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To think being an adult is crap?

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Requestingatimemachine · 09/07/2021 15:56

Just that…
All the bills, commitments, responsibilities, cleaning, making dinner, deciding what to have for dinner..and so it goes 😩
Maybe it’s since I had a child, I can’t remember feeling like this before, I used fo feel so free, without all this ‘Stuff’

Anyone else feel the same?

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PocketSize · 09/07/2021 15:56

Yessss 🥺

Tal45 · 09/07/2021 15:59

Young children need a lot of looking after, it does get easier as they get older though.

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Requestingatimemachine · 09/07/2021 15:59

@PocketSize Is it having kids? I can’t remember it being that heavy before, still a pain working etc and paying bills, but there’s so much stuff, and not much is enjoyable 🙈

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Requestingatimemachine · 09/07/2021 16:00

@Tal45 It must be that..have an almost 3 year old

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PocketSize · 09/07/2021 16:05

@Requestingatimemachine yes I think so. It's exhausting being responsible for 2 little people 24/7 .. trying to make the right decisions for everyone all the time.. I look at them sometimes and wish I was 4 again .. not a care in a world.

RainbowChameleon · 09/07/2021 16:07

Yanbu.

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Requestingatimemachine · 09/07/2021 16:16

@PocketSize Same…not 4, but a teen maybe

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Requestingatimemachine · 09/07/2021 16:25

Just so many chores..I have to bring the washing in and sort dinner..I really don’t feel like doing anything..! I really just want to lie here on the sofa and listen to music and,,think, toddler won’t allow that

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YouDoIDo · 09/07/2021 16:29

Yes I feel the same. I had my first at 18 so I went from care free living at home all the money I earned was mine to minge deep in bills and shitty nappies 😭 im now in my 30s and it only seems to be getting worse (runs to the fridge for comfort food 😁)

CookPassBabtridge · 09/07/2021 16:30

Only just starting to enjoy life again now they are 4 and 7, there's more freedom.

claralara42 · 09/07/2021 16:44

@Requestingatimemachine

Just that… All the bills, commitments, responsibilities, cleaning, making dinner, deciding what to have for dinner..and so it goes 😩 Maybe it’s since I had a child, I can’t remember feeling like this before, I used fo feel so free, without all this ‘Stuff’

Anyone else feel the same?

You had all of those same commitments before you had children.

Being an adult is great. No-one to tell you what to do, when to eat, what to eat, when to go to bed. You can drink and go out and drive (not all at once). It's a hell of a lot better than being a kid, anyway

Viviennemary · 09/07/2021 16:47

I don't agree. Couldn't bear being a child at the mercy of other folks decisions.

MoonbeamSprinkles · 09/07/2021 16:51

I hated hated being a child and I love being an adult.

However I made a decision not to have children as I spent most of my childhood being a carer for my parents.

I thinks it’s the drudgery of caring responsibilities rather than adulthood.

Meruem · 09/07/2021 17:04

I had a terrible childhood so I love being an adult. Ok the boring parts like having to earn money and pay bills isn’t so good, but the rest I love. Anything I want (within reason) I can have, even if I have to save for a while. I have plenty of food to eat (which wasn’t the case as a child). If I don’t want to do a particular chore then I don’t. Ok I need to do it eventually but at some point I will be in the mood. Go to bed when I want, get up when I want (again within reason because of work!). I have 2 cats because I wanted them.

My DC are adults now but I was pretty flexible when they were young. I didn’t stress over things much. Some pressures we just impose on ourselves, like having to have a spotless house. I don’t like things dirty but I don’t think everything has to be done all the time and immediately. If I’d rather relax and read a book then I do!

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Requestingatimemachine · 09/07/2021 17:35

@claralara42 I did, but I also had a break..every evening, all weekend if I wanted. My bills were paid, my job was done..I could get blind drunk, get takeouts every night if I wanted, I didn’t tbf, but I didn’t have to plan meals, cook and wash up 3 x per day etc etc. Dp and I would just grab whatever on the way home ir a sandwich if we cba or whatever. It’s so very much heavier now!

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Requestingatimemachine · 09/07/2021 17:36

@CookPassBabtridge So, around 4 you’d say it gets more back to the way it was…?

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cadburyegg · 09/07/2021 20:21

@CookPassBabtridge

Only just starting to enjoy life again now they are 4 and 7, there's more freedom.
Ooh I needed to hear this, my 2 will be 4 and 7 next year 😁😁
CrouchEndTiger12 · 09/07/2021 20:22

Being an adult isn't crap I found. Having kids is crap.

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Requestingatimemachine · 09/07/2021 20:26

@CrouchEndTiger12 😬Is that what it is

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Boopeedoop · 09/07/2021 20:34

I hate every minute of it.

applesarethebest · 09/07/2021 21:28

@CookPassBabtridge ...as someone struggling with a 3 month old, please tell me you mean things get easier when they are 4 and 7 months old 😅

Taliskerskye · 09/07/2021 21:30

If you’re sharing all shite chores 50/50 it shouldn’t be that crap
Washing up 3x per day. Really

Schmoana · 09/07/2021 21:49

Mine are 18 and 15 and it still feels the same. I’m desperate for it to end

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Requestingatimemachine · 09/07/2021 21:51

@Taliskerskye I’m at home with her whilst she’s little, I have no choice as the only one in the house 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Requestingatimemachine · 09/07/2021 21:52

@Schmoana For motherhood to end?

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