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Can I go to hospital for stitches and not give details?

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indecis · 16/07/2021 12:51

As above really - I had a stupid accident which has left me with a very bad cut on my arm which just isn't healing, however for complicated reasons I suspect the doctors will think someone has done it to me and that would create a lot of problems in my life. How much can I not tell them?

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Lovemusic33 · 16/07/2021 15:50

Go to the chemist and get some steri strips and stick the wound together? As long as it’s clean and not bleeding they a doubt hospital would stitch it anyway.

PurpleWaterBlue · 16/07/2021 15:50

I broke my toe flushing the toilet.

My slipper bent up the pedestal, bending my toe tip back with it. I took no notice till my toe turned purple.

Medics have heard weirder than tripping on a paving slab and catching your arm on a gate.

That's all that happened. Some alcohol in your system is irrelevant. You would not tell them if you were in a post shag daze when you fell or was blissed out because you just ate a whole block of chocolate to yourself.

Just tell them the facts without embellishment and get yourself treated.

Hope you feel better soon.

PurpleWaterBlue · 16/07/2021 15:53

P.S

I put post shag daze because I did exactly that.

Got up off the sofa (yeah, am classy), fell straight over without taking a step and smacked my head of the sideboard.

ScrollingLeaves · 16/07/2021 16:09

“iloveeverykindofcat

Honestly, 'I got drunk and fell over' would be one of the least remarkable explanations presented at A and E that day. They literally do this every Friday and Saturday night.“

No, don’t do this. It has no relevance.

Just because they see this all the time does not mean they think it’s fine.

OP could do without ‘drunken accident’ in her notes.

sillybut · 16/07/2021 16:15

Best to tell them I think they'll have heard it all before.

I had to take dd once because she did something to her thumb picking up a cup of tea!! At first they thought she may have broken a small bone in her hand but eventually decided it was soft tissue damage - we never worked out how she achieved it but the doctor said they'd heard weirder things!! I honestly thought I'd end up the subject of a social services investigation - I mean whose child does that picking up a flipping mug?

ClawedButler · 16/07/2021 16:20

It's that common that doctors refer to it between themselves as a PFO (pissed, fell over)

Just because you'd had a drink, it doesn't mean you don't deserve medical treatment.

sillybut · 16/07/2021 16:22

@indecis

Thanks everyone, I'll speak to the gp surgery today and explain, I feel much more confident now :)

I'll also look into dyspraxia, I've heard of it but no idea what it is. I'd be very interested to know if there's a medical cause, I've just been assuming I'm a total klutz!

OP, I'm dyspraxic and it sounds like you are too. Other symptoms can include a poor sense of direction, poor fine motor skills (bad writing, difficulty with DIY for example) difficulty driving, trouble organising yourself and a long list of other things. If you recognise any of those on top of your clumsiness, there's a good chance you're dyspraxic

GreyhoundG1rl · 16/07/2021 16:23

@ClawedButler

It's that common that doctors refer to it between themselves as a PFO (pissed, fell over)

Just because you'd had a drink, it doesn't mean you don't deserve medical treatment.

There is no suggestion whatsoever that medical treatment will be (or should be) denied to op. This thread is beyond peculiar.

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indecis · 16/07/2021 18:35

@LatteLoverLovesLattes yes! They weren't faxed in the slightest, told me to go to the chemist to get some proper dressing, and to at least show someone to make sure it's healing properly albeit slowly, call 111 or go to the walk in if I have any worries over the weekend but otherwise they don't think they need to see me. Should I still want them to I can call first thing on Monday and get a same day appointment

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MagicalCreatures · 16/07/2021 20:36

Please ignore some of the nasty comments OP.
I too have left my narcissistic, mind game playing, manipulating and gas lighting ex husband who, even though was a terrible, selfish father, has decided to make my life hell cos I dare have the cheek to leave him and now questions me everytime my 2 year old son gets a bruise on his knee.
I have trust issues and go into a fit of panic everytime my son falls over now.
I've taken up smoking a few cigarettes on the evening again (after quitting years ago) due to the stress of the divorce and the every day battle I face and I'm convinced he is going to catch me and prove to the courts that I'm a terrible mother for smoking.
I know that sounds ridiculous to some but honestly, it's my reality

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indecis · 16/07/2021 21:14

@MagicalCreatures you have my full sympathy and understanding, my ex and yours would get along very well I think! It's bloody hard isn't it. Mine questions my family, my friends, won't allow me to have babysitters etc. It's mentally and emotionally draining, however much people say to just ignore it. I live in hope that he'll eventually lose interest in controlling me, I only hope he doesn't attempt to inflict the same on my daughter :(

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CommanderBurnham · 16/07/2021 21:26

Just go to A and E. Tell them you fell over. That's it.

EleanorOlephantisjustfine · 16/07/2021 21:56

@indecis

It genuinely was a stupid accident, however I'm in the process of family court re custody of my daughter and I'm just so paranoid this will look like I either self harmed or someone else hurt me, in which case I fear they'll have to raise it with appropriate authorities. My ex will use absolutely anything he can against me. If it's just my paranoia then that's good, I think he's just put me in a place where I don't trust anyone anymore :(

They will know whether you genuinely have had a stupid accident and whether what you tell them is feasible. The more evasive you are the more concerned they will be

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indecis · 16/07/2021 22:54

I've since spoken to my gp surgery who have said it doesn't need a&e and didn't seem remotely concerned about what happened. Which in hindsight, I appreciate was a bit of a needless concern, I just rather unhelpfully talked myself into getting stressed about it! Sometimes you just need someone to be practical for you and tell you it's really not a big thing :)

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ShitPoetryClub · 16/07/2021 23:05

He's done a proper job on you hasn't he
The NHS and SS are there to help not judge.
Don't ever believe the bastard if he says otherwise.

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indecis · 16/07/2021 23:12

@ShitPoetryClub he really has and it's so frustrating because logically I know none of it is true but emotionally I just haven't got there yet. I trust my doctor to an extent and have an extremely good counsellor who I trust a lot but that's about it in terms of professional bodies. As much as I can possibly manage I don't let him see that he gets to me but it's very, very draining :(

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LatteLoverLovesLattes · 17/07/2021 07:07

[quote indecis]@LatteLoverLovesLattes yes! They weren't faxed in the slightest, told me to go to the chemist to get some proper dressing, and to at least show someone to make sure it's healing properly albeit slowly, call 111 or go to the walk in if I have any worries over the weekend but otherwise they don't think they need to see me. Should I still want them to I can call first thing on Monday and get a same day appointment[/quote]
Excellent!! Well done 😊How's it looking today?

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