To be pissed off at MIL.

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My husband has fertility issues which were diagnosed during his first marriage, whichended in 2017. He had some treatment and an incomplete round of IVF with his then wife and then his marriage ended.

We have been married for 11 months and are booked in to be seen end of August to see what our options are and up to date diagnoses/reports etc etc.

My MIL has ordered some ‘holistic treatment’ from her native country for my husband to take so we may conceive.

She hasn’t mentioned it to me, only to him. In fact she whispered to him yesterday she may be coming over to ours today. I found out about this ‘treatment’ after I asked him why she was informing him of coming over to ours and didn’t mention anything to me.

I feel disrespected. The conception journey is for us both.

AIBU for being extremely fucked off by what she has done? Or is it non if my business because I’m not the one who has any ‘problems’ on paper?

I wouldn't get concerned. She's trying to help and perhaps it's hard for her that it's her son unable to get you pregnant, it's caused (or contributed) to one failed marriage. I would see it as a sign she wants you to produce a grandchild no more than that. They aren't for you, why worry? He probably isn't wanting them either but sometimes it's easier to placate mothers!

Honestly, it may be a cultural thing.

Male infertility can be a touchy and shameful subject, and possibly she believes she can fix the problem for you. It's not so much about your journey with him, as much it is preparing him to be able to take the journey with you.

I do understand your frustrution, and I wish you all the luck in the world! Just try not take it personally. She propably takes it personally that her son cant provide you with children (I know how it sounds believe me, but in some cultures -especially in previous generations- it 's a big thing)

She's helping her son with his medical issue. YABU.