Blue hair for my 9 year old?

[Kentuki]

DS has said he wants blue hair over the summer. I can’t see an issue, it will all be grown out by September or can be shaved off if necessary.

I generally try to live by “say yes to whatever you can, but when you say no, mean it”.

DH isn’t keen as he sort of kicks against anything unexpected like this, but essentially he will let me decide (and he will be the one doing the dye job).

It’s fine isn’t it? I’m not missing anything but saying go ahead?

Yabu - no blue hair
Yanbu - blue hair summer

@BlackberrySky

Based on my experience with blue hair dye and my own DS, be prepared for disappointment if his hair is mid brown or darker. We used a semi permanent one, he was so excited at its blue-ness on application, only to find it didn't show up on his medium brown hair upon rinsing.

Oh, actually, this is a good point. I have dyed my hair every colour under the sun, and blue was the hardest to get to take. You really would have to bleach the hair first, which might not be the best idea for a child.

@Florencenotflo

If your dd has light hair, try crepe paper. There’s a post on the first page which shows my dd with purple hair that was done with crepe paper

It washes out easily and was simple to do

I'm with your husband. It looks awful.but then I think it looks chavvy if kids have lines shaved into their heads or patterns.

I like to see a child you looks groomed (not over groomed. Just neat hair cut, girls in dresses, or leggings and a pretty top, boys in shorts/ nice t shirt. No sports wear/ football shirt/ coloured/ shaved/ unbrushed hair.

@Kentuki

Thanks all and for recommendations!

He has mousy dark blonde so who knows if it will show up, I will warn him

@Nairobiblue that’s incredible I love it! What did he use?

I took him to my hairdresser as he has very dark hair and I wanted it to be done properly. Our attempt last year during lockdown was a very orange affair! 🤣

We did blue on my daughters blonde hair during lockdown and it was a nightmare to get out. It faded but it had a green tinge for months afterwards so it’s put me off doing hers again but for a boy that can cut it off I’d have no issue at all.

My ds14 has just bleached his to look like Phil Foden. I wasn’t bothered as boys hair grows out so quickly.

@Spanielstail

I'm with your husband. It looks awful.but then I think it looks chavvy if kids have lines shaved into their heads or patterns.

I like to see a child you looks groomed (not over groomed. Just neat hair cut, girls in dresses, or leggings and a pretty top, boys in shorts/ nice t shirt. No sports wear/ football shirt/ coloured/ shaved/ unbrushed hair.

I frankly couldn’t give a damn with what “you prefer”

Everyone has their own style

@Spanielstail

I'm with your husband. It looks awful.but then I think it looks chavvy if kids have lines shaved into their heads or patterns.

I like to see a child you looks groomed (not over groomed. Just neat hair cut, girls in dresses, or leggings and a pretty top, boys in shorts/ nice t shirt. No sports wear/ football shirt/ coloured/ shaved/ unbrushed hair.

I let me son be comfortable in the holidays! He’s plenty of time to wear ‘nice’ (nice is a very subjective word!) at school or work for years to come.

Do it! My DD used to go mad colours for summer hols all the time, my DS did it once. When DD went into form 6 she was permanently one colour after another as the school were very relaxed about it.

YABU for asking this question 🤣

of course you should do it!!

@Spanielstail

I'm with your husband. It looks awful.but then I think it looks chavvy if kids have lines shaved into their heads or patterns.

I like to see a child you looks groomed (not over groomed. Just neat hair cut, girls in dresses, or leggings and a pretty top, boys in shorts/ nice t shirt. No sports wear/ football shirt/ coloured/ shaved/ unbrushed hair.

My DS wears nice shorts and t-shirts. He has a lovely smart haircut. It just happens to be green.

Thankfully neither he or I give a fuck what randoms think.

Go for it! If his hair is dark blonde he may need to have the ends bleached first so it shows up, but so long as he’s happy to have it cut out (or you’re happy to pay for a professional to put it back to natural colour) before September I see no harm.

go for it....it really is a tiny rebellion at that age and they get to be "cool"

Just to add to the others though...blue and green really hold on to the hair so for anyone who wouldn't want to get it cut out don't go there!

When mine were that age I had some paint on stuff that worked really well, even on the boys' hair which is very dark mousey brown, also washed out brilliantly so they could ring the changes.

@Spanielstail

I'm with your husband. It looks awful.but then I think it looks chavvy if kids have lines shaved into their heads or patterns.

I like to see a child you looks groomed (not over groomed. Just neat hair cut, girls in dresses, or leggings and a pretty top, boys in shorts/ nice t shirt. No sports wear/ football shirt/ coloured/ shaved/ unbrushed hair.

So no room for self expression at all then ?

I’d let him do it. I wish DH would let me dye DS’s but he’d have a fit!

I'd let my DC do it. They've been allowed to choose their own hairstyles since they were 4. My aunt tried to talk DS2 out of getting a style like Kai from Ninjago before. I waited until she went home and said "you have whatever you want".

I agree with other saying you might need to bleach it first. You can just about see DS' natural colour at the front. For some reason that bit doesn't take beach or dye and stays stubbornly mousey. But if enough don't bleach it the green doesn't show up much.

@Spanielstail

I'm with your husband. It looks awful.but then I think it looks chavvy if kids have lines shaved into their heads or patterns.

I like to see a child you looks groomed (not over groomed. Just neat hair cut, girls in dresses, or leggings and a pretty top, boys in shorts/ nice t shirt. No sports wear/ football shirt/ coloured/ shaved/ unbrushed hair.

Gosh yes, it’s very important for girls and boys to look pretty and decorative for the enjoyment of adults.

And God-forbid your poor child looks like a member of the Working Classes!!

How do you bleach hair at home? Do you just get a blonde permanent colour or do you need to put special lightener on it? I'm clueless!

My ds did this at a similar age. By the time September came it was totally faded/washed out.

@Soubriquet

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I’ve heard good things about these. The colour looks nice and bright and it easily washes out. Might get some for my dc over the summer holidays

I was coming on to mention the coloured wax! I have seen another one on Insta, specially designed for Afro hair. If she has dark hair, it would save you having to bleach any hair first for the blue to take.

@Spanielstail

I'm with your husband. It looks awful.but then I think it looks chavvy if kids have lines shaved into their heads or patterns.

I like to see a child you looks groomed (not over groomed. Just neat hair cut, girls in dresses, or leggings and a pretty top, boys in shorts/ nice t shirt. No sports wear/ football shirt/ coloured/ shaved/ unbrushed hair.

Take it you don't have teenagers then?!

I'm in my 40s, and even back in my youth, I rarely wore dresses, had curly hair that my mum was too lazy to try and tame. And I bleached it every single summer in my teens. I've successfully managed to obtain a degree, hold down a job, marry and have two kids.

It's worth telling him that most blue dye fades to a kind of murky green, as long as he's OK with it ending up like that then go for it!

@Spanielstail

I'm with your husband. It looks awful.but then I think it looks chavvy if kids have lines shaved into their heads or patterns.

I like to see a child you looks groomed (not over groomed. Just neat hair cut, girls in dresses, or leggings and a pretty top, boys in shorts/ nice t shirt. No sports wear/ football shirt/ coloured/ shaved/ unbrushed hair.

You have some really messed up gender ideology going on there. Sounds like you're living in the 50's. Also nobody cares what you like to see.

@Spanielstail

I'm with your husband. It looks awful.but then I think it looks chavvy if kids have lines shaved into their heads or patterns.

I like to see a child you looks groomed (not over groomed. Just neat hair cut, girls in dresses, or leggings and a pretty top, boys in shorts/ nice t shirt. No sports wear/ football shirt/ coloured/ shaved/ unbrushed hair.

Good lord! I judge someone that uses the word "chavvy" about other people far more than I'd judge someone that let their child dye their hair. Children only need to be groomed when they're attending a concert, speech night, or wedding - they're children, not dolls.

Colourista by L’Oréal the tube one even worked over natural ginger hair and came out in a few washes.

@Spanielstail

I'm with your husband. It looks awful.but then I think it looks chavvy if kids have lines shaved into their heads or patterns.

I like to see a child you looks groomed (not over groomed. Just neat hair cut, girls in dresses, or leggings and a pretty top, boys in shorts/ nice t shirt. No sports wear/ football shirt/ coloured/ shaved/ unbrushed hair.

Girls in dresses? I’m in my fifties and since leaving school have never worn dresses or skirts as I think they belong in the 19th century. Thankfully, most schools have moved on and girls can wear trousers/shorts if they want to.

Is it comfortable and practical are the only important considerations when choosing clothes.