Neighbors

[Ubradgh]

So I’ve thought about writing this for a while. We’ve bought a beautiful house in the most perfect village. Everyone is absolutely lovely. Except our next door neighbors. We both have massive (to me) gardens. The husband has told me that his wife wants absolute privacy whenever she is home. Which is bizarre because they have an extension with windows which look out into our gardens. So when we moved in they didn’t want us to cut down our trees. We cut them to our preferences and they were not happy! 9foot our side. The other thing they have a massive problem is , the Bbq. They say we should only cook when they are not home: they are vegi. I have obvs laughed at this . But they are very vocal when im out in the garden doing anything now. Also, they have a dog that howls all bloody day. So am I BU? Yes we have bbq whenever the weather allows , probably 40feet away from their house:

I'm guessing the previous owner was a quiet little old lady and they don't like an actual normal family living next door. They are being territorial. Take no notice.

Nearly! I think they bullied the old owners of my house. Yes you are right I need to be strong!

Tell them to piss off

Is this in the USA?

I'm not fond of bbq smells though I wouldn't complain. But "whenever the weather allows" could mean daily! They are smelly and (sometimes) smoky. The other comments about privacy just sound weird.

Ignore them, do your thing.
They sound a bit batshit to me.

Being totally unreasonable it’s your home, ignore

Ignore ignore ignore. They sound very precious and demanding

🍗 cook away

I think I'd BBQ even more regularly as it's my garden and my choice (I should add I don't BBQ near my neighbours washing or play loud music etc).

I'd have so much fun.....

Uk, and honestly about 40 feet away from their hedge: I’m actually closer to the other neighbors smoke wise!

Are you in the UK? Most councils have laws about loud dog noise and you could put in a complaint about it! keep a journal.

If they want more tree privacy, they can grow them on your side.

A BBQ can be smelly and annoying if you have washing out or windows open. How often are you having them? I agree though, they sound bonkers.

I want to live quietly and peaceably, but like you, I have had to learn strategies to deal with people and things like this, people trying to take over my personal space.

I would say, quite strongly: please take up your own space - be in your space, use it and be actively seen in it.

I actively encourage visitors to mine, I welcome particularly other peoples husbands/cars/people dropping things off/encourage visitors to spend a little time chatting outdoors/stopping for coffee, literally just exercising my right to be in and using my own space.

....otherwise neighbours are “pushing” against my boundaries to a degree.

I would say don’t be apologetic, just go about your business.

Batshit neighbours! Ignore their existence, even if they are hollering your name over the fence.

Put corrugated iron up to obscure the view to your garden from their window, they will appreciate the privacy

Next time they moan say what are your plans to stop your dog howling all day long. Don't come preaching to me how we live our life and we won't come preaching to you. I respect you are a vegatarian and I dont complain when your cooking smells waft through the air, so please resect that I eat meat and you may on occasion smell our cooking aromas.
As for our trees, they are ours, we will cut them as we please, feel free to plant your own trees, we won't tell you how to cut them.
Now if you don't mind, focus on your own life and keep that nose out of mine. If you persist to make comments that I can hear we will take this further as harassment.

Absolutely batshit! Of course, it is neighbourly to consider the people around you to some extent. But this is ridiculous, you'll never please crazies like these, don't even try.

Are they for real? I have one sibling who is vegan and another who is vegetarian, and neither would ever have dreamed of making such a strange demand even of family. Never mind a neighbor! As for privacy, the wife will be spending a lot of time in her bedroom with curtains drawn, I gather. Because I fail to see what it has to do with you.

Good god op! They are batshit! What is it with neighbours these days? Enjoy you lovely garden 💐

They say we should only cook when they are not home

Wtaf!? So they expect you to wait for them to leave the house to eat?

The husband has told me that his wife wants absolute privacy whenever she is home.

He's invading your privacy by dictating how you live your life, there's nothing anti-social here accept him, plus his dog howling through the day. Does he collar you when you leave the house to say all of this or knock on your door?

OP, when the husband tells you all this, you could just burst out laughing and tell him to fuck off.

If he's vocal when you are in the garden, be vocal back the more offensive the better.

You could have a lot of fun with this.

You can tell them that you hope they plan to be out a lot when the weather is nice then, because you have every right to peaceful enjoyment of your house and garden. Peaceful means not being harassed whenever you go outside.

OP💐 ....until you have bullying neighbours people won't understand how stressful it is!..this is the idiots I have to deal with👇☹

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4291715-My-dog-bit-a-cat?pg=1

I understand you OP.
My NDN waited Until I was putting my bin out to catch me.
He asked e to keep my non barking dog inside because his wife doesn’t like the look of him.
Since we have 8 foot fences, I suggested that she stops looking out of her upstairs window