the book. I've genuinely had to go with the "I walked into a door...no really!" before, I am quite clumsy always have been.

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indecis · 16/07/2021 12:57

It genuinely was a stupid accident, however I'm in the process of family court re custody of my daughter and I'm just so paranoid this will look like I either self harmed or someone else hurt me, in which case I fear they'll have to raise it with appropriate authorities. My ex will use absolutely anything he can against me. If it's just my paranoia then that's good, I think he's just put me in a place where I don't trust anyone anymore :(

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elevenses75 · 16/07/2021 12:58

You’ll be surprised how many people do stuff like that, better or have an honest explanation they lie and be caught out as it looks odd.

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indecis · 16/07/2021 12:59

@Orf1abc I don't feel particularly safe with regards to my ex but this is completely unrelated. Just got drunk and fell over!

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Cheerio21 · 16/07/2021 12:59

Just tell them what happened op, nothing surprises NHS staff they've seen and heard it all.
Hope you get sorted.

Kinneddar · 16/07/2021 13:00

Theyre more likely to get the Police etc involved if you show up with an injury and won't give them any details. That's much more a red flag. Just be honest

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indecis · 16/07/2021 13:00

I'm the clumsiest person known to man so am no stranger to a&e and normally wouldn't think twice. Being told daily I'm useless and an unfit mum has evidently affected me more than I'd like to admit

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onlyhereforthecake · 16/07/2021 13:02

[quote indecis]@Orf1abc I don't feel particularly safe with regards to my ex but this is completely unrelated. Just got drunk and fell over! [/quote]
You don't need to be drunk to fell over!

(ask the amount of parents still traumatised because they tripped and fell with a baby in their arms, and the majority of the babies didn't even notice...)

It happens, you feel - rushed, tripped on something. It's the truth.

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indecis · 16/07/2021 13:02

@Streamingbannersofdawn I walked into a door the other day! Totally sober, just bump into anything within a few feet radius. I feel sorry for my daughter who appears to have inherited the clumsy gene... Grin

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Boodah · 16/07/2021 13:02

If you're drunk enough to fall over and need stitches whilst caring for your kids then it sounds like ss need to be involved and your ex has every right to stand up and use this against you.

I'm assuming now you'll say you weren't with your kids at the time but only you know the truth.

Oysterbabe · 16/07/2021 13:03

You don't even need to mention the drunk bit. Just say you fell over and caught it on whatever you caught it on. No biggie, happens all the time.

Boodah · 16/07/2021 13:04

@Oysterbabe

You don't even need to mention the drunk bit. Just say you fell over and caught it on whatever you caught it on. No biggie, happens all the time.
Getting so drunk that you need stitches doesn't happen all the time

I'm so confused why many other posters are trying to give the op 'get out clauses'

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indecis · 16/07/2021 13:05

@Boodah Ok... well I obviously can't win either way and to be honest, your opinion is neither helpful nor going to be given another moment's thought but just to clarify - I don't drink when my kids are around. I hope for your sake it's not experience that has made you jump to that conclusion so quickly.

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StrangeToSee · 16/07/2021 13:06

You don’t have to say you were drunk if that’s the embarrassing bit. Just say you were rushing and tripped over something/slipped in a puddle of juice?

Cheerio21 · 16/07/2021 13:06

@Boodah
You have no idea where op was or who she was with.
People need stitches all the time when they've fell drunk.

Sidge · 16/07/2021 13:07

Well if it's an older injury that's not healing it's very unlikely it'll be sutured anyway.

You could see the practice nurse at your surgery for a non healing wound that needs dressing.

NeverDropYourMoonCup · 16/07/2021 13:07

Was the stupid accident something like you trying to catch a knife you'd dropped whilst washing up - or was the stupid accident that the man holding it 'didn't actually mean' to stab you, but 'only to scare you' or 'forgot I had it in my hand when you annoyed me' and he happened to trip and fall whilst pointing it at your chest?

CaptainMyCaptain · 16/07/2021 13:07

I have a gash on my knee because I walked into the dishwasher door 5 minutes ago. It happens. If you refuse to give details they will automatically suspect the worst

3scape · 16/07/2021 13:07

Maybe if you're this "clumsy" you need to get some support for it? My mum used to tell everyone I was very clumsy too. I think you need to be honest. I was very rightly taken off her.