AIBU to have asked my neighbour for milk!!

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I'm very low on money. I found some tea bags and sugar in a cupboard and realized I had no milk!

I haven't had a cuppa for days. So...I asked my neighbour for some milk over the garden fence. I feel like a peasant scumbag now!

She gave me some. And generously let me keep the cup it's come in!

Now I just feel AWFUL! Like some beggar. I feel I shouldn't have asked?

Idk if I was unreasonable to ask or if I'm being precious about getting embarrassed because she said yes! Argh!

Feel free to tell me I'm over reacting or that I shouldn't have done it!

I do plan on returning the cup with some milk in later today when I get food finally delivered...or shouldn't I?

Am I being an overreacting dick?

Don't worry that is what neighbours are for.

I wouldn't give back the milk though it was a kind gesture and giving it back when she said not to would be rude.

You're over reacting. I borrow stuff of my neighbours all the time

I wouldn’t think anything of it if a neighbour asked me for some milk.

I definitely wouldn't give back the milk, but make it clear that you're happy to reciprocate if she runs out sometime (if you can).
I think you both sound like lovely neighbours!

Return the cup but don't return it with milk in it. I'm sure she'll survive without the cup of milk she gave you.

I wouldn't think anything of it either if a neighbour asked me, I'd be happy to help out.

Wouldn't have given it a second thought if my neighbour had asked for milk, or anything else they had run out of. I would maybe replace with a pint next time you go shopping, but if I had given you the milk I wouldn't expect any back.

Overreaction
Fine to make it clear you'd be happy to reciprocate.

I would wash up the cup and return with a little note saying thank you, nothing more than that. We all sometimes need a helping hand. You can return the favour one day when they need help eg a baby say for a neighbour for an hour when she had the dentist, no big deal as I wasn't at work then, we have now borrowed their hedgecutter and strimmer for a weekend. Being neighbourly

Give back the mug and thank her again but I wouldn't give back some milk.

Wouldn't grudge anyone some milk, wpuld be happy to help. I would assume you had ran out and no time to go to shop rather than low on money.

No don't give her the milk back. Who would want to use milk that has been sat in a cup all day in someone else's house? Just wash the cup up and thank them for thier help.

Nope YANBU . Happens to the best of us x I wouldn't mind if a neighbour asked me for a wee bit milk. My old neighbour years ago and me would borrow from each other when we were short . Never cash ,just milk or tea etc

It’s fine, I’ve given neighbours various items over the years and I’ve borrowed sometimes as well. It’s what good neighbours do.

I wouldn’t think anything of it. It would almost be weirder to give them a cup of milk back!

I wouldn't bat an eyelid if a neighbour asked me for milk. I certainly wouldn't expect it back!

Not sure how much you told your neighbour, but I wouldn't assume it was a money thing, I'd assume it was a 'Christ I'm gagging for a cuppa and have no milk' thing

don't feel bad my neighbours have asked for a few things during lockdown Onions, toilet roll and milk. I was happy to help them out.

That’s what neighbours are for and I would not give it a second thought. She probably just thought you had run out that’s all.
My neighbours and I have borrowed/loaned millk, bread, tea bags, milk, butter and even loo rolls in lockdown!
Wash the cup and give it back with smile and thanks and that’s all that’s needed.

Just a thank you will suffice. Bonus if you can return the favour one day. In our street there's usually eggs, tea, coffee, milk etc being shared. Last Saturday our neighbour had her family over for a garden party NA ran out of tonic for the gin. Without ten mins she had been given about five bottles after the s.o.s. was raised

Personally I love when someone asks. I love helping if I can.

Aww thanks guys!! I feel much better now. She DID say to keep the cup...so like someone said, I won't insult her by giving it back. I will drop off a pint when I have cash though. I like ybay idea. Yes we all get on well. I just feel ashamed. But after reading all your replies I'm seeing that I'm definitely getting overly paranoid about this!

I am lucky to have nice neighbours! I might go out and chat with them now actually!

Thanks all!! Feel MUCH BETTER and less ashamed now!!

@Durham Durham wow! That's next level neighbourly love! Cool!

@TheAwfulTruth I explained that I was desperate for a cuppa and had no milk. I don't THINK I said I was skint...that would have felt a bit like pleading poverty to me. But I found that sugar and teabags and was like....ahhhh MILK! The need for tea was HUGE lol.

If I was your neighbour I'd be happy to have been able to do something helpful. No judgement - most of us have been there at some point.

I’d return the cup and thank her again. I definitely wouldn’t fill it with milk! I’d maybe stick a wrapped treat like a Twix in it if I had any in the house (for her to have with her next cup of tea) but returning the clean cup and thanking her again is fine. I think you both sound lovely.

Our neighbours always ask for things on the group chat