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Football dilemma

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Pumba3 · 08/07/2021 18:37

We are going on holiday (staycation) on Sat for 1 week and it’s great that England are in the final, however my husband wants to drive back to our house ( apparently the TV is bigger and he can watch it with his friends). Now whilst I don’t have an issue with this he has refused point blank to take his own car (we were planning on taking one car on holiday) and insists on leaving me at the cottage with four children under the age of 10yrs without any transport. Am I being unreasonable to insist that if he must watch the football at home he at least takes his own bloomin’ car!!

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AnneLovesGilbert · 08/07/2021 18:39

WTF. No, you’re not wrong to think he’s mad and say a hard not-a-fucking-chance.

newnortherner111 · 08/07/2021 18:40

It's not the leaving without transport it's the going back home.

I suggest if he goes home he does not come back until the end of the week to pick you up.

AnneLovesGilbert · 08/07/2021 18:43

I suggest if he goes home he does not come back until the end of the week to pick you up.

Maybe that’s what he’s hoping she’ll say…

AlmostSummer21 · 08/07/2021 18:43

Why doesn't he come, in his own car, on Monday?

You & the kids go Saturday?!

Or he could act like a Dad & watch it on the TV at the holiday place? It really doesn't matter if the TV isn't as 'good'🙄

Notaroadrunner · 08/07/2021 18:43

How far away is the holiday cottage from home? Why doesn't he just follow you down on Monday. Seems daft going for a night, then going home again the next day and coming back again Monday.

SummerHouse · 08/07/2021 18:43

So many questions...

How far is holiday place?
Is it in a central place or remote?
How long will he be?
WHY doesn't he want to take two cars?

YANBU. He wants to dick off so it should be on your terms. However this wouldn't bother me. I hate taking the car out and never (if I can help it) drive whilst on holiday.

FrownedUpon · 08/07/2021 18:45

I find it strange he’s doesn’t want to watch it with you & the children. Seems really immature.

FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 08/07/2021 18:47

@AlmostSummer21

Why doesn't he come, in his own car, on Monday?

You & the kids go Saturday?!

Or he could act like a Dad & watch it on the TV at the holiday place? It really doesn't matter if the TV isn't as 'good'🙄

This.

Pointless driving there one day and driving back the next.

I love football and it's going to be an historical match but I'm not sure I'd go to such lengths for the sake of the type of TV!

I strongly suspect he actually doesn't want 4 kids flapping around and that's what it's about?

happinessischocolate · 08/07/2021 18:48

@FrownedUpon

I find it strange he’s doesn’t want to watch it with you & the children. Seems really immature.
I agree, its the first time in 55 years England have been in the final and it'll probably be another 55 years before it happens again. Doesn't he want the kids to remember watching and hopefully celebrating with him?
HeddaGarbled · 08/07/2021 18:48

Selfish, selfish man. I hope you’ll be getting a full day off from childcare to do something you want to do, whilst you’re on holiday.

ErrolTheDragon · 08/07/2021 18:49

YANBU, buggering off just for a bigger screen and friends rather than family is poor. And leaving you with 4 young kids away from home without transport is completely unacceptable.

He needs to grow up and act like a responsible parent.

What would his reaction be if you tried to pull a stunt like that? Hmm

Chickychoccyegg · 08/07/2021 18:49

I would not under any circumstances agree to this, your dh is being very very unreasonable!!

PhoenixReincarnated · 08/07/2021 18:50

YANBU

Stormyequine · 08/07/2021 18:51

That is appalling of him! I totally understand him wanting to watch the football, but I can't see why that means he has to opt out of a family holiday. I love football but I can't see why he can't watch it with you and the DC.

HighlandCowbag · 08/07/2021 18:52

It's not the screen, it's watching it with his friends. Fair enough, I can understand that BUT he takes his own

SlipperyDippery · 08/07/2021 18:55

YANBU.

I assume there is a tv in the holiday property and there is no reason he can’t watch it there. He cannot possibly love football more than I do, and while I’d rather be watching in a fan park with pint in hand, I won’t be, because I have children, and they don’t disappear when a big game is on.

I could understand him wanting to find a way to watch it if he couldn’t watch it on the holiday, but to leave you potentially stranded to watch on a bigger tv? Ridiculous.

MadeOfStarStuff · 08/07/2021 18:58

You’re being extremely accommodating by being ok with him driving back leaving you on your own with all four kids. He’s being massively unreasonable to want to leave you and the kids with no transport to facilitate his jolly! How fucking selfish can one man be?!

Crazycakelady17 · 08/07/2021 19:01

No you need a car what happens if one of the children need to go to hospital etc

girlmom21 · 08/07/2021 19:03

Tell him to just meet you there on the Monday.

I'd be pissed if he was sacrificing a couple of days of a family holiday when he could just watch it there though.

MouldyPotato · 08/07/2021 19:03

Why doesn't he want to watch it as a family and make memories?

IcedSpice · 08/07/2021 19:05

He wants to drive back for 1 day/evening/night? Not for the whole time?

gobbynorthernbird · 08/07/2021 19:14

But a staycation means you're at home anyway so I can't see the issue.

Thirtyrock39 · 08/07/2021 19:16

I agree with the he comes separately on Monday plan
I'm not a massive football fan these days but I have been in the past and I can understand someone wanting to watch such a huge match with their mates, let's be honest the kids never really watch it- my husband has watched all the games at friends at sometimes takes one of the kids but the kids all just play - they're in and out but barely watch a kick of the match so I'm not sure they'll be 'making memories' ....Ironically I'm at home on my own when the final is on and dh is away with the kids at his parents not quite sure how that's happened

SummerHouse · 08/07/2021 19:16

@gobbynorthernbird

But a staycation means you're at home anyway so I can't see the issue.
Many people use "staycation" as a term to mean staying in this country i.e. not going abroad.
AndNobbyDancing · 08/07/2021 19:18

I was expecting to say yabu but no your not. I get why he wants to be home but leaving you without a car is wrong. He needs to take his own