Cooking Dinner for DH!

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DH has started his long awaited sports training again tonight he's not been for 18m.

Disclaimer: We have no big red flags, he's not an abuser, we've been together well over a decade and he is (usually!) a good man. This is a bit lightheaded but it also has annoyed me a bit.

I'm a sahm so I do most of the cooking (fine). Our children are preschool/just older so eat at 5pm and we usually eat when they're in bed about 7:30.

So I've already cooked the children's dinner, and will be cooking mine when children are asleep. He doesn't like what I've got. I do not mind chucking DH in a quick freezer dinner or bowl of soup if he rings me on the way home from training but tonight he actually expected me to cook him a proper dinner when he rings me at 9:30 (when I'm likely to be getting ready for bed!) to say he's on his way back!

I have some fresh spicy breaded chicken and I was going to do him that with some oven chips and beans. He said 'oh the chicken sounds nice but could I have it with some roasted mini potatoes and roasted Mediterranean veg?'

Erm, no! And he had a mild/medium sulk when I said no, either you have a quick oven/microwave dinner after training when it's late and I've already cooked or you sort your bloody self out!

YABU: You're a horrible wife, feed your man what he wants, the poor lamb
YANBU: You're not a chef and he is an entitled man child trying his luck!

YANBU

Cheeky sod!

YANBU. You’re not a restaurant. Neither are you a maid. Stand your ground.

That did make me laugh, the cheeky sod!

Definitely YANBU

Nope. If it were me, he'd be getting the same as I ate, on a plate.

Which he could re-heat himself in the microwave when he got in. If he wanted anything different he'd be cooking it himself.

Um, you what? What did his last personal chef and bottle washer die of?!

If it were me, he'd be getting the same as I ate, on a plate.

Yes same here, or he'd get himself a bowl of cereal

YANBU, tell him there’s no menu as it’s not a fucking restaurant

Eh?! If he comes in at 930 he gets his own tea if he doesn’t want what you’ve already made whether you’re a sahm or not as far as I’m concerned (I was one for 8 years)

I honestly didn't mind shoving a couple of bits of chicken and a handful of chips on a tray and sticking them in the oven. Would have taken me a minute and then they'd be cooked by the time he got home and he'd have nuked the beans and dished up when he got in.

Well that's how it used to work!

Instead now he has no dinner because he was a sulky brat when I objected to preparing, seasoning par boiling then roasting half of his meal.

I think lockdown has given him delusions of grandeur!

What a self-absorbed prick of a man.

PMSL, just read that out to DH who looked over his glasses to say 'what the everloving fuck? Holy shit!'

Hard-working husbands coming home late should always be given a choice of dinner.

Salt and Vinegar or Ready Salted.

We just cook teo portion of whatever is being cooked and keep 1 on a side for peraon coming later.
If one of us started fussing they want something else, they would get told to shut the trap and eat what's made😂
Just like my papa used to do😂

YANBU. You’re not a restaurant.

What is he training for? Unless he's a professional athlete it's just exercise of we're honest. All these me treating their hobby like a profession are too much! He can get his own fucking dinner.

Who does he think he is?!!!! Lmfao

You're not his chef. I'd tell him to go and get a McDonalds.

@thistimelastweek how dare you! You’ve forgotten cheeses and onion.

YANBU! In the words of DPs mum (when he was a child) "you don't have to like it, you just have to eat it" (or he can make himself something).

I can't believe he even asked

@Tlollj you beat me to it

YANBU. He's deluded. You could cook double your dinner and leave his to be reheated, or he sorts his own dinner out at lunch time/before he goes to his training. Don't give in to his ridiculous expectation of a freshly cooked dinner on the table when he gets home after training.

Or tell he gets a jump at the door and a bite of the knob ( that what I got told a s a kid when I pestered for food )

I make one pan dinners for nights like this. Tonight we had burritos. I made the chilli mix for DDs to have at 4.30 before clubs. DH had his when he got in from work, and I had mine when I got home with DDs.