I need to know if this would piss you off, or if my hormones and general level of irritation with DH is colouring my perception (he'll be back in 10 mins so quick answers appreciated)

[Twiglett]

took DS (6.9) and DD (3.6) on short errand to friend's house at bottom of road

about half-way there DD went flying and screamed blue murder so popped into another friend's house 10 doors away from our house

DD's lip swollen and split .. sent DS back to ours for an ice-pack after 5 mins .. DS told DH what had happened and brought one back.. we stayed at friend's house another 10 mins applying ice and pressure to try to stop bleeding

would you have expected DH to come back with DS with the ice pack to check on his DD? and not just stay in our house (10 doors down)?

would you?

no.... don't think I would, sorry

hope dd is OK now, btw

lips bleed a LOT, don't they?

yes i would twiglett
yanbu

is she okay now?

Yes I would.

How's DD?

No probably not.

no she's not ok yet but it looks slightly less swollen (she can't eat ice cream though which is a bad sign I feel)

he's gone out to pharmacy for his meds (left it to the last minute again)

I'm just generally irritated by him tbh

I don't think DH would have come - he would have been very concerned about DD when she returned, but I don't think it would have occurred to him to come over, tbh.
I think he would have assumed that I'd have asked him to come if I needed him.

I would think it nice if he did, but wouldn't expect it.

No. You were there, you were dealing, you had sent your son to get a pack, not to get help, which means it's not serious. He trusts you to handle it.

No wouldn't really expect it tbh, but I guess it would have been nice of him to do it.

yes, i'd expect to come back and see DD and also to make sure DS could get back on his own...unless he was looking after another child?

yes fair enough .. he didn't NEED to come .. IABU

No wouldn't expect it, but it would be nice if he had checked.

Just as an aside - don't know if you know but sugar stops any bleeding on the lips or in the mouth. Whenever my daughter has been bleeding in this area I have given her a teaspoon of sugar to stop the bleeding.

my dh wouldn't have come unless I asked him to

yep, but like wombat said....it would have been nicer.

twigg if a child splits a lip give them a spoonful of sugar it will stop the bleeding.

Hope she is ok now.

i would have gone

if it had been the other way round.

thanks all

bleeding stopped but will remember sugar for next time

I think that's the problem Talc .. nothing would have stopped me going to check if it had been other way round

hmmmm...dh says he would have gone...

not sure i believe him though!

This is women from mars and men from venus stuff. If you wanted your child to fetch DH AND an ice pack you should have asked for both. I suspect most men would assume that if they were needed they would be asked - because this is how they deal with things. But no you are not being unreasonable .

Hmmmmmmm......My DH is more panicky than me over these things so he would have come running....but then I dont know the tempramtent of your DH...it might be that he has complete confindence in you in dealing with these situations.

I would, yes. Mine probably wouldn't though.

Depends on what dh was doing at the time.
If watching tv or leisure then no yanbu.
If sleeping from night shift or other chores etc then yabu iyswim.

All the best to your dd.