To think being an adult is crap?

[Requestingatimemachine]

Just that…
All the bills, commitments, responsibilities, cleaning, making dinner, deciding what to have for dinner..and so it goes 😩
Maybe it’s since I had a child, I can’t remember feeling like this before, I used fo feel so free, without all this ‘Stuff’

Anyone else feel the same?

I love being an adult.

I had a dysfunctional childhood though and my parents did not make the best decisions for me, I constantly felt like I had no control over my life. That's why I like being an adult, all my decisions are mine now and no one else's.

Even my 6YO told me today that life is a bit rubbish after 30. I'm in my 40s BTW.

My 8YO was moaning about how hard his life is. Having to go to school everyday. How mean I was making him go. That went down well with me and my PMT.

In my view, being an adult is great fun.

Have cold curry for breakfast? Whose going to stop you?

Go out with mates in an afternoon? And have a little too much wine? Why not?

After all, the kids can always come and pick you up.

No-one can tell you what to do it now to do it. Result!

Agreed, there's a reason the ultra rich outsource all of it

Yes, it is relentless

I remember being a child and thinking that I didn't want to become an adult. It all just seemed so tedious.

I like being an adult, love my kids, hate parenting. You’re right it’s so horribly heavy and suffocating, the never ending laundry, cleaning, cooking etc. Constantly elbow deep in shitty nappies, three kids with SEN so there’s constant needs to be met, I’m a single parent and my ex is ‘figuring out who he is’ so I’m going it alone for now.

I’ve had enough, I’m not happy and I don’t remember being happy since before I had children. I didn’t think it would be this hard.

Motherhood never ends. I was saying this to DH earlier but even when they’re adults you’ll find yourself worrying and stressing about them, that responsibility never ever goes away. I think it’s that responsibility and level of commitment that can be suffocating rather than adulthood.

@Requestingatimemachine
So you’re a single mother, well then things are obviously going to be a lot harder. I would prioritise things and let others go. You can’t do it all when you’re on your own.

Being an adult is great. No one to tell me what to do. yes I have to work and look after my dc but I love my children and my job. Hard work but worth it I reckon.

I'm sat on the sofa with g&t eating cheese and biscuits with popcorn. Watching new Virgin River. This is the life. Can't do this if you're a child!!

Mine are 10 and 14. It's still drudgery and stuff I'd rather not do, intermingled with the dreadful feeling that the self sacrifice is in no way worth it.
At least when they are 0-2 or 3, you gave bonding hormones fuelling your caring.

But that wears off, and then it can feel like a kind of modern day slavery.

Could be worse. You could have been a widow trying to look after 3 children under 6 trying to feed them with a ration book if you were your age 60 years ago. Perspective

Requestingatimemachine

I’m desperate for the feeling of being a skivvy to end. I’m sick of asking for jobs to be done, and thinking it’s easier to do them myself. I’m sick of being the only one that sorts things out. Single mum for over 10 years, for a couple of years being a carer for parents and always working full time. I’m looking forward to living alone and doing what I want when I want, eating what I want for tea, knowing that any mess is mine, and when I tidy it’ll stay tidy. Just paying for myself when going out for meals and on holiday not three of us. Sorry for the rant it’s been a long week and I’ve given up wine

There are many benefits to being an adult

A few posters quoted me so just following up! Now they are 4 and 7 they sleep all through the night, I leave the ipads for them to wake up to in their bedroom so I can lie in, the physical stuff is over.. the constant carrying, holding, all the equipment you need with little ones.. they eat well, they understand everything so I can reason with them etc. I can leave them with DP without feeling guilty as they are easy to entertain now, so I can go out with friends etc. I no longer give my body and brain to them completely so I have felt myself come back more and more. They follow instruction and don't run off randomly. This is just my experience and I know others don't feel like this. I just found the first 3ish years of each of their lives totally consuming and drudgery as others have said, really hard work.. giving every little scrap of yourself. It's been so good to come out the other side.

Really?!?! This is old news surely 🤣

@Taliskerskye Sorry, no, not a single mum, Dp works for 12 plus hours per day

@Suzi888 I know 🤣 have just been particularly feeling it recently

You know when you’re a kid and you’re coming home from a trip and you’re just so tired you can hardly cope and you want your dad to carry you in from the car? That’s how I feel as an adult. So knackered the whole time and just want the grown ups to cope!

The thing that gets me is the food! Every single day I have to make breakfast lunch and dinner, decide what I want, buy the stuff, cook it and then clean up after....repeat day after day. I know every one does it and it's such a first world problem but I just hate it

Op I sincerely suggest stopping at 1 dc because the more you have the harder it gets, and you are absolutely nbu as far as I'm concerned, life Is just easier pre dc, how can it not be

@Ifonlyidknownthen How many do you have?

I adore my Dd, I really do, it’s just a very different life

Totally disagree! I love being an adult. My abiding memory of childhood is wanting to do things and not being allowed.

Now I can eat what I want, sleep when I want, go where I want etc. Sure I have to work and pay bills but when you're a kid you have school and all your problems seem like huge issues anyway even if they're not.

All these men who work 12 hours a day!!

Sorry love. Being an adult is fine. Being stuck with a dick isn’t
If he’s genuinely working 12 hours a day, his job must be well paid. Get a cleaner.

@Taliskerskye Eh? He’s in manual labour, early starts, not a dick, wouldn’t really be that fair to be home all day and then wait for him to get home and make dinner and clean up. I may aswell do it, but it’s all boring as hell, isn’t it