AIBU WWYD spoilt child

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I have to take my son (5 y/o) to an appointment tomorrow so booked for us to go to an exhibit afterwards that I thought he would love.

When I told him what it was his face dropped, and he threw a strop because he wanted to go somewhere else, said the one I had chosen was boring.

I told him I didn't have to take him and could just take him back to school instead. He has apologised, and said he wants to go now, but I think that's just to get out of school, his first reaction was boring so I can't see that he's changed his mind...

I told him I'll think about it. I don't want to upset him but he's kinda spoilt it with his behaviour so although I'd love to take him I just think I shouldn't.

So AIBU to not take him, and WWYD.

Thats great example fawnfrenchie.

@bloodyhell19

He's 5 and he apologised. Pick your battles.

Also I don't think having an opinion that X is boring is spoilt behaviour - that's how he feels? Reducing his opinions or contrary reactions (that you don't like) to spoilt behaviour is dangerous territory imo.

It's not only this one occasion that led me to use the word spoilt, if that's the impression I gave I apologise.

Children's brains are differently structured to adult brains. I think you are expected far too much from a young child.

He had a picture in his head and then discovered he wasn't getting it. Totally normal to be disappointed. He doesn't yet have a picture in his head of the lego exhibit.

Dc need lots of coaching about receiving gifts or surprises graciously, because what we are really asked them to do is to hold their initial reaction, and consider this in relation to other people's perspective, before letting the reaction out, or choosing to lie about how they feel. It is quite complex.

Then we just carry on with whatever. I don't hold grudges with him. So is that the same as forgiving? So for this example to actually forgive him do I have to take him to the exhibit?

Yes, as he has apologised, I would take him.