Can I go to hospital for stitches and not give details?

[indecis]

As above really - I had a stupid accident which has left me with a very bad cut on my arm which just isn't healing, however for complicated reasons I suspect the doctors will think someone has done it to me and that would create a lot of problems in my life. How much can I not tell them?

You're far better off being honest - chances are the A and E staff won't give a shit and just say 'oh dear' and move on. If you lie or are evasive that could have worse consequences in the long run.

@Boodah I didn't say "so drunk". I said drunk. If you're not clumsy by nature it must be a breeze

Is it possible you have dyspraxia? I have a friend whose child was diagnosed a few years ago. Apparently her and half her family are now believed to have it too but were just called clumsy and careless as children.

[quote Cheerio21]@Boodah
You have no idea where op was or who she was with.
People need stitches all the time when they've fell drunk. [/quote]
If op had no reason to hide the truth she wouldn't be here looking for excuses.

if the genuine reason op needs stitches is innocent then why worry about telling the hospital what happened.

If the truth is she got so drunk that she ended up needing stitches, there's no reason to lie about it if she wasn't with her kids like she says

She's clearly worried probably because she's done something that will jeopardise her custody battle... maybe rightly so

Just go and get it sorted and get your explanation ready.

[quote indecis]@Boodah I didn't say "so drunk". I said drunk. If you're not clumsy by nature it must be a breeze [/quote]
If you're drunk enough to fall and need stitches then it doesn't look good does it... in terms of being a responsible parent

@NeverDropYourMoonCup no, not at all, I was walking around the back of my house in the dark, like a drunken idiot, and tripped over my own paving, fell and caught my arm on the neighbour's gate. I don't even know what caused the bad cut but I have plenty of grazes and so on too. Putting a new bulb in the security light is top of my to do list needless to say

@Boodah so parents can't have a drink?
She said she wasn't with her kids.
As op has she is paranoid from what she is dealing with.
Stop being harsh and get on with your day

@3scape sorry if I'm being dim but what was the reason behind the "clumsiness" that had you taken away? I've been like this since I could walk...

This isn’t an A&E problem really. As suggested above, make an appointment with your practice nurse for the wound to be cleaned and dressed. They don’t usually suture old cuts.

No need to be anything other than honest,‘I slipped over last week and thought it would heal but it hasn’t.’

[quote indecis]@NeverDropYourMoonCup no, not at all, I was walking around the back of my house in the dark, like a drunken idiot, and tripped over my own paving, fell and caught my arm on the neighbour's gate. I don't even know what caused the bad cut but I have plenty of grazes and so on too. Putting a new bulb in the security light is top of my to do list needless to say[/quote]
Then tell them that you tripped on a paving slab in the garden then?

Yup I thought Dyspraxia too - I have this, and my son does too - so your daughter may well have inherited this from you.

We've just had my son diagnosed, and he's getting lots of really useful support, so do look into it. I hope your arm heals soon OP.

[quote Cheerio21]@Boodah so parents can't have a drink?
She said she wasn't with her kids.
As op has she is paranoid from what she is dealing with.
Stop being harsh and get on with your day [/quote]
I'm not being harsh

From what she's said she's clearly done something to jeopardise custody and is looking for a way to conceal it. I don't think it's harsh. If it was genuinely innocent then I've no idea why she's asking if she can tell the hospital nothing about it? Why not just tell the truth if it's as innocent as she suggests

If the cut is old they won't stitch it anyway. Try some steri strips or paper stitches from the chemist. I used these a few years ago after an operation where my wound opened a bit after they removed the stitches. It healed up within a couple of days.

Op, I get it, infact I had a head injury a few weeks ago, I avoided going to hospital because I didn't want them to think it was an attack (like a dick I left the hoover at the top step, just started hoovering down the stairs with the nozzle, pulled the hoover down onto my head! Gave me a right crack)

When I eventually had to go in- still have a headache now! They didn't bat an eyelid!

I was concerned because previously I had a mirror fall and hit me in the head. Nurses in A&E were very concerned that DH had attacked me.

Some of us are just accident prone, but don't go in acting shifty, all it'll do is make them concerned.

Drop that you were drunk, tell them you were just embarrassed.

Next time, go before the kids come back! Even if your ex found out you visited the hospital for a fall, you can say.... I had an accident, the kids were with you! How is that possibly ANY of your business?

Yeah. As I say, I realise I'm just being paranoid but it makes me feel more confident to go and own up to being a clumsy idiot if I can sense check it first :) I don't mind telling the truth, I just got worried it would be taken in the wrong way. Rewind a year and I wouldn't have even thought to worry about it, my ex is something of an expert in mind games unfortunately.

If you're not truthful with them then it will look extremely dodgy.

I can understand that due to ongoing family contact issues and having been told the nasty things that you have by your ex that you would feel very anxious about seeking help. But telling the truth is the only way. They will know if you're not being honest and that will not go down well at all and they would be extremely likely to put in a concern form. Particularly due to the type of injury.

Medical staff honestly hear all types of reasons behind accidents so as long as you're open about it you shouldn't have a need to worry.

I would recommend contacting your GP as the practice nurse or GP would perhaps be best to look at this as they can swab it for any possible infection and also dress it. Also recommend follow on treatment.

Don't leave it untreated as things can get infected so easily and you don't want to risk that.

@Sunshinealligator I'm glad it's not just me that has these ridiculous accidents!

A cut from a paving slab or gate or whatever it is won't look much like a 'cut' wound (which is I think what you're implying from your 'they'll think someone did it to me') comment, because surely there will be grazes/scrapes and probably bruising from the impact.

Just say you fell over - it's the truth. I tripped over a branch, on a footpath I've walked hundreds of times, a couple of days ago and gashed my leg and hands. It's easily done (and I was stone cold sober!) Tripping on some paving in the dark feels like a very normal incident to me.

You need it looking at and properly cleaning then, possibly a tetanus jab too.

@Boodah I think if you read my replies you'd probably answer your own question. I haven't done anything to jeopardise any custody arrangements, I just wanted a sense check and a bit of a confidence boost as I struggle with trust following years of being made to feel I couldn't trust anyone. Why comment at all if you're going to make untrue allegations? Feel free to continue commenting but this will be my last reply, I don't need to defend myself to you.

Unless it is deep or complicated Minor Injuries/Walk In can probably sort it out.

@Boodah. Go away. You're just trying to make it seem bad, she has her dick head Ex for that she doesn't need you

@indecis just see the practice nurse, tell her you tipped over a paving slab in the garden & thought it would just sort itself out, but it hasn't.

Your dickhead Ex has made you worried & paranoid. Wanker. Try not to let his crap affect your day to day life!

Giid luck with custody battle, I hope it's sorted out for the best for your kids!

PS:I'm recovering from major surgery after falling over my own two feet. In. daylight. Stone.cold.sober. It would probably have hurt less if I hadn't been!!

@ReviewingTheSituation I have plenty of accompanying grazes! I'm just being overly paranoid I think, my mind has just gone to a worst case scenario that luckily seems to only be in my head. Silly really!

I cut myself, needing stitches, accidentally when I was alone with kids. It was because I did something stupid and clumsy , at 10 in the morning - nothing to do with drinking. The nurses simply asked how I did it (and didnt ask who was there at the time)