To dislike going to friends house because of her dog?

[TomForddr]

I’ve never owned a dog in my life, I’m not scared of them but I’m definitely not the most confident.

Friends dog is around 7 months but seems pretty much fully grown and he gets so excited every single time you walk in, constantly jumping all over you.

Today I walked in and he’s behind a baby gate going crazy once he sees me, friend tells him to go outside, I wait by the baby gate and friend says “do you to come through then and go outside and see him” - got the impression the dog wouldn’t calm down otherwise.

At this point I got scared, but walked through anyway and of course he comes running up to me, jumps up, scratched me down my arm. No blood but enough that the scratches are still present hours later.

Friend didn’t seem too bothered, she does react and pull him off but she’s not quick enough and he kept coming back to do it. She even told me yesterday he’d drawn blood from another visitor.

I’m sat on the sofa and he’s climbing all over me at every opportunity, at one point licked the glass that was in my house. Gets in my face to the point I’m scared of being bir.

Is this normal? I get that puppies won’t be the best trained, but I’m constantly on edge in her house and it’s not enjoyable to see her anymore.

I don't like dogs and I don't go to the houses of people who have badly behaved ones. They can soil clothing when they jump up or even ruin it. You are not being unreasonable.

YANBU. Our dog can act like that when my siblings come to visit as he loves them and they love him and make a fuss but when anyone else comes to visit he is on his lead with it tied to a chair and one of us sits with him for the duration. A friend of mine is afraid of dogs. She hasn’t come to visit yet due to lockdowns but he will either be outside or tied up for her visit or I’ll send him to daycare.

He is just very badly trained - or to be more accurate, not trained at all.

My dogs are taught "paws on the floor" from a very early age

It's pretty normal behaviour for a dog of that age, they're like oversized, overexcited toddlers.

That said, she needs to be training him not to do it or he'll just carry on. Mine were bloody nutcases at that age and training them was a nightmare but as adults they all behaved well. One won't jump at all anymore and and the other only jumps when invited to. Same with being on the furniture. Ddog2 doesn't even try and Ddog1 waits with big pitiful eyes to be invited. But holy fuck they were hard work as adolescents.

Tell her you don’t like dogs jumping at you and would she keep the dog in another room when you come round? If she refuses then she’s a rubbish friend and dog owner.

Meh I tend to let my dogs jump over people I'm not fussed about visiting

Why, to make them leave because they’ve over stayed?

Dogs can cause injuries by accident. I’ve lost count of the times my dog, when I was training him, accidentally knocked me over, head butted me, scratched, knocked my hot coffee into my lap. Once he even knocked me backwards into a river because he jumped up to lick my face 😳

Dogs need training, firm discipline, even the friendliest dog can cause injury or distress to visitors. They need to learn they get crated or shut in the garden/another room when people visit, unless the visitor asks to meet them. Even then a dog who jumps up or scrambles on a guest is an embarrassment! You train them to lie or sit quietly.

If a host’s dog jumped on me I’d tell them to please shut him away. If they refused I’d try disciplining dog myself (each time it approaches stand up, say ‘no, leave it, get back’ loudly and gruffly and point to its basket or crate.)

I hate it when the owner of the dog doesn't stop it from jumping all over you if you go round. I avoid going in people's houses who have a dog. Don't get me wrong they are cute but I'm not a dog person and highly allergic. I feel I can't tell the owner to put pet outside or in another room because that is the dogs home not mine.